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9/23 Weekly Thread

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Happy Sunday mamas! My brood is *finally* seeming to be on the mend....all still sick but my house no longer sounds as though the plague has arrived! Thank you all for your thoughts!

 

DeeGee-For my tinctures it depends on whether I am using fresh or dried herbs, for fresh I use a ratio of 1 part herbs to 2 parts solvent  and for dried herbs I use 1 part herbs to 5 parts solvent. You can make tinctures with 100 proof alcohol (vodka works well), or with vegetable glycerin (which doesn't extract the properties quite as well, but is a good choice if you are concerned about the alcohol), or with raw apple cider vinger which can be a good choice if you can get into the taste as the fermentation brings additional beneficial enzymes to the party...if you use ACV I usually warm it slightly before I add to help get things going. I add them to a glass container, like a canning jar, and seal it tightly, then I let it sit for anywhere from 4 weeks to 4 months depending on what I am using it for. Wild Cherry Bark when used in *VERY* small quantities can be really beneficial. It is commonly used in syrups meant to soothe coughs and bronchial tubes and has a gentle calming effect which stems from the very, very small amount of hydrogen cyanide found in the pits and barks of all stone fruits. Slippery Elm Bark is amazing and is a fantastic expectorant when taken internally (but is also great when ground and added to homemade baby powder) it has the ability to make mucuos 'dissolve' so to speak so that it can be passed through the intestines rather than with painful coughing, it can be used to treat bronchitis, bleeding of the lungs, and greatly soothes coughs as well. When I make tinctures using bark I grind up the bark chunks first in a coffee grinder and then add them as I would the dry herbs. I make my tinctures up and try to not run out of essential as the waiting time before they are usable is quite long, and then I combine the various types to suit my purpose...so with the lastest plague of yuck at my house I mixed up a tincture consisting of 1 part Wild Cherry Bark tincture to 12 parts Slippery Elm Bark tincture and then administered it.

 

For the syrups I use 4 oz total weight of whatever herbs I am using for every 1 quart of water, so I used 2 oz of Licorice Root which is awesome for treating coughs, colds, upper respiratory infections, and upset stomachs-the only real caveat is that you need to make sure you eat plenty of fruits and veggies as your body needs to replace potassium you expend processing the licorice root and I used 2 oz of Horehound is also great for treating respiratory infections and for helping with acidic reflux issues. I put the herbs and the water in a pot and boil until the liquid is reduced by half. I strain it then I add 1 cup of honey (we use raw but that's a personal choice, and any honey will work well!!) or 1 cup of maple syrup and heat it on low until it is just warmed through. I take it off the heat and bottle it in a canning jar and keep it in the fridge. I give my babes just about a teaspoon as needed and for adults the dose would be a tablespoon. You can definitely play around with what you add...onions are a a great expectorant and could be cooked along with the herbs or ginger...feel free to PM me if you have any questions!

 

Tropicana- I have been waking up in dead of night STARVING and like in tears about it, lol, so I have had to go out to the kitchen and eat at like 4 am eat.gif

 

Purplemamaturtle- I haven't been sleeping much but it hasn't bee for lack of wanting to lol, I am hoping now that everyone is getting better, good sleep is on my horizon, lol. I have tried the E.M.A.B. tea and it is nice, I make one that I drink as does everyone is my house when we have trouble which is just chamomille, lavender, valerian, and St. John's Wort (which works great when people aren't sick, lol)

 

Kateadelle-So sorry the BFW class isn't what you were looking for :( and CONGRATS joy.gif on your nuptials mama!!!! That is soooo epically awesome!!

 

Stegenrae-Happy Anniversary mama! love.gif That is great!

 

I hope all is well mamas! Phatchristy and Travelmumma-I hope you are both doing okay!!

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Darkblue So glad to hear that your family's health is on the upswing! 

 

Mamabeakley We are really disorganized about this whole wedding thing. I honestly think we both thought that no one would want to make the trip up to Portland, so we didn't really put a lot of planning into it. Oops! We really just wanted it to be super casual and fun, and just enjoy a weekend away with our closest friends in a city that we love, so I am sure it will work out fine. My best friend is going to help me cook a big meal and I ordered some pies from a place in Portland that we love. Our friend who owns the house everyone is staying at is also going to be marrying us. He has been a really good friend to both my partner and I and he just seemed like the natural person to do it.  Of course it isn't legal here or there, so it frees us up to have anyone perform the ceremony, which is kind of nice in this case. I found a really simple maternity wedding-ish dress on Etsy that I am going to wear (http://www.etsy.com/listing/106769052/maternity-romance-wedding-dress), but DP still has not figured out her outfit. I am usually more of a planner, but I think all of my planning energy has been sucked up by planning for the baby! 

 

In other news: We had our second BFW class and it was slightly better this time around. We did leave a little early to avoid the part where we all sing a song to our babies! Funny, I sing to Jude all of the time, but something about doing it in a room full of near-strangers feels not-right to me. It's kind of like sharing something really private, I guess.  

 

I have not been to a baby shower in over 4 years, but suddenly I have been invited to a ton of them. I have 5 of them to go to over the next 2 months! Craziness. When it rains it pours, I guess.

 

I also got an email from a cousin who lives about an hour from here asking when I am having my baby shower and telling me that she wants to come. This was a little shocking because this part of my family are super conservative christians who, though they love me, I am sure don't approve of my life. We aren't having a traditional baby shower at all - we are having a party at a karaoke bar that will hopefully not resemble anything like any baby shower I have ever been to - and I am sure she would just be completely uncomfortable attending. My mom says I should just lie and say I am not having one, but I would hate for her to see pictures or something online and then feel left out. Ugh.

 

Hope all of you mamas are enjoying an outstanding weekend!

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kateadelle--first, congrats. that weekend with friends kind of thing sounds wonderful! fwiw, I don't think you'd be lying if you told your cousin that you're not really having a shower, just getting together with friends at a karaoke place to celebrate. It probably wouldn't be something she'd be comfortable attending if it's not the run-of-the-mill vanilla baby shower, yk? And if she does try to make it, then maybe she's more open-minded that the rest of that side of your family, and you'll be pleasantly surprised? (gosh, that all sounds WAY too Pollyanna to have come from me...)

 

darkblue--glad you all are on the upswing! (thanks for starting this week's thread)

 

travelmumma--now that darkblue mentioned it, I HAVE awoken in the middle of the night, painfully/pathetically starving, lol. I guess that, in my bleary, exhausted state, I couldn't remember that. I've been *trying* to move to whole, real foods rather than high carb junk, but even though my appetite itself has returned, my appetite for things like salad and such certainly has NOT. :/ It kind of makes me feel almost gaggy just thinking of it now.

 

AFM, I'm officially, officially in 3rd trimester, as of yesterday. Because of the stupid way of counting pgcy weeks from LMP instead of actual pregnancy, I am in the camp that says 27 weeks is the cutoff, but whatevs. I'm 28w1d today. And right on cue the past week or so, my body has started racking up the aches, too! I kicked the soccer ball back and forth (half-assed) for about 30 min with my younger son while we were at my older son's practice last Thursday, and HOLY CRAP, I had the worst leg cramps since my high school basketball days that night! Because it was from kicking soccer-style, it was a weird part of my leg, too, so I couldn't get it to go away very easily. Oh--and that thing from last week or the week before about my heartburn going away? I take that back. :sigh:

 

One of my older son's teammates broke his arm in the soccer game they played yesterday, and even needs surgery tomorrow to get some screws in. For some reason, it's really unsettling to me (and my older son). DS1 is constantly doing dangerous stuff, and either doesn't get hurt, or only gets bumps and bruises--we call him "Unbreakable," like the Bruce Willis character/movie. But the little boy whose arm was broken was much the same way, and I guess now I'm just being reminded of how lucky we've been so far. (I've also considered getting him a mouth guard--because of something my dentist said last week when I had my filling fixed about soccer being dangerous for teeth injuries. I told her soccer was our compromise down from tackle football, so not to get too preachy. Do you think asking my 7yo to wear a mouth guard is crazy? I don't want to put him in bubble wrap or anything, yk? The kid is just super-physical.) 

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Hi Mummas

 

Getting in early this week. Gahh have we really just been through another week of pregnancy (with no sleep)????? craziness!

 

KateAdelle- CONGRATULATIONS on your upcoming wedding! :) What a beautiful joy! And such a beautiful time to celebrate love!!! Exciting! Pictures please lo!!!

 

Rae- That sounds really horrible about your sons friend! I hope the surgery goes well! I had surgery on my arm when I was younger due to a bad break too, so sending healing vibes to him and his family xxxx

 

DarkBlue- Glad everyone there looks like they are on the mend! DH has been sick this last week and I struggled looking after him, so I have no idea how you manage it with a whole tribe!!! Super Woman!!!

 

AFM- Things here are really up and down. Last week the doc gave me some potentially very bad news. Baby is fine, but we dont know if I am... I was meant to have another appt this morning to get some blood results back and chat "options" but due to lack of sleep and essays due today, I have chickened out and am not going.. I know. Its not a great decision, but its too much to deal with right now. Once this essay is out of the way I will go and deal with the doctor grrrr....

Good things that have been happening?- My friend moved out :) Where did that 6 weeks go? Baby is kicking up a storm! And our apple tree has just started blossoming!! Looks like baby is just around the corner!!!!! :))))))))))))))))

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AFM- Things here are really up and down. Last week the doc gave me some potentially very bad news. Baby is fine, but we dont know if I am... I was meant to have another appt this morning to get some blood results back and chat "options" but due to lack of sleep and essays due today, I have chickened out and am not going.. I know. Its not a great decision, but its too much to deal with right now. Once this essay is out of the way I will go and deal with the doctor grrrr....

Good things that have been happening?- My friend moved out :) Where did that 6 weeks go? Baby is kicking up a storm! And our apple tree has just started blossoming!! Looks like baby is just around the corner!!!!! :))))))))))))))))

Mama, I am soooooooo happy to hear from you!! I completely understand your want/need of privacy, nevertheless I hope all is/will be well. You are ever in my thoughts. I am super glad to hear that Albi is doing well! And woohoo for your friend moving out and you getting your mama bear cave back :) We are in our third trimester mama, where on earth did all the time go??!! Hang in there and know you're amazingly strong. Good luck with your essay, I know that I felt ten million times better once I finished my last paper and didn't have a proverbial monkey on my back, lol. Be well mama!!! xoxoxo

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Woohoo, new week. Without any links on the old thread pointing me to the new thread, I know that there will probably be a week at some point that I'll just totally skip, lol.
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HI mamas! I can't believe we are in another week - and where the HECK did September go???? CRAZY how fast time is flying!

 

We had a WONDERFUL Harvest party on Saturday - drakblue, thank you for your phone message - I'm so sorry your brood has been sick, so glad you are all feeling better, and bummed we once again did not get to meet! We had people here from 2-midnight! I went to bed at 10, along with many of the kids. I was exhausted the next day, but it was a lovely lazy Sunday. I did wake up middle of the night after the party with a leg cramp so bad I screamed & then cried... and could barely walk on it Sunday morning :( But the wonderful people, food, & live music was worth it all - I especially enjoyed the hour in the yurt with kids playing with glow sticks, people making music, and the stars shining above!

 

Kate - congrats on your wedding! Awesome news! Yes, please do share a picture or two!!!

 

Travelmumma - I hope all is well with you :( PLease share when you are ready so we can all support you in any way possible.

 

Stegan - soccer can be dangerous, bu with 7 year olds, I wouldn't worry about it too much. My DS2 is playing competitive, with 11-12 year olds (and he's only 10 still!) - Saturday's game we had two bad injuries, one massive goose egg on the head, and one sprained ankle. Both boys are doing fine (nothing as bad as a broken arm - yikes!), but it is scary & a good reminder that they are out there doing something that can be dangerous!

 

This is the week I am supposed to find out about the huge grant I wrote awhile back. I feel like I keep holding my breath (every time the phone rings, or I check my email); need to keep reminding myself to just be patient. We did have a dove fly into the school today, which we all decided was a good omen. I caught her in a sweater from the lost & found bin, then she sat on the porch & let all the kids pet her for about 10 minutes before she flew off!  I blogged about it with some pics at segolilyjournal.blogspot.com for anyone interested.

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Segolily-I am so glad that you had an amazing party and I was really bummed to not get to meet you and your family in person...we'll have to keep trying!! That was perhaps the most ironic thing, as I was the only one who wasn't sick, lol. I am keeping my fingers and toes corssed for you about that grant mama!!! Annnnnd what a neat experience with the dove-definitely a good omen IMHO!!

 

Stegen-I am so grateful that presently contact sports are not a part of my life as I think it would worry me to no end!!

 

Kate- Again congrats mama! On the note about your not-baby shower, I think that you are under no obligation to endure anything unpleasant or uncomfortable...and I don't think that it is *technically* dishonest to say something along the lines of what Stegenrae suggested. All in all I hope that you have an awesome time at your karaoke~celebrating Jude party :)

 

AFM-It is FINALLY raining!!!!!!!!! And I am beyond jazzed. Seriously, as a girl from the east coast, all this desert and dry sky nonsense has been driving me up the proverbial wall, lol. So I am drinking chai and eating molasses butterscotch cookies pretending that a serious thunderstorm is headed my way :) Hope all is well with you mamas, travelmumma and phatchristy, I'm worried about you both!! Hang in there!!

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I just got the results of my labwork from my appointment on Wednesday. They redid my TSH since it was a little off at my first visit, and that is normal. My iron was 12.6, which is awesome for me, but my glucose was 146. The cutoff to pass the one-hour test is 130, so I get to take the three-hour test next week.
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YES, DARKBLUE - IT IS RAINING - AND EVEN SNOWING in some places!!!! Like the top of Snowbird :) NOW it really feels like fall - had my first chai of the season yesterday.

 

Harmony - glad your iron is looking well; sorry to hear about the glucose test. I have taken so many of those - mostly not while pregnant - and they all suck...

 

I have had almost NO sleep - stressful conversation with the 'quad' last night, baby on my bladder all night long, and having bad heart palpatations, too - I used to get these all the time, they went away after I got a cancerous tumor removed from my jaw (under one of the teeth connected to heart energy!). That kept me worrying - what if my heart stops working during labor, blah blah blah, then I had horrible dreams about it when I did sleep... so today I am a) going to buy myself some pants with my financial aid money that just came in, cause it's cold & I have no pants lol, b) going to take a VERY long nap, and c) going to create some affirmations around my heart & labor/birth.

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Hi everyone -

 

Wow lots going on. I missed the last part of last week's thread and didn't go back and read it. I feel like I missed some big things though. I'll have to go back later.

 

Kate - congrats, that is so exciting! I live in Portland, I agree it is a great place to get married. Where are you getting the pies from? Random Order? They're my favorite - just a few blocks from where we live. I think you're just visiting Portland? Where do you live (clearly it has come up before, but I missed it). As for the karoke shower and your cousin. Personally, I'd just be honest. Say you're not having a shower and will be going out to karoke with friends - and she's welcome to join if she wants. I'm sure she will decline if she's not comfortable and maybe she'll surprise you!

 

Travelmumma - hugs to you. Glad you have your space back and good luck on the essay. I'm sending good thoughts for your test results, maybe it's not so bad? The doc did mention options... (sorry there's the polyana in me...)

 

Darkblue - glad you're family is on the mend. That must be a lot of work and craziness getting them all healthy! Do you take the licorice syrup when you're pregnant? I had heard to avoid licorice during pregnancy...

 

Sego - Sounds like a great harvest party - sorry on the stress/no sleep/ heart palpitations. The no sleep really makes things hard for me. I'm pulling for you on the grant, I hope you get it!

 

Harmony - sorry about the glucose! I've heard that 3 hour test can be rough. Good luck! You know the 1 hr test is a screen so false positives are not uncommon. But gestational diabetes is generally very treatable with diet and exercise.

 

I'm doing ok - had a bout of really intense contractions sunday afternoon/eve. It really scared me. But after drinking water and eating they slowed. But there was a period where I had 4 in 30 minutes! That night I had a dream that I started spotting and went into early labor. Then yesterday we heard that my husband's cousin was killed in a car accident. I barely know her, but it really upset me. I think it is just the reminder that people can just suddenly die is really upsetting and especially emotional in my pregnant state. Last night in bed, I was and snuggling with hubs, but couldn't get comfortable and started crying - but I really think it was about the death. Then several bouts of insomnia last night and this morning a horrible dream where hubs went for a hike and never came back - like he ran away from me. It was really upsetting. I told him when he got up and he assured me he's never running away and I know it was a dream...

 

On a side note, I started knitting a blanket for my baby (I've been doing a lot of crafting for my friend's babies) - I'm really excited about it. http://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/stars-flowers-and-children-english-version. I am a really experienced knitter and this pattern is difficult. I keep having to tear it out. I hope it turns out and that I finish it before the baby comes!

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lulu - Yes, we are getting our pies from Random Order! It is one of our favorite places in Portland. We live in Oakland for now. Dp really, really wants to be in Portland. Actually, she would be there now if she hadn't met me. I am not at all opposed to Portland, but I would need to have a job making as much as I do now since I am the primary breadwinner. Of course, we are not going anywhere until well after this baby is born!.... So sorry about the contractions! That must have been really scary! I still have periodic spotting thanks to my low-lying placenta, and every time it happens, I am absolutely convinced that it is a going to lead to pre-term labor!

 

Glad some of you are getting some fall-like weather! We are entering our traditional string of warm sunny days that seem to arrive every September/October.

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lulu-Yikes about the contractions mama! glad you're feeling better! As for the licorice root-it can mimic the effects of estrogen and therefore *could* induce labor early....I personally have not had it be an issue as I take it when I need to in small quantities-but I am in no way recommending that you do the same, if you know what I mean. In any case, I highly recommend having it on hand once you're not pregnant as it is super handy during cold season.

 

kate-Portland sounds great, I hope you and your partner get to end up where you dream of mama!

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Glad some of you are getting some fall-like weather! We are entering our traditional string of warm sunny days that seem to arrive every September/October.

Oh, having grown up in the bay area that quote makes me so homesick....I LOVED the indian summers in the fall. All week I have been thinking about that Octoberfest that they do out on the peninsula and how it was always just warm and sunny and awesome....sigh.

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 I especially enjoyed the hour in the yurt with kids playing with glow sticks, people making music, and the stars shining above!

 

 

Thanks for that visual...sounds so beautiful....I loves kids with glow sticks. orngbiggrin.gif

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Woohoo, new week. Without any links on the old thread pointing me to the new thread, I know that there will probably be a week at some point that I'll just totally skip, lol.

That is a really good idea. We do need to link the last week's thread. I will start doing that if I am on here on a Sunday.

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Happy Sunday mamas! My brood is *finally* seeming to be on the mend....all still sick but my house no longer sounds as though the plague has arrived! Thank you all for your thoughts!

 

 

 

Tropicana- I have been waking up in dead of night STARVING and like in tears about it, lol, so I have had to go out to the kitchen and eat at like 4 am eat.gif

 

 

Glad your family is on the mend!!!
So glad to know I am not alone in the insane 24-hour eating thing! 

 

AFM, I am just growing a baby over here! Still eating so much...the scale just keeps going up. I am going to gain more this time than my other pregnancies...I can just feel it. shrug.gif Oh well. I was telling DH this may end up being my first pregnancy where I can't see my feet by the end. With my last pregnancy I could still paint my toe nails at 42 weeks. Yesterday I had to bend over to put on the first pair of socks of the season ( I am a flip flop girl) and my belly was so in my way...at 29 weeks!!!! ACK!! I think I will just blame it on placenta placement in the womb.
Oh, and I finally started ordering some things I am going to need for birthing day....starting to feel real now!! biggrinbounce.gif
 

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Nother tough week here, I'm afraid.  I'm getting over the cold my kids had last week, but I'm still exhausted and cranky and overwhelmed.  I was telling DH a while ago that it's actually really really hard for me to be unable to get up and do since one of the most effective ways for me to deal with anxiety or stress is to clean, organize, get things done - even if they are unrelated to what I'm anxious or stressed about.  And I just can't.  Keeping up with my kids and work is taking all the energy I have most of the time.  And DH is leaving for 3 days of work away again tonight.  Wahhhh.  On the other hand, nothing dreadful is wrong, and that's a good thing.

 

lulubikes - I've had some humdingers of dreams while pg, including this time.  One of the most interesting to me this time was one in which DH wasn't answering his phone when I needed to talk to him.  This is actually a recurrent anxiety dream for me, and stems from the fact that sometimes, in fact, he doesn't answer his phone - I tend to have the dream, though, whenever I'm feeling disconnected from him and it lets me know I need to work on connecting more intentionally.  However, this time when I woke up I knew that the dream wasn't really about DH this time at all - it was about my connection to the spirit and the universe (god as I understand it.)  Powerful, but weird.

 

Segolily -  sleep is really hit and miss for me it seems like.  In the past few days I've had a night where I woke up every 1 - 1.5 hours all night (NOT good) and one where I woke up at 12:30 and couldn't go back to sleep because DH wasn't home (he was at work and I knew that and I knew he would be home soon and I still couldn't go back to sleep) and one where I only got up to pee TWICE (unspeakably wonderful.)  Hope you get some better sleep soon!

 

Harmony - what do you want to do if your 3-hour test has a bad result?  I haven't tested at all the last two pregnancies because I knew a) I would probably fail the test and b) I was already eating in a way that was keeping my sugars in a good range, and wouldn't change anything if I had an official GD diagnosis.  I.e., I probably would 'get GD' if I ate a typical american diet, but I don't because it makes me feel terrible.  But for some people a test result would actually prompt some changes, so I can understand that it can be a useful thing to do (or something some care providers require . . . .

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Hi there mummas,

 

Sorry i have been so vague and crap lately. Things here are wonky to say the least.

Last week i went to the doc complaining of migraines and a few other things that are very normal for me... Long story short he wound up doing tests to see if i have two types of rare cancer...

I was meant to have my follow up appt on monday, but chickened out and didnt go, then last night got a call from the Drs assistant saying "We just recieved some resuts that we can not discuss over the phone. We need to see you asap. Can you come in tomorrow?"

 

So thats where we are at.

Lots of tears and tantrums have followed. DH deals with things in a completely different way to me which makes it harder. He likes to pretend that its all gonna be ok or that it doesnt exist. Im the opposite. I feel every possible emotion then finda way of moving through it.... It sometimes feels like he doesnt care because we deal so differently. EG I will say "Im scared" and he will say "Its going to be alright". I feel that a better response would be "I know. Its a scary things, but we will all be there every step of the way no matter the results." You know??

 

Anyway I have an appt with the doctor today.. I have gotten up early to write down questions to ask, but my mind is blank and my chest is so heavy filled with grief.....

 

Im sorry this is such a down post. It does make it a little better to write it out...

xxxxxxx

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Harmony - what do you want to do if your 3-hour test has a bad result?  I haven't tested at all the last two pregnancies because I knew a) I would probably fail the test and b) I was already eating in a way that was keeping my sugars in a good range, and wouldn't change anything if I had an official GD diagnosis.  I.e., I probably would 'get GD' if I ate a typical american diet, but I don't because it makes me feel terrible.  But for some people a test result would actually prompt some changes, so I can understand that it can be a useful thing to do (or something some care providers require . . . .
I would likely just have to modify my diet from now until the end of the pregnancy. Some mamas need to also take insulin, but with my one-hour results, I'm fairly confident that I'll pass the three-hour test. The one-hour test is just a screen, anyway.

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Hi there mummas,

Sorry i have been so vague and crap lately. Things here are wonky to say the least.
Oh, hug.gif Sorry your DH isn't giving you the right kinds of support right now. I hope whatever it is, is something easily treatable.
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Travelmumma- I am praying for you with every fiber of my being mama!!! I am so incredibly sorry that you are having to deal with this and I wish a million times over that there was some magical thing I could say or do to make this better for you. You are SO brave and SO strong. Please hang in there!! I am sending you every imaginable positive vibe and all the love in the world! I hope that your doctor's appointment goes well! hug.gif

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Anyway I have an appt with the doctor today.. I have gotten up early to write down questions to ask, but my mind is blank and my chest is so heavy filled with grief.....

 

 

Update us as soon as you are ready and please know that all of us are here sending prayers, positive thoughts, and hugs your way.  grouphug.gif

 

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 DH deals with things in a completely different way to me which makes it harder. He likes to pretend that its all gonna be ok or that it doesnt exist. Im the opposite. I feel every possible emotion then finda way of moving through it.... It sometimes feels like he doesnt care because we deal so differently. EG I will say "Im scared" and he will say "Its going to be alright". I feel that a better response would be "I know. Its a scary things, but we will all be there every step of the way no matter the results." You know??

 

hug2.gif Having been married for 12 years now I can say this sounds like a typical male/female relationship. My DH always says it was cruel that God created us so different with such different emotions yet so attracted to each other...shrug.gif

It does make these stressful situations so much harder though. I have found that if I want the "I know, this is scary" kind of response I am better off with talking to a close female friend....just one of those quirks of life I guess.

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Travelmumma - thinking of you and sending light your way. Take some deep breaths and be kind to yourself.

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