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post #1 of 15
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My nausea has been really bad this last couple of weeks, and about the only thing that seems to work is fruit-flavored candies. One piece and I'm good for about an hour or two, give or take. So I've been taking some to work with me, because I walk a lot, and a lot of stairs and it's just insane for my nausea. Anyway, one of my co-workers saw the candy, and she was like, "You know, you really shouldn't have a lot of candy, there's a lot of sugar in that." I told her it was for my nausea, and let it go. The next day, she said, "You really shouldn't have a lot of sugar, it's bad for the baby, you're eating too much sweets." The thing is, all I had was one small package of peppermints, and one single-serving package of Starbursts, both of which I had had for most of the week, which I don't think is terrible, IMO.

 

Today, I was walking back from break, and she came up to me and said, "I looked it up for you, and you aren't supposed to eat soft cheese, seafood, because a lot of it has mercury in it, which is bad for the baby, and some kind of bacteria, and limit your sugar, and you can't have deli meats." I was like, "..." She seemed upset that I wasn't thrilled at her help. In my head, I was like, "I'm no spring chicken, I've done this a couple of times already."

 

I'm not particularly upset about it, I'm 99% sure she was trying to help, but... it seems peculiar that people think they can comment on such things, and wanted to share, and see what similar experiences other people have had. I've never really been pregnant around people before, so all this is new to me. innocent.gif

post #2 of 15

Oh man.  Does she have kids of her own?  That would irritate me too!

post #3 of 15

I would have feigned shock that candy had sugar in it.  jaw2.gif

post #4 of 15
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Originally Posted by Ethelpea View Post

I would have feigned shock that candy had sugar in it.  jaw2.gif


hahaha

 

I think that's a bit weird. I mean that takes a lot of gall to just assume that somebody needs you to research and give them information.

post #5 of 15

Thats so funny. And yet annoying.

Don't worry, I've been eating peppermint candies for my nausea too, I think our babies will live.

post #6 of 15
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Originally Posted by Ethelpea View Post

I would have feigned shock that candy had sugar in it.  jaw2.gif

 

Oh my gosh! That's hilarious! I wish I would have thought something clever like that.

 

She does not have any kids at the moment, but she said she wants some some day. I don't know. This is really weird to me. With DD and DS, I didn't work outside the home, I didn't socialize much, and pretty much was home 99% of the time I was pregnant, so all the attention and stuff is different to me. I had heard of it, but never experienced it. Hmm.

post #7 of 15
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Originally Posted by miss_nikki View Post


hahaha

 

I think that's a bit weird. I mean that takes a lot of gall to just assume that somebody needs you to research and give them information.

 

Yeah, I didn't quite understand the reasoning behind it, but whatever. :P

 

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Originally Posted by Greenlea View Post

Thats so funny. And yet annoying.

Don't worry, I've been eating peppermint candies for my nausea too, I think our babies will live.

 

Thank you. I think so, too. This one might just turn out like me. :P

post #8 of 15

It would have irritated me. You handled it better than I would have.

 

I've had more of a "gaggy" feeling that is like on the edge of nausea if that makes sense. I found Livesavers Gummies Red Sours work great! I'm amazed at how quick they work to stop that gaggy feeling. I keep a bag in my purse and at home. Wonder what your co-worker would say to that?! yikes.gif

post #9 of 15

Suggested replies if she does it again:

 

"I checked on Google last night, and being a nosy know-it-all can be bad for your health."

 

"Oh! I didn't know you went to medical school! Where did you complete your residency?"

 

"I'm sorry, but my cult leader says that the fetus must be provided sugar or it will be born without a soul."

 

"Oh well, if I don't eat candy then I can't keep the vodka down."

 

"Thank you so much for taking the time to research that. Could you also look up PUPPS, hyperemesis gravidarum, diastasis recti and >insert the most unpleasant pregnancy problems you can think of here< for me? Thanks!"

 

"I heard eating peppermints makes your baby smarter."

 

Of course, in your shoes, I probably would not have had the calmness or clear-headedness to come up with something snarky and would have resorted to "Thank you, but my body and my pregnancy choices are none of your damn business. So shut up and worry about your own damn diet." <---But hey, you could also blame such a response on hormones right? lol

 

Seriously, that lady is, IMO, beyond rude.

post #10 of 15
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Originally Posted by Ethelpea View Post

I would have feigned shock that candy had sugar in it.  jaw2.gif

lol.gif love it!

 

post #11 of 15
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Originally Posted by IronMam View Post

 

 

"Oh well, if I don't eat candy then I can't keep the vodka down."

 

 

LOL at all of them, especially the above. 

post #12 of 15

It really wasn't advice, but more of a "well DUH" comment I received. 
When we told my MIL I was going to be having a birth center water birth with DS, she said "You do know having a baby hurts a lot, right?"... funny thing is, she's never been in labor, she had both her children as elective c-sections >.< And, I had already had a baby 12 months prior to finding out I was pregnant, I was pretty well aware of things...

post #13 of 15
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Originally Posted by alaskanmomma View Post

It really wasn't advice, but more of a "well DUH" comment I received. 
When we told my MIL I was going to be having a birth center water birth with DS, she said "You do know having a baby hurts a lot, right?"... funny thing is, she's never been in labor, she had both her children as elective c-sections >.< And, I had already had a baby 12 months prior to finding out I was pregnant, I was pretty well aware of things...

haha!  When I was pregnant with DD my MIL told me that the "jones babies" have big heads and she wanted me to make sure my MW knew.  All I could think was "who says something like that" and "this would have been great info before I married your son!"  

post #14 of 15

Bmcneal, your coworker sound totally clueless and probably a little socially inept. I don't know what I would have said in that situation.

 

Cali2sc.... hahaha... who says that, really?

 

So far no one has had anything but good things to say to me which has been really nice.  DP's dad gave me a huge hug and a kiss on the cheek when I told him.  Then he said, "Do you guys know how it happened?"  And I was like, "Uh... yeah, we know how babies happen." LOL.

post #15 of 15
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Originally Posted by cyclamen View Post

Bmcneal, your coworker sound totally clueless and probably a little socially inept. I don't know what I would have said in that situation.

 

Cali2sc.... hahaha... who says that, really?

 

So far no one has had anything but good things to say to me which has been really nice.  DP's dad gave me a huge hug and a kiss on the cheek when I told him.  Then he said, "Do you guys know how it happened?"  And I was like, "Uh... yeah, we know how babies happen." LOL.

I agree that Bmcneal, you coworker sounds a little socially inept.  I would love to think I would use one of the witty or snarky comments above, but I would probably just shrug it off as so not to make a scene/keep the office happy.

 

Re: my MIL... right?!  lol.gif but other than that she has always been sweet and totally supportive and even though they are our closest neighbors, she totally gives us our space, so I can't complain too much!  I think she may be secretly afraid that if she smothers us too much or inserts her opinion too much (and there is a lot we do not agree on) that I might pack up her son and grandkids and move back to Cali.  orngtongue.gif

 

cyclamen: "Do you know how it happened?"  lol.gif  Just awesome!

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