Let me preface this by saying that is looking very healthy and normal with all fingers and toes, and I am very thankful for that.
I live next to a very good and progressive children's hospital where they always talk about how considerate they are of patient wishes and care, so I felt okay about choosing to have my first baby at the hospital without kicking up much of a fuss.
It seems that every time I have any experience with said hospital, it's more and more disappointing. This last experience was my 21 week ultrasound this morning where the sonographer was nothing less than an asshole who kept stopping the ultrasound to lecture me on various things, such as when I (god forbid) asked "are those the hands" after listening to her describe everything as she was going along. Apparently questions were against the rules and she literally took the probe off of me to have a stern talk about how she wasn't going to answer my questions and it was extremely distracting from the purpose of the scan if I keep talking.
When I first went into the room, I light heartedly said "I know you're not technically supposed to say, but if you hint or linger around the genitals, I would love to know the sex". She immediately went into serious face mode and gave me a clearly rehearsed speech on how "the radiologist will put it in the report, but only if it's diagnostic" and how that wasn't the point of the ultrasound and so on.
It was a horrible, horrible experience and I was so crushed after waiting months for this appointment that I burst into tears the moment I left. I spent hours before the scan watching various ultrasound videos on youtube to train myself to distinguish the sex in case something like this happened, and from what I saw I'm at least 70% sure that baby's female, but still. I now have to wait until either the radiologist happens to put it in the report and I call in to get the results four or five days from now or I have to pay $125 out of pocket to get 5 to 10 minutes of time on a 3D ultrasound.