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Judy - Those sweet little belly buttons are adorable though! Is your DH excited to have a son?

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PrincessJules -- true... bellybuttons are pretty cute! And it's fun to see whether they get an innie or outie ;) And re: dh having a son... I think he's excited, but I think the excitement will kick in fully later when Leo is bigger. Though dh has been around babies a ton (his mom has run an in-home daycare for over 20 years!), tiny babies sometimes make him a bit nervous ;) 

 

*I* still feel totally blown away by having a boy! I absolutely would have bet on a girl if I would have had to pick. When he was birthed (his whole little self came out in one push), and I pulled him up to my chest, I looked down, then looked to dh and said, "We got a BOY!" then cried and said it over and over to try to let it sink in! After 10.5 years of only having girls, this is quite a new adventure for us!

post #63 of 136
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Madi, did you wait until the goop was gone to bathe him?  Or did you bathe him after it fell off, goop and all.

WCM---I hate the sponge baths!  I can't get into the chin folds and armpits well and she fights me.  I can't wait to just submerge her in water and let it do it's work for me smile.gif  She's got pretty dry skin and baby acne/rashes.  I think baths are really going to be a good thing soon, I hope!

used coconut oil on the dry/rashy parts. we did wait to bathe him but not really because of anything, just because it is dry here and bathing exacerbates dry skin.
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re: bathing.. I haven't bathed Leo yet. I probably won't for a while either. My kids seem to have a tendency towards dry skin and even some eczema, so infrequent bathings always work best. I've put sone coconut oil on Leo's skin though. He came out with *no* vernix left at all! I don't know that I've seen a cleaner-looking baby after birth! His skin was peely from the start and he was getting cracks on his wrists and ankles that were near-bleeding.

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mamanF, my DS had a clogged/goopy eye for a month. I tried the bmilk, warm compresses, etc. It was sorta rediculous so finally I got the erythromycin ointment and after a few treatments it cleared up. If I see it again, I won't wait b/c he went thru his first many weeks only being able to see out of one eye. I feel terrible about it still. okay ladies, I'm offically having fears again. I just don't know where to go. I'm not scared for baby at birth, I'm scared of surviving birth for my family. they need me. I went out to walk the mall tonight and when I got home my DS who doesn't talk too well yet at 2.5 yrs, told me "I cry" and gave me the saddest look in the whole world b/c I wasn't there when daddy was trying to put him to bed. Then my oldest told me she was sad that no one at school liked her. Ugh..I need to get over this fairly irrational fear. Its not totally out of the norm for me, even non-pregnant but it feels intense.
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James' cord came off after 4 days and looked really gross - kind of bloody with yellow ooze. MW said it wasn't pus and that it looked great (it looked disgusting to me), she had us wipe it with gauze and a little disinfectant with alcohol (what they use on your skin before an injection) every day. Worked like a charm. I put a tiny bit almond or coconut oil on the outside to counteract the drying effect of the alcohol on his skin. We gave him a bath with no soap at five days and 15 days, besides that just using warm washcloth.

So happy to read about new babies every day! Lots of love to mamas who are still waiting.
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lol am i the only one thats still pregnant??.... i need some contraction vibes!!!! My doctors are going inductions crazy! (im 40W 6D) they tried to call me at 4pm yesterday and tell me to be in at 8pm for my induction....i am feeling really defeated and broken right now... i can feel my cervix changing and i know im dialating but i cant get any contractions to happen....DH is getting upset with me for not going to be induced and insists that it wont be that bad with the pit and being stuck in bed hooked to monitors and i can just sleep till its time to push irked.gif he has no idea! and doesnt understand that i want the labor experience to bond with LO....the turned to me today (after i had had a break down and started sobbing and went and took a warm bath with my fav insence to calm down because i felt so broken and hopeless) "how do you even know your going to go into labor at all??? you never went into labor with Lu!)  WOW thanks....with my first my water broke and my body didnt pick up contractions and its make me really nervous about this pregnancy and my bodies ability to labor....its like he's that bad voice in my head making me feel doubtful and awful...sigh i wish my body would just work....

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silvermoon, I'm still hanging in here w/ out at 41+2. I'm a vbac so I won't be induced drug wise. Your docs can't force you to be induced and if you are willing to agree, at least wait until you are just on the cusp of 42 weeks. I'm sorry your hubby doesn't get it. The ICAN webistes might have some quick reads (maybe start here: http://blog.ican-online.org/2011/07/18/on-induction-of-labor/ )to give to your hubby about keeping interventions as low as possible. I too want this labor to happen naturally, not even w/ caster oil b/c I feel that gives baby and me the best chance of getting it all right AND for natual pain-relieving w/in your own body to help you out. It doesn't need to be a fast furious birth.
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When did your baby's cord come off?  Is the site still yucky/crusty/goopy/stinky or is it totally a normal looking belly button.  When did you bathe your LO?

5 days. Our midwife has a mix of cord herbs that we applied at every diaper change and she had us clean the base with a q-tip and hydrogen peroxide once a day and that kept/keeps the site clean. She's 10 days old now and we had a minor scab yesterday after taking a 2-day break from this routine (oops). We took her in the tub and just put her feet/butt in at 4 days, just for fun, and she had a real immersion bath with us on Day 5 when we saw the cord had fallen off. Otherwise I just spot clean with a warm washcloth- she's another born-nearly-vernixless, really peely one. (We've used a few things--coconut oil, olive oil, and EMAB lotion--but mostly are just leaving it alone because it doesn't seem to bother her.)
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Audrie's cord is still on, she's six days old today. We haven't done anything to it, haven't bathed her either or anything. I might just use a wash cloth on her to get under her chin. She threw up on me excorcist style yesterday. Wonderful. Poor little baby. Those projectile vomits scare me.

@anya: things are happening. Hope your body will kick into birthing gear soon. I'm excited for you.

@silvermoonmama: as supportive as our husbands are sometimes, there are things they don't understand. I'm sorry you're facing induction and pressure from everyone. Hang in there.

@librarymo: my thoughts are with your friend's family what a tragic accident. My friend's husband lost a leg after a motorcycle accident two years ago. Terrible but he's doing well now and isn't thinking about retiring from the usmc anytime soon.

About military hospitals...they scare me. I didn't have a good experience with ds and i wish tricare would offer some more alternative options in their prime membership, not just strictly the on base hospital.

All the best to you.
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lol am i the only one thats still pregnant??.... i need some contraction vibes!!!! My doctors are going inductions crazy! (im 40W 6D) they tried to call me at 4pm yesterday and tell me to be in at 8pm for my induction....i am feeling really defeated and broken right now... i can feel my cervix changing and i know im dialating but i cant get any contractions to happen....DH is getting upset with me for not going to be induced and insists that it wont be that bad with the pit and being stuck in bed hooked to monitors and i can just sleep till its time to push irked.gif he has no idea! and doesnt understand that i want the labor experience to bond with LO....the turned to me today (after i had had a break down and started sobbing and went and took a warm bath with my fav insence to calm down because i felt so broken and hopeless) "how do you even know your going to go into labor at all??? you never went into labor with Lu!)  WOW thanks....with my first my water broke and my body didnt pick up contractions and its make me really nervous about this pregnancy and my bodies ability to labor....its like he's that bad voice in my head making me feel doubtful and awful...sigh i wish my body would just work....

I'm still here too! I was very disappointed to wake up w/o a new baby, just the same old one..winky.gif I'm sorry you are getting so much pressure already... re:husbands, It's hard for anyone to fully understand something they have never and will never go through...

 

41w4d - MW appointment (that I thought I would never make it to pregnant!!) today... *sigh* I am starting to think that my body has forgotten what to do. I know that's irrational but it's how I feel...

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Woohoo anya!!! Super cool news :)  

 

judy--I can only imagine your joy and amazement at finding out Leo is a boy!  We were SO, SO shocked that our LO was a girl. I pulled her up out of the water/took her from the nurse (not quite sure who did what, too many hands all over the place) and onto my shoulder nearest DH and no one had said anything. I asked DH if he had seen, and he said no. So I held her out away from me so we both could see, and we were floored to see that she was a she.

 

jules==you're not 100% sure of dates, right?  Hang in there, sweetie. Any chance you can get acupuncture?

 

dmkp==I had a lot of irrational fears about rupture when my labor was going along so strangely, so I can see where you are coming from. VBAC are interesting creatures, even when you've had a successful one already. So many layers of ingrained doubt.  You can and will do this!  Have you or can you try massage and acupuncture to support your body? The best part about both, to me, is the emotional support!!

 

cord==DD's wil hang on for a while, I am sure. My kids are fascinated by it which is awesome because it helps them put together the miracle of life and understand a bit more what was going on in  my belly.

 

due date mindgames--I was certain that I would go around 41w, so I set that in my mind as my EDD. I was sure baby would arrive the last week of Sept, and sure enough she did!  It was so much better thinking that way.

 

 

Not much going on here. We came home Tuesday afternoon because I absolutely cannot stand being in the hospital. They DO NOT give you a moment of peace.  The only time I did not have people in and out of my room was from 1A-5:30A. Seriously. I am much better rested now! Baby is sleeping well and so am I. Engorgement is in full force right now. OUCH. I am so full and tight that I am finding it difficult to breathe and cannot lay on my back at all. Kind of comical since my belly went down a TON overnight last night--I look like  a porn star :)


Edited by Monkey Keeper - 9/27/12 at 5:00am
post #73 of 136

Good Morning everyone!

 

Anya - I'm super jealous of your lost plug!  I've noticed mucous on my underwear for weeks, but just a little little bit.  I'm feeling like my little girl is too comfy inside to even think of coming out. lol.gif

 

Jules - I have a feeling today will be your day.  

 

SMM - I'm still pregnant too, but our numbers sure are dwindling!  

 

AFM - still nothing going on here that would indicate impending labor and while I know it can start with seemingly no warning, I just don't "feel" like it's close either.  My DH's friend is still hanging on but hasn't regained consciousness.  t this point they're glad that his fever, which was spiking last evening, went down and didn't go back up all night.  I feel so bad for his family and also for my DH.  I know it's completely consuming his thoughts and he feels pretty helpless.  Life is so freaking fragile.  

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Happy EDD to me. (: 

 

I received about 20 emails saying, "Is he here today?!?! Good luck on having him!!!" (as if everyone gets induced/sectioned on their due date haha). It made me laugh... (; It's also my doula's birthday today, so I'm glad there is something to celebrate! 

 

As for going late... I've decided to take it a very certain way (hahah). I feel very pleased about it for some reason. Like, I am doing something kind of sneaky because people with regular doctors don't always get to go this naturally. hahaha. You know Calvin's (from Calvin and Hobbes) face when he's about to do something he has planned up? That's how I feel. For example, I have my midwives appointment, grocery shopping and a photo shoot to do today... and call it mischievousness, but I'm so excited to see people's reactions to my answering of their "aww, when are you due?" question today (and anytime before Nico comes) while I'm out alone. 

 

(though, I must say, he looks so evil when a cute comic doesn't follow hahaha)

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I'm so excited to see people's reactions to my answering of their "aww, when are you due?" question today (and anytime before Nico comes) while I'm out alone. 

 

(though, I must say, he looks so evil when a cute comic doesn't follow hahaha)

 

This ABSOLUTELY is one of the perks to waiting. It's so fun to see them stop and watch their mental gears turn and then them trying to control their facial expressions :) 

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On Saturday I spent the day walking around DC and so many people commented on the belly "Girl, walk it down", "You look miserable", "How much longer", etc...but my favorites were the "how much longer comments, because to say "one more day" had people's eyes bugging out of their heads like some kind of Bugs Bunny character.  Ha!  Today when I dropped my son at school the looks I got were more like pity and that wasn't so fun.  I'm not that uncomfortable and I just don't understand the sympathy?!  Sure, I don't sleep well, but that's not going to get better once baby arrives, and my back aches and I do wish I could start losing some weight, but other than that I feel pretty good.  People.  shrug.gif

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MK- yes my dates could be off but probably not by more than a few days i have an acupuncture appt tomorrow

 

LibraryMo - I hope you are right

 

Got back from the MW and drumroll please........ 6 1/2 cm dilated! MW wants me to have this baby in the next day or two... So ihave an acupuncture appt tomorrow and will try to muster up the energy for sex tonight.... MW wouldn't even strip my membranes because I had to drive myself home... I need crazy amounts of labor vibes!!

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WAY TO GO princessjules. I can't wait to hear the good news. 6.5cm is awesome.
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Just had some bloody show but MW thinks it's from the VE from earlier since I haven't had many ctx except in the past few minutes... I am SOOO ready to be in labor!!

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PrincessJules, I think its so cool that you are walking around 6.5cm dilated, that's so wild to me since my body works so differently and does all the dilating pretty much while in active labor. I hope your midwife's opinion is wrong and that active labor is starting for you shortly!

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