Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I still haven't decided what I am doing. I am sure that my mom is freaked out because she thinks HB is dangerous. She doesn't know anything about HB, or about the qualifications of midwives in my province or of my midwife in particular. With my dad, I could have an adult conversation, present him with information and explain why I've made the decision, and he would treat me with respect and respect my decision. My mom will yell at me and cry.
PM, your situation really puts mine in perspective. I am so sorry for what you are going through right now. I pray you find strength in yourself and from those who surround you and that you have a safe, healthy birth at home. How has your family reacted? Do you have the support you need for your birth and post-partum? I really, really hope and pray that you get what you need.
Thank you - I really didn't mean to hijack the thread from your very serious concerns with your mother! I feel for you on that. Luckily my family could care less about hospital vs. home, but when people ask "which hospital I'm going to," I usually just try to avoid the question and respond with which hospital I would go to in case of transport . . .
I know most people said to email, which I think could be okay, especially since the alternative is a very emotionally charged conversation with your mother, but in general I hate email for sticky subjects. It just always seems to come off the wrong way, because the other person can hear whatever tone they want to hear.