Put my foot down with my 4 year old Aspie today and he had a meltdown. I have never seen that much anger in him before. It was as if some terrible injustice was being done to him.
Here's what happened. We went for our walk and it started to rain - just a little drizzle. But we weren't finished with our walk. We usually stop at the playground and then go around the pond and come back home. Well he was so upset that I said we had to go home. I didnt want to stay out in the rain - not with my 1 year old in the wrap.
So we got halfway home and he stopped holding my hand. He knows he has to hold my hand in the street. That is non negotiable. And he threw a fit and was running into the road.
So I had to carry him kicking and screaming - while also holding the baby in the wrap. I carried him up the stairs and thats when he really went wild. I had to put him in the room and close the door and hold it so I could put the baby in a safe place. It wasnt even for 3 minutes.
All this time he was hitting and kicking the door and walls and screaming like his heart was breaking.
My heart was breaking.
Then I had him come out and he fell asleep.
Do you ever feel like you have *no idea* how to help someone - and maybe it's your fault. Im trying to figure out what I did wrong...
Most of the time - I let him have what he wants before he has the meltdown..