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Strong gender intuitions?

post #1 of 35
Thread Starter 

I don't know why, but I am really feeling like this baby is a girl. We aren't finding out gender, so I am worried that I am having such strong intuitions. 

I don't remember having any strong intuitions with DS. I wanted a boy, but I didn't feel like he was boy or girl. We found out his gender at 18 weeks, so it wasn't a big deal. 
I honestly do not have a gender preference this time around, but I would feel bad if I was wrong and I thought that my baby boy was a girl. 

anyone else have any gender intuitions?

post #2 of 35

I've felt from the beginning that this baby was a boy. We will find out in about a month.

 

With #2, DH *knew* from conception that she was a girl. He was right. #1 I was thinking girl . . . but was proved wrong at the ultrasound. I like to know ahead of time - both to bond and to prepare.

post #3 of 35

I have no idea.

 

Last 2 pregnancies I had strong intuitions and I was 100% wrong. I thought my son was a girl and my daughter was a boy. This time, I keep thinking it's a girl, but with my past history I've convinced myself it must be a boy. 

 

How's that for confusing?

post #4 of 35
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Originally Posted by Melany View Post

I have no idea.

 

Last 2 pregnancies I had strong intuitions and I was 100% wrong. I thought my son was a girl and my daughter was a boy. This time, I keep thinking it's a girl, but with my past history I've convinced myself it must be a boy. 

 

How's that for confusing?

Haha!! Sounds like me! 

 

With DS1 I knew without a doubt he was a boy, and I was right. With DS2 I swore up and down he was girl... Even bought a couple girly things uhoh3.gif... and I was 100% wrong! When he was born (I didn't find out before hand), I was so shocked at the fact he had a penis, I told my mom within seconds of him coming out, "I think they gave me the wrong baby! Mine is a girl!" Of course I was delusional and delirious from a hard labor, but still, how strange of me! With DS3 I found out at 19 weeks, and had no predetermined thoughts or ideas.

 

With this one I have a very strong BOY feeling. Although, DP says it's because I have no idea what it's like to carry a girl... But he's not saying it is a girl! My mom says too that I might just be subconsciously preparing myself for another boy.

 

Of course it doesn't really matter... Obviously I would love to have a girl, it's even in my signature! But I adore my boys, they are... My BOYS! And they're such sweet and kind boys, that will make excellent husbands someday (that is my goal, to raise awesome husbands and fathers).

post #5 of 35

I don't really. Last time I thought it was maybe a boy and was wrong... So I'll just wait and see.

 

My 3-year-old daughter was originally set on it being a girl, but now she says "It's a boy. Because Daddy's a boy." Kid logic!

 

Kinda hoping for another girl just because I had a lot of close sisters and I would love my daughter to experience that... But a boy would be fun too.

post #6 of 35

I honestly don't know at this point if I'm actually having strong boy feelings or I'm just so worried that it's a boy that I'm mentally preparing myself for this fact.  We are finding out (if baby cooperates) and I CANNOT WAIT.  That sounds goofy because I'll be happy either way but I want a girl.  I KNEW my DD was a girl from the second I found out I was pregnant.  This pregnancy is so different than that one though I kind of wonder...

post #7 of 35

It's nice to hear that others have no intuition one way or the other, LOL...  I have not a single clue, and I am a pretty intuitive person... but on that frequency, I'm just getting static.

 

Here's what I do have, so far:

 

-I want a girl-- not a strong preference, but a mild-to-moderate one.  Make that solidly moderate.  Therefore, I sometimes think it will be a boy, but only just because I am trying to prep myself to think of having a boy as positively as having a girl.  You know-- get used to the idea, don't get my heart set on a girl.

 

-I had a very prophetic dream before I became pregnant, which has come true down to the letter.  In it, the baby looked like DH, but I also had a voice in the dream telling me that just because it looks like DH doesn't mean it's a boy.

 

-My one aunt is CONVINCED I'm having a girl, just because she saw a vision of it.  She also saw lots and lots of black hair, to which I responded that many Asian babies have loads of hair at birth, so she may be right on that part, if not the whole thing.  By the time DH was 9 months old, he literally looked like he was wearing a thick, luxurious pageboy wig, so I can see a full head of hair on this one.  (Mine was sparse and my brother's was almost nonexistent for the LONGEST time, like a year+.)

 

That's it.  Nothing doing on my intuition channel, though.

post #8 of 35

Oh, and here's a spinoff I'll keep in this same thread-- anyone have any intuition about what the baby will look like?

 

I am hoping for a baby that looks like DH, because-- IMNSHO-- you've never seen a cuter baby.

 

Seriously, this was him at about 10-12 months:

 

 

Who knows, though?  DH and I do resemble each other in some ways... in others, not so much.  The best we have to go on for baby prediction purposes are my older nieces (daughters of his older brother and SIL).  They are both lovely, but DH and his brother only barely resemble each other, and my SIL and I have vaguely the same eye color and that's about it...  Ethnicities wildly different.  At the very least, our kids will probably be darker, as I am much darker than my SIL and my husband is the darkest in his family... but it's such a genetic lottery-- who knows?

 

That said, at birth, our nieces (who don't look much alike now) were almost indistinguishable from one another, and both looked (to me) like my MIL.  DH looks quite a bit like my MIL, so I do kinda expect newborns that look similar to the way my nieces looked as newborns.  (I always say there are only like 10 newborn photos in the world-- maybe 20, maximum-- and you can always pick any given person out of that limited lineup.) 

post #9 of 35

With my first I felt like I knew 100% from the very beginning that he was a boy, I would have been completely shocked if they told me he was a girl when he was born. With my DD I didnt have such a strong feeling but I had a slight feeling that she was a girl. This time I have had no feeling at all and was worried for a while that maybe it was twins and one of each (still don't know for sure that it is not twins), but I had a dream the other night that it was a girl, so we will see, but not finding out.

post #10 of 35
No idea with this one, but it's still early. With DS I thought it was a girl, but it was a boy in every dream I had, so the subconscious was right. Haven't had any baby dreams yet, but I'll pay more attention to them when they come.
post #11 of 35

I am having LOTS of strong feelings about baby's gender.  Problem is, it is a different strong feeling each day!  

 

With dd1, I was CONVINCED I was having a boy... She was NOT a boy.  DD2, I thought was a boy, too... such a different pregnancy that with #1... She was a girl, too.  At first, I was sure this one was a girl... then boy for a while.  And now it changes based on the day (and sometimes the hour)!  Today I think it is a boy.  Brown eyes and white blonde hair.  Either way, when s/he first comes out, s/he will look just like DH.  My midwife is convinced all babies look like the man so he can't question whether it is his or not.  lol.  Has been true of mine so far... Interesting idea!

post #12 of 35

DH is convinced it's a girl, and I think in a way he's convinced me too, but it's just because he's always refering to the baby as "her". 
I think the only reason we "feel" this way is that we already have a girl, so to us, babies are girls. 

 

I don't really have a preference, on one hand, the logistics of having another girl are simpler; we already have a bunch of clothes!  But on the other hand, having a boy would balance our family and it would be fun to see how different it is (or isn't?) it is to have a little boy in the house.

post #13 of 35
Thread Starter 

DS is a good mix between both of us. He is the spitting imagine of me when you look at baby pictures, but he also looks like DP's baby pictures. The person he looks like most is my dad. He looks EXACTLY like him at times. I look exactly like my aunt (on my dad's side) to the point where you could put our baby pictures together and not be able to tell them apart (y'know besides the fact that she was born in the '50s and I was born in '89). We have strong genes. 
I hope #2 looks similar to DS, because he was such a gorgeous baby and a flipping ADORABLE toddler :)

post #14 of 35

Looks wise: DS was a good mix early on, but the older he gets the more he looks like my dad and I. I kind of *knew* what he looked like bc we had great ultrasound photos, and some good 3D shots of his face.

 

DD we didn't get good ultrasound pics and her looks were a surprise. She's the spitting image of DH - but more feminine, of course. She's also got his body type.

 

This baby . . .IDK. we shall see. DS and DD look alike to the extent you can tell they are related (but people have said the same of DH and me) and both have dark blond hair, but different textures. DS has blue-gray eyes from DH and DD will be hazel/green, more like mine. I would love a dark haired blue eyed baby. DH has dark hair. I have no guesses as to what the baby will actually look like, but I have a feeling, personality wise, that this one will be feisty.

post #15 of 35
Buko- your post was cracking me up. When I was pregnant with DS I fantasized about how DH's skin tone (he is Afro-Cuban) would mix with mine (I am a brunette Caucasian). One thing I knew for sure: DS would have brown eyes and dark hair.
The night before our anatomy scan, I dreamed that I had a blonde haired, blue eyed baby boy. At the u/s the tech confirmed I was carrying a boy. The biggest surprise that has had us marveling for 4 1/2 years now is DS has big blue eyes and blonde hair! His coloring looks like neither of us! Though his facial structure and body type is exactly like DH.

Anyway, to answer the original question of this thread: I have had 2 vivid boy dreams. Though, I am hoping to be wrong this time as we would be thrilled to have one of each.
post #16 of 35

That's funny, RGM!  Life is like a box of chocolates, and all that...

 

I think in our case it's much less likely that Buko will have light hair (mayyybe medium brown at lightest) or light eyes, even though mine are blue/green-- and I was blondish as a baby, for that matter.  DH is pretty "racially" homogenous, so I don't think he has any recessive genes hanging out back there...  He might have that one Spanish ancestor that every Filipino has, but it's like one, and 4+ generations back.  A good chunk of his cousins and siblings have married white or lightskinned Latino folks, and zero of their kids have light eyes... maybe one with light brown hair.

 

But you truly never know!

post #17 of 35

I have no guesses either way! Like a few previous posters, with my first pregnancy I had a mild preference for one gender and then talked myself into the idea that I was having the other gender. Maybe just to prep myself for the possibility? Anyway, baby ended up being the gender I had a mild preference for. I was pretty surprised!

 

As for looks, I've given up on trying to guess what this baby will look like because of DD! She was born looking NOTHING like ANYONE in our families!!! A head full of brown hair! A dainty little chin! She's 2 now and she does have her dad's big brown eyes, but the rest is a mystery. I swear, she's the cutest thing ever but I have no clue where she got her looks. I think I'll be surprised this time if the baby DOES bear a resemblance to either of us, because I'm so used to not seeing myself or DH when I look at DD.

post #18 of 35
We told DP's son tonight and he asked if it was a boy. We told them we didn't know and he said he hoped it was a boy. DP wants a boy but I'm still hoping for a girl!
post #19 of 35

I keep feeling a strong boy vibe, but I also keep feeling like it might be twins, too yikes.gif  I don't know if we'll find out the gender or not beforehand.  A part of me wants to, another part of me likes the surprise element.  I knew my first baby was a girl before they told me at the 20 week ultrasound, it still would have been nice to wait until birth to confirm my intuition, though.  

post #20 of 35
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Originally Posted by buko View Post

That's funny, RGM!  Life is like a box of chocolates, and all that...

 

I think in our case it's much less likely that Buko will have light hair (mayyybe medium brown at lightest) or light eyes, even though mine are blue/green-- and I was blondish as a baby, for that matter.  DH is pretty "racially" homogenous, so I don't think he has any recessive genes hanging out back there...  He might have that one Spanish ancestor that every Filipino has, but it's like one, and 4+ generations back.  A good chunk of his cousins and siblings have married white or lightskinned Latino folks, and zero of their kids have light eyes... maybe one with light brown hair.

 

But you truly never know!

Buko!  I thought from the pic you posted that your DH might be Filipino.  My husband is half Filipino and I'm so hoping our babe has his thick black hair.  

 

Other than that, we just joke about our kid either having his perfect eyesight and my straight teeth, or my terrible eyesight and his need for braces as an adolescent.  One of those combos would be like winning the lottery.  

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