Congratulations! I'm glad the news that your having a girl has helped you to move forward from your terrible ultrasound experience.
That's some awful bedside manner and downright rude. It's too bad when the u/s techs seem to forget that this is an exciting and happy time for us ladies. I had a terrible experience with an u/s tech at the local hospital too (at 6 1/2 weeks due to abdominal pain) - he refused to tell me anything at all and would not let me see the screen.
I was so worried my 20 week u/s experience would be just as disappointing. I just had mine yesterday at a medical imaging clinic (MedVue) and my ultrasound tech was wonderful. She made nice chit-chat while she did the measurements - asked me how my pregnancy was going, etc. and asked me if I would like to know the gender (no). Later they called my hubby into the room and showed us both the screen and gave us a little tour and pointed out lots of body parts (head, hands, heart, bum, legs, cord, etc.) and answered some non-diagnostic questions such as "what's that black circle there?" (the stomach). She gave us a printout of 3 pictures to take home that she captured earlier in the appointment when baby was in a good position for profile pics.
A student was observing (with my permission) so I'm glad to know that the student is learning from such a great example of good bedside manner. For any other Canadian ladies reading, you may likely find that you'll have a more pleasant u/s experience at an out-of-hospital medical imaging centre.