OP i am glad things have worked out to your satisfaction. somewhat.
but i do want to say something about teenspeak.
yes some keep that up when they are older. i once asked the question about the n word when i heard kids talking about it.
and guess what. a mom here said she herself used it when she was a teen but she has grown out of it.
yes you have the right to feel offended. no i am not jewish but i am a minority here. lets face it most people have no idea how not to be offensive. i face offense every single day in some form or another. i volunteer a lot with teens and just out of teens - young community college students. just coz those words are said, it doesnt mean the person using the terms are being offensive. they are using it because of lack of knowledge. and therefore i dont take offense because they dont mean it.
sad but true the world is a very racist place. i no longer try to change anything. somedays are more upsetting that others. esp. for a person who can easily fit 3 ethnic groups so i face triple the amount of prejudice. i dont face too much direct racism but i face all sorts of subtle racism.
i have watched some of those ugly kids grow out of that behaviour. it comes from awareness. from me too to let them have their speak when its their time, then awareness hits and things work out, usually.
i really dont believe in my life time will a day pass when i wont face prejudice. it is so over the top, that really - for me - i am done with being upset over comments. its not about me. its about them.
but yeah to each their own. what i have discovered is racism/prejudice is a 'normal' state of being. what is 'abnormal' is a person who has not faced any prejudice.
So, the world is a racist place but kids making racist remarks are not racists? Teens miraculously grow out of it without anybody telling them how offensive it is? And I guess since they grow out of it, all the adult racists must have been grown on trees. That is some real logic there. Racism is racism. What is so hard to understand here?