Thanks for the suggested resources ladies. I will be looking for these at the library this week!
Moriah, you will be able to answer lots of questions in this DDC I'm sure!
I am also curious and torn about having DS at home for the birth (if we decide for sure on a homebirth). He will be just shy of three. I am worried that he'll be worried about me, and confused about what is going on. I am worried that I will find myself focused on him and not on what I need to do (same reason I didn't want my mom at the hospital when DS was born and why I don't want her at the birth for this DC. I will end up focused on not worrying her instead of just making the noises I need to make and doing what I need to do). But I do love the idea of him sharing such a fundamental experience. How young is too young?
Also, mamas, do you think I should have a doula this time 'round? I am having a midwife this time, not a doctor. Also, I had a pretty quick and easy labour with DS (maybe 6 hours active labour, 10 hours from first contraction to holding DS in my arms) so I suspect the same to happen this time (if not faster). I really liked our Doula last time, but she lives over an hour away so I'm worried that by the time we call her when I'm in active labour and she gets to our house or the hospital I'll be most of the way through! Or maybe I should just try to find another doula (which feels like cheating on our previous doula).
Another question....have any of you that have HB'd before kept it a secret? Maybe this sounds odd. I'd gladly tell friends if it came up. I just don't feel like dealing with my mom's anxiety over the idea. She's like a dog on a bone when she gets something in her head and I know that she'll want me to have a hopsital birth (not because she knows anything about homebirth, but because she knows everything about everything. lol.) Would I be a terrible daughter for keeping it from her?