I am planning on a home birth. My daughter was born in our bedroom. Luckily, we only have a midwife in our community and 1/2 of births are home births. So everyone knows someone whose had one and its very normal. I don't think I've had one response that seemed unsupportive. What I'm unsure of this time though is whether to include my daughter who will be 3. When I think back to my last birth, there is no way I could imagine a child present. Are others planning on have sijourblings present at your home birth?
When I first started on this HB journey, I was sure that if I had a HB I didn't want DS there (he'll also be almost 3). Now...I am not so sure. Part of me would like him there. I am thinking of talking to my sister about being there for DS and I like the idea of her experiencing a natural birth as well (she's 3 years younger than me and has no children yet). I haven't decided yet, but have lots of time to change my mind a few times. I'll do what feels right for me and for DS at the time.
aHikaru - I didn't have a HB last time. I did tear, but internally only. I had a cathetar placed (because I couldn't pee) and had to stay in the hospital 2 nights before they would remove the cathetar. In making the deicsion to have a HB I was specifically concerned about tearing and if I did having, having to have a catheter and having to go to the hospital after the birth to get one, etc. I spoke to my midwife about this, and she said that if I did need stitches she can do them. If I do need a cathetar she can place it for me. If I need an IV for some reason, she can do that too. She said though, that at the hospital they are pretty quick to give you a cathetar. She will usually give the patients a timeline and to call her if they don't pee within x hours after she leaves. If they don't, she'll come back to place the cathetar. But she said she's never had to go back and place a cathetar. So, you'll want to speak to your MW specifically about what support they can offer if you do tear, etc., but I also would say that a key part to not tearing is having good birth support and that epistiotimies are very rarely necessary.