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post #181 of 347
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Originally Posted by pastormama View Post

So, bumping this thread up to see how all the home birth plans are coming. I've started to have some anxiety about risking out for various reasons. None of them have materialized and all is well. I think I just got used to some over management from my hospital cnms last time so I'm feeling a bit adrift now? How is everyone else doing?

OHHHH thank you for bringing this up and sharing this! It is exactly how I feel. I am doing concurrent care with OBs and even they are beening more hands off this time!!!  But I keep fearing something will keep it from being a reality. Last night in our childbirth class the facilitator (homebirth midwife) reminded us of the exercise in Birthing Within of the Worry Chart. Basically you make a list of all your worries and write what you could do about them, if anything. Or how you would handle that variation. Then we decided we would do a burning ritual for it!

 

We are still planning a HB. Getting things prepared as we can. This is our first HB, DD was born in the hospital something like 4-6 weeks early. I had PROM. My goal has been to gestate to 37 weeks (buy my script is "I want this baby to stay in until May 20th the earliest but May 24 would be a lovely day to have a baby.")

post #182 of 347

I'm doing pretty well.  I am excited, but nervous.  I've realized I am not nervous about the HB, but just about labor.  I am trying to figure out what is stressing me about it so I can let it go.  Maybe the lack of control?  Surrender is so important, and something I struggle with.  Maybe the pain?  It wasn't so bad I couldn't handle it last time, so I don't know if that is it.  Probably just the uncertainty, of when I will go into labour, of whether or not I will be well-rested, of how long it will last, of calling the MW at the right time...I think I need to do some journaling to work though these thoughts and then I'll be ok.

 

My one concern right now about the HB is managing nausea.  I posted about this in the chat thread.  With DS, the nausea was worse than the pain of contractions for me.  When I arrived at the hospital at 5.5cm I was given Zofran, and it worked like a charm.  So I need to talk to my MW today about what my options are if I have the same type of labor as last time.  I know she doesn't carry zofran, but I don't know if she can prescribe it or not, what other good options are, etc.  Just some questions to ask.

 

I have more or less decided that I don't want DS there.  He is only 2.5 so too young to really understand why mommy is making so much noise, etc. and I think if he's there I'll be more worried about taking care of him than of myself.  So I need to talk to my mom about taking him, and I know that she will.  She just doesn't know that we are having a HB and I don't plan on her finding out until after the babe is born.  So I just need to manage p/u or drop-off of DS.  My parents live close by so if I go into labor at night or on the weekend, DH could even drop DS off.  I'll figure out some contingency plans for that, it isn't very complicated.

 

We meet with our Doula again next week, so that will be good.  And I am sort of considering inviting my sister to be at the birth.  I haven't decided yet on that.  I don't know that the other person being there is necessary, but we are pretty close so I thought it might be cool for her to experience a natural birth before she has kids of her own.  IDK, maybe it would just freak her out.  Plus she's kind of squeemish.  lol.

 

So ya, things are coming up quickly, aren't they?  I am 33 weeks today!  I haven't gotten anything from the HB kit yet but that isn't a huge list or whatever so I'll get on that by 36 weeks or so.

post #183 of 347

I'm doing pretty well.  I am excited, but nervous.  I've realized I am not nervous about the HB, but just about labor.  I am trying to figure out what is stressing me about it so I can let it go.  Maybe the lack of control?  Surrender is so important, and something I struggle with.  Maybe the pain?  It wasn't so bad I couldn't handle it last time, so I don't know if that is it.  Probably just the uncertainty, of when I will go into labour, of whether or not I will be well-rested, of how long it will last, of calling the MW at the right time...I think I need to do some journaling to work though these thoughts and then I'll be ok.

 

My one concern right now about the HB is managing nausea.  I posted about this in the chat thread.  With DS, the nausea was worse than the pain of contractions for me.  When I arrived at the hospital at 5.5cm I was given Zofran, and it worked like a charm.  So I need to talk to my MW today about what my options are if I have the same type of labor as last time.  I know she doesn't carry zofran, but I don't know if she can prescribe it or not, what other good options are, etc.  Just some questions to ask.

 

I have more or less decided that I don't want DS there.  He is only 2.5 so too young to really understand why mommy is making so much noise, etc. and I think if he's there I'll be more worried about taking care of him than of myself.  So I need to talk to my mom about taking him, and I know that she will.  She just doesn't know that we are having a HB and I don't plan on her finding out until after the babe is born.  So I just need to manage p/u or drop-off of DS.  My parents live close by so if I go into labor at night or on the weekend, DH could even drop DS off.  I'll figure out some contingency plans for that, it isn't very complicated.

 

We meet with our Doula again next week, so that will be good.  And I am sort of considering inviting my sister to be at the birth.  I haven't decided yet on that.  I don't know that the other person being there is necessary, but we are pretty close so I thought it might be cool for her to experience a natural birth before she has kids of her own.  IDK, maybe it would just freak her out.  Plus she's kind of squeemish.  lol.

 

So ya, things are coming up quickly, aren't they?  I am 33 weeks today!  I haven't gotten anything from the HB kit yet but that isn't a huge list or whatever so I'll get on that by 36 weeks or so.

post #184 of 347

Thanks for the bump pastor!

 

Just trucking along over here, waiting until April to order the pool & such. I am pretty laid back and prefer hands off care by nature, so I very much jive with the hbmw model of care. I would probably get annoyed if a doc was trying to manage things, I got annoyed enough with the insurance nurse on the phone who told me I should get the GTT and hold on to the stair railing when I go up and down. eyesroll.gif

 

I think about labor a lot and am working on giving myself a list of ideas of things to do...like a shower, massage, mantras, sit on the ball, etc...last time I just followed my instincts and felt like I could have done better if I had some ideas, although asking anyone at the time was not within my range of abilities. I am mostly concerned about the when of labor, I keep getting caught up in DD's schedule, and obsessing over when it will all happen...will my plans for maternity leave work out the way I want them too? will DD be in school or at her dad's? what if I'm early? how early could I be? what of I'm late? Need to let that go...baby comes when baby comes. I guess I need something to be nutty about. Amilkam, I like the worry chart idea, will have to try it!

post #185 of 347

8 weeks until we're full term, and will finally get to try for our first home birth! My last labour went amazingly well, so assuming we make it to term I think things will work out wonderfully.

 

I haven't really gotten any supplies yet, so I should start working on that shortly.

post #186 of 347

We're still on track with our planned free birth. We're thinking of setting up a birth tub in the kitchen for the actual birth and we'll probably have the boys stay upstairs for the most part. I still hope they get to sleep through the birth so that we don't have to call anyone to come and help look after them. I'll probably go ahead and order the rest of the birth supplies in the next couple of weeks too.

I also spoke to someone in our local Vital Statistics office about registering an unassisted birth, and now I have to jump through all kinds of hoops, as they need me to provide medical proof of pregnancy when I do go to register the birth. Right now it looks like another visit to Urgent Care so they can confirm that I am actually pregnant and give me some documentation to prove it.

 

After enjoying the lack of stress of free birthing I now get to have the stress of proving I'm actually pregnant so that I can have the birth registered. But 1 appointment at Urgent Care is certainly better than months of driving 2 hours each way for prenatal visits.

post #187 of 347
Homebirth. Does make me smile. Is still the plan. My cousin is going to be my doula. I didn't shop around. Just said that would be cool. I haven't had any OB care : blood tests , ultrasounds or anything. I have finally got insurance lined up. Do I do concurrent care free and local? They said they would not be my midwife's back up because she's not in their circle. Or pay extra and drive too far for tests. I have been considering an ultrasound to ease my mind a bit especially with a homebirth, of course unless it backfires and they find something to worry about. My midwife wants me to get some blood work done. I'm not too excited about concurrent care. I will tell them that I plan on a homebirth and they are plan b. But I guess they'll want me to come in lots?
post #188 of 347

Havent started planning much prly wont until like 37 weeks LOL i mentally prepare alot. The "things" i dont worry so much about. But i suppose i ought to order the birth pool and start writing up labor lists....And contact the photograper again...

 

i will be ready, i am excited....bring it on! :D

post #189 of 347
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Originally Posted by Lynann View Post


I also spoke to someone in our local Vital Statistics office about registering an unassisted birth, and now I have to jump through all kinds of hoops, as they need me to provide medical proof of pregnancy when I do go to register the birth. Right now it looks like another visit to Urgent Care so they can confirm that I am actually pregnant and give me some documentation to prove it.

So I don't think the fact that you have to go to urgent care, jump through hoops, etc. is funny at all (what a pain!) but I did laugh when I pictured you going into urgent care 30 weeks pregnant and asking for a pregnancy test! ROTFLMAO.gif

post #190 of 347

I got my birth pool and supplies joy.gif, our concerns over the downstairs neighbors have pretty much gone out the window, still hesitant about my husband's step-mom and dad finding out, but at the same time, mehhhh. They won't be invited over while I'm in labor/we'll have an excuse why they can't come over if they are in town, so.. ha!

 

post #191 of 347

Well... I think I need to get on it, basically, ha!

 

I have started showing birth slides and videos to DS (he's 3) so he will know what to expect; there is a wonderful list on Code Name: Mama's blog, if anyone is looking, by the way.  We bought him a copy of Hello, Baby and that's been a great jumping off point for discussions.  

 

I have done NOTHING as far as prepping our house.  We have a list from the MW but when I asked about it she basically said we probably have half of it around the house (e.g. digital thermometer, garbage bags, freezer bags, etc.) already so don't just buy the kit.  That makes me confused, haha, so I may just buy the darned kit.  The kit they recommend is $65 (link: http://www.everythingbirth.com/MMHBK.html), and then the pool on Amazon is $50ish (link: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00005OARQ/ref=ox_sc_sfl_image_2?ie=UTF8&psc=1&smid=A1DXN92KCKEQV4), so that's not too bad.  But if we somehow go into labor before 36 weeks we'll be automatically referred to the hospital, so as much as the planner in me wants to get it all NOW, I don't want to buy stuff till 35 weeks in case it's a waste.

 

As far as MY mental preparation, I am enjoying reading birth stories and watching videos/viewing pictures.  I'm also starting to think about what I personally need (list of sayings/strategies, playlist, natural perfume I've been associating with deep breathing exercises and relaxation, maybe a bathing suit or two to get in and out of shower and birth tub?) but I haven't really gathered it all up yet.  I am due 5/31, was induced at over 2 weeks late with DS, and so hope to have everything together by 5/1 and that should be plenty of time.

post #192 of 347
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I got my birth pool and supplies joy.gif, our concerns over the downstairs neighbors have pretty much gone out the window, still hesitant about my husband's step-mom and dad finding out, but at the same time, mehhhh. They won't be invited over while I'm in labor/we'll have an excuse why they can't come over if they are in town, so.. ha!

 

This reminds me... I am due 5/31 and my birthday is 5/30.  My parents historically visit for Memorial Day weekend.  They do NOT know we're having a home birth as they would flip out and try to talk us out of it.  I know I won't change my mind, but at the same time I don't want the negativity, so I'm choosing not to tell them.  I have no issue with them seeing the pool set up in our bedroom or whatever, as I have told them I do not want an induction and have switched to a MW-based practice who will let me go overdue, but they still think we'll go to a hospital once "it's time."  I am worried they'll be visiting when I go into labor and I'll have to basically kick them out of my house.  Ugh.  Not sure what to do about the situation, frankly!

post #193 of 347
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This reminds me... I am due 5/31 and my birthday is 5/30.  My parents historically visit for Memorial Day weekend.  They do NOT know we're having a home birth as they would flip out and try to talk us out of it.  I know I won't change my mind, but at the same time I don't want the negativity, so I'm choosing not to tell them.  I have no issue with them seeing the pool set up in our bedroom or whatever, as I have told them I do not want an induction and have switched to a MW-based practice who will let me go overdue, but they still think we'll go to a hospital once "it's time."  I am worried they'll be visiting when I go into labor and I'll have to basically kick them out of my house.  Ugh.  Not sure what to do about the situation, frankly!
I think DH and I will have a "code" if anyone is in the house when I go into labor, so he can kick them out gracefully but without making it obvious I'm in labor. I'm due April 21st and they are coming the 18th. I'm hoping to avoid the 2 weeks overdue thing I did with DS and go early this time haha
post #194 of 347
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I think DH and I will have a "code" if anyone is in the house when I go into labor, so he can kick them out gracefully but without making it obvious I'm in labor. I'm due April 21st and they are coming the 18th. I'm hoping to avoid the 2 weeks overdue thing I did with DS and go early this time haha

Teehee, myself as well!  Sharing my birthday would be neat.

 

I like your code idea, I'll have to discuss that with DH if it seems like my parents are definitely going to be in town.  Thanks!

post #195 of 347

We're doing good. We've gathered some of the things my midwife recommends (extra towels and sheets, puppy pads (aka chuks), shower curtain liners (Dollar store!), placenta tupperware (again dollar store!), Depends, straws, always have the olive oil on hand)... will probably just order her "essential" kit even though we might not need all of it just because it's easier. My mom heard me talking about waterbirth and went online and ordered my birthing tub as a surprise for me (La Bassine) because she figured it would be cheaper for me in the end, I can resell it after we're done and rental was kinda expensive. There are few more recommended things to pick up like miso paste and popsicles but nothing big. 

We just moved less than a month ago so now we're thinking we'll set up the pool in our eat in kitchen since it's fully tiled and next to a window for air if I want it... plus the sink is closer. 

post #196 of 347
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There are few more recommended things to pick up like miso paste and popsicles but nothing big. 

 

We just moved less than a month ago so now we're thinking we'll set up the pool in our eat in kitchen since it's fully tiled and next to a window for air if I want it... plus the sink is closer. 

 

Is miso for your post-partum meal?  I have never heard of that as a birth supply before, I'm intrigued!

 

Also... yes, I am wondering whether to set the pool up in our bedroom (hardwood floor...) or the kitchen (tile, next to window, near sink and fridge and everything).  Can't decide.  Part of me wants to set it up outside (!!) but we don't have a perfectly private back yard so I can't go through with it, plus what if I need it in the middle of the night and it's too cold?

post #197 of 347

It's in case I need some salt quickly/easily during labor. It was her idea, I've never even had miso soup before, lol. She also wants some Recharge or coconut water for electrolytes. 

post #198 of 347
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It's in case I need some salt quickly/easily during labor. It was her idea, I've never even had miso soup before, lol. She also wants some Recharge or coconut water for electrolytes. 

Mmmm, I love miso soup!

 

Another good option for electrolytes would be labor-aide (salts are electrolytes, same thing).  The recipe from my MW is:

 

 

1/3 c lemon juice

1/3 c honey

1/4 tsp salt

1 calcium magnesium tablet, crushed

Enough water to make 1 litre

 

I think I am going to make mine w enough water for 1/2 cup, and freeze it.  Then when I go into labor I can get DH to take it out of the freezer and add water so it's icy cold when I want it.

post #199 of 347
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Originally Posted by nstewart View Post

Mmmm, I love miso soup!

Another good option for electrolytes would be labor-aide (salts are electrolytes, same thing).  The recipe from my MW is:


1/3 c lemon juice



1/3 c honey



1/4 tsp salt



1 calcium magnesium tablet, crushed



Enough water to make 1 litre



 



I think I am going to make mine w enough water for 1/2 cup, and freeze it.  Then when I go into labor I can get DH to take it out of the freezer and add water so it's icy cold when I want it.


Ooh! Definitely going to make this, thanks for sharing smile.gif
post #200 of 347
I had Recharge for my son's birth, but have been drinking lots of coconut water recently, so I think that is what I'll go with. My home away from home (birthing on my midwife's farm) birth is still the plan. We've been working on getting my hemoglobin count up recently. My midwife does not seem worried, she thinks it's probably a B12 deficiency causing me not to absorb much. I've also ramped up my iron intake (green smoothies with chlorophyll and spinach daily, taking Florodix, eating more red meat). I hope it helps because, while my midwife doesn't seem worried yet, I know if I'm too low I'll probably be risked out. :/ Trying not to stress too much, though.
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