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[1babysmom]

I am 10.5 weeks and it's been 6 pregnancies since I made it this far with a living baby. :)  Praise God!

How about you other pregnant after loss ladies? 

[firespiritmelody]

Yay!! That's great news, so happy you're still here with us!

[cagnew]

10 weeks was my latest loss, so I am past that now :) Saw a healthy baby on u/s today and I feel much better.

So glad to hear you're passing milestones too 

[cathochick]

I'm 13 weeks today. I had a nine week loss in December 2010 and again in March 2012.

[brooklyn_warbler]

HOORAY!!!  Yay for all of you.
 

[alaskanmomma]

I'm 10 weeks, 4 days pregnant... I lost my last baby at 5w4d, so exactly 5 weeks later than I was. I have a strong feeling this bean is a sticky one.

[Georgetown HB Mom]

I lost my last baby at 22 weeks. We found out she was gone at my 20 week prenatal. She was born two weeks later. I am dreading my 20 week prenatal with this baby. I wish it would just hurry up and get here so we can hopefully move past it. I am somewhere between 12-13 weeks pregnant. We have heard a good strong heartbeat but that does not bring me much comfort since we heard a good strong heartbeat with the last one as well. Hoping we are all holding our babies this time next year.

[bambihelton]

I'm 9 weeks 6 days and feel somewhat better (actually, a tremendous amount) about this one. I lost my first at around 5 or 6 weeks (we weren't exactly sure) and up until now, I have felt on edge. Now all of you mamas that have had 9 week losses are scaring me! I have a pretty good feeling it's a sticky one, I'm just paranoid. 

[miss_nikki]

Love hearing that you ladies are making milestones!! Continuing to send positive thoughts and prayers in all of your directions, that you will all be able to meet and enjoy each of your little ones!
 

[1babysmom]

Thanks!  It's definitely giving me something to hold onto this time.  Some of my other close friends are just finding out they are pregnant, and it scares me to think of the possibility of once again getting left behind, should something happen. (because it's SO hard to watch them get to go on, and to get myself to be genuinely excited/happy for them when it's all a reminder of where I whould have been)  After so many losses, even when things look great I still feel like I'm just hanging on by a thread.

[cagnew]

Originally Posted by 1babysmom 

Thanks!  It's definitely giving me something to hold onto this time.  Some of my other close friends are just finding out they are pregnant, and it scares me to think of the possibility of once again getting left behind, should something happen. (because it's SO hard to watch them get to go on, and to get myself to be genuinely excited/happy for them when it's all a reminder of where I whould have been)  After so many losses, even when things look great I still feel like I'm just hanging on by a thread.

I know exactly how you feel. With my second loss, I had a friend who was pregnant with me and it was so hard to watch her go on while I had to start all over again. Her and her husband asked Dh and I to be the baby's godparents, which we accepted. Then the baby died of SIDS at 8 weeks old  The day after he passed, we went to their house and she told us that they had asked us to be the godparents with the hopes that in some way it would make up for the one we lost. I felt honored, and, at the same time, guilty and horrible... as if it was our fault and we couldn't even keep a godchild alive (those were my thoughts, not our friends).

Oddly enough, she is pg again with me, and due the exact same time. That dreadful fear has crossed my mind a few times. And even though we've had good news with this baby and all looks good, I still find it difficult of think seriously of names and actually having a baby.

[Kara9080]

Originally Posted by cagnew 

I know exactly how you feel. With my second loss, I had a friend who was pregnant with me and it was so hard to watch her go on while I had to start all over again. Her and her husband asked Dh and I to be the baby's godparents, which we accepted. Then the baby died of SIDS at 8 weeks old  The day after he passed, we went to their house and she told us that they had asked us to be the godparents with the hopes that in some way it would make up for the one we lost. I felt honored, and, at the same time, guilty and horrible... as if it was our fault and we couldn't even keep a godchild alive (those were my thoughts, not our friends).

Oddly enough, she is pg again with me, and due the exact same time. That dreadful fear has crossed my mind a few times. And even though we've had good news with this baby and all looks good, I still find it difficult of think seriously of names and actually having a baby.

Oh mama, that's heavy. So sorry for you and your friend. I hope we all have sticky babies and indeed all holding our babies this time next year!

I'm several weeks past from when I lost the last baby but I'm still not feeling solid. Not sure what will make me feel solid or when. We still haven't told the kids or anyone really. *shrug*

[mrsavery]

My first baby would have been due within the few weeks before my 28th birthday, which was last weekend. I think every time I have another birthday I will remember that baby. The second baby would have been due around Christmas, and would have had the same due date as my sister-in-law's sister...so every time we have a gathering with her side of the family, I will see her baby and be reminded that ours would have been the same age. The thing is, if either of those babies had been carried full term, I wouldn't be pregnant with this little baby now. I'm a few days short of 12 weeks and that is a full month farthur along than I made it with the last one. We heard the heartbeat this week for the first time. I thank God  everyday that I am still pregnant, even though I am still not really allowing myself to fully imagine this baby. Our parents are so excited and have started telling people...I want to be as excited as I was the first time I found out I was pregnant, but a little part of me is still holding back. But then I think "12 weeks! Woohoo!" and I just remember the sound of that tiny heart beating...

[Lisanne]

I'm 9 weeks 4 days and that is a week longer than I made it with my last miscarriage and a few weeks longer then the one before that so I'm starting to feel more optimistic. 

[1babysmom]

Originally Posted by mrsavery 

My first baby would have been due within the few weeks before my 28th birthday, which was last weekend. I think every time I have another birthday I will remember that baby. The second baby would have been due around Christmas, and would have had the same due date as my sister-in-law's sister...so every time we have a gathering with her side of the family, I will see her baby and be reminded that ours would have been the same age.

I totally get all that!  I have been due on my birthday, on my anniversary, a month apart from my SIL (who has never struggled with pregnancy), the same month as my good friend, etc, etc....  I would never want to replace this little one, but those babies are just as real as any and the reminder are hard, especially the reminders of the pain and heartache.

[Rainey Daye]

Eleven weeks today, so I have made it past all the milestones of my three losses. One early one at five weeks, one at eight and a half weeks, and one we found out at nine weeks that the baby had already been gone for several weeks. I have already had two high tech ultrasounds (at 6weeks/day and 8weeks/1day) as well as a grainy one on an old machine the midwives have in their office (at 7weeks/3days)....plus I got to hear the heartbeat via doppler at 9weeks/5days. I go back tomorrow for another high tech ultrasound, which will be reassuring again. Reason for so many ultrasounds is that I have an ovarian cyst that they are keeping an eye on and may need to operate on it at around 20 weeks if it grows.

Since we had decided not to try for more bio kids (hadn't made it permanent though) this baby surprised us...but of course as soon as we knew, I did everything I could to get seen early. They have me on progesterone, folic acid, and baby aspirin as well as my prenatal. Even with getting this far I still am so nervous that I can't let myself get too excited just quite yet. It still seems like a realistic dream, but a dream nonetheless!!

[BeanBean06]

I'm 14 weeks today and my last 2 losses were well before 6 weeks. They were both over 6 yrs ago and I never made it to the doctor for an appt. So we are way past where we have ever been. But after those losses and battling infertility and adoption for the last 4 yrs... I'm terrified something will happen to this baby. It's such a nerve wracking exp. To go through.