A teen boy that I'm "aunt" to was recently expelled from school for bringing drugs there. He barely uses them (honestly, I would know. He never once smelled funny to me, had funky looking eye, or behaved strangely). He now goes to a special school for the "bad kids".
Before this school thing was worked out, I watched him for a couple weeks while he was out of school. Now that he's back in school I have less influence but I'd like to have an impact. He's pretty well-behaved in general and isn't violent. He gets good grades in school, does his homework, does chores, and is great with little kids. He isn't suicidal or thinking of running away, but he has some other specific issues I consider pretty serious. I just don't know how to deal with them.
I'm looking for suggestions for how to help encourage him to change his most negative behaviors:
- Obviously, the drugs
- Lying (not huge lies, but lots of little "cover-ups" for when he doesn't do what you asked)
- Selfishness (I know it's normal for teens to be selfish but I feel like he can't empathize well)
- Motivation (he isn't passionate about anything)
- Follow-through (he doesn't fulfill his promises, pay back his debts etc)
Any ideas on how to impact this child in a positive way? I'm really struggling and find myself yelling or arguing with him a lot.