My midwifes fully expected me to have my baby by now. I would be talking to them about it right now but they haven't called me back and i am getting so incredibly frustrated. Apparently my baby's head is so low that my cervix is hidden behind it. It needs to come down and around and under his head, right? Does anyone know if maybe that's why labour hasn't started yet? My cervix is soft and thinning just fine since weeks ago, and his head is RIGHT THERE. Why am i not going into labour? I'm about ready to check myself into the loony bin. My belly just cannot grow anymore. I have significant abdominal separation and now i'm getting scared about after birth hemorage and hernia. If anybody can help with any insight as to why i'm not going into labour, i'd really appreciate it!!!
Sorry you are so frustrated Mittens. Have you looked into belly binding or a belly support? That may give you some comfort and help with baby's position too. Sending labour vibes your way.
(my personal opinion is that care providers should never ever predict anything about when a baby will arrive unless they are actually holding the head at the time. lol. It gets our hopes up too high!)
Mittens, it sounds like you are so ready! In my very limited experience, even a soft and open cervix and a very low baby don't mean that birth is imminent. Everyone is different of course, but I was fully effaced, 2-4 cm dilated, and the MW could feel the baby's head right there for weeks, seriously a month, before I went into labor. My MW kept telling me it would be soon and it never was, until it was. Not what you want to hear, I'm sure.
Sorry to hear about how uncomfortable you are. I hope you can get in touch with your midwives soon for some reassurance or ideas on getting things started or getting more comfortable! I read about a woman who didn't have a binder so she tightly wrapped a ring sling around her belly in her final uncomfortable days with abdominal separation and it helped her. Not the most glamorous look, but hey :)
One positive thing though, having the baby that low for that long meant that the pressure of my pelvis made his head and face very wrinkled for the first few days and it was SO CUTE. He was like a little shar pei puppy.
I hope you feel better soon.
I really have no help to offer, other than to say my baby is not ideally positioned and I asked my OB if her head not being on the cervix will inhibit the start of labor and the OB said no, that the uterus will start contracting and then the baby will shift into position...I hope this is true for both of us.
It was kind of true for me. My baby was Left Occiput Transverse. Her head came out SIDEWAYS facing my right hip (after her head came out she turned her body posterior) During the last few days I had tried to get her to move into a more ideal position in hopes of speeding things up but she never responded to it. I finally went into labor and birthed her within an hour!
I'm glad you feel better Mittens... I am kind of having the same issue but it really seems like when baby is ready everything falls into place... I hope labor starts for you very soon!
Just chiming in to say, you are just experiencing another variation of normal :) There are so many variations of where a baby and your cervix are at any given time in pregnancy. I think baby's head was -1 and my cervix was still high up and not dilating. It was soft but not effacing. That was Tuesday at my home visit and I was 38+3. My midwife said, "Well, you won't be having the baby this week". Ugggh. Well guess what, three days later I went into labor and after 1 1/2 hours of active labor my cervix moved down, thinned out, opened and I pushed out my LO - holy moly! Haha. Really, it seems a midwife should know after practicing for many years that a VE really can't give you reliable predictions. I'm pretty sure my baby heard the midwife's prediction and said, "Oh yeah, we'll see about that".
That's awesome Worldshakerz! Your baby showed them!!!
You too, Princessjules!!
Carlin, yes i do have a belly band and it does help but i just can't bring myself to wear it all the time because it's so tight and well, honestly i just feel like my baby is too big for my body. I'm just hoping he doesn't bust through my belly before labour gets a chance to kick in. Hehe...
I'm also hoping his head doesn't pop out before labour begins. Hopefully that's just not possible.