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Hey mamas!

 

Had my first appt today and very happy with it. One thing came up that I am wanting to research is the GBS test. I know a little about it, and I generally refuse all testing, however my mw explained that if we were to transfer to the hospital and I didn't have the test, they would automatically put me on antibiotics and wouldn't release us after the birth until the baby had been observed for 24-48 hrs. I don't want to deal with that in the event of a transfer, so I am looking into more info. It seems that if I had the test and it was negative, I would have a protection from that type of intervention. But, it also seems like a meaningless test since you can test positive one day and then negative another. I did refuse this test in my last pregnancy, but I am not sure the possible consequences were clear to me, or even the same since that was 8 years ago. So, I was hoping to hear some thoughts from other homebirthers while I research this so I can make a good decision. Anybody have any thoughts?

 

Hi! This is going to be long, I just want to prep you for what hospital experiences can be like if you are GBS(+) or GBS unknown.   I was GBS(-) for my first birth-no problem.  Then I came up GBS(+) for my second pregnancy (ugh!).  My OB (no midwife available in our area) said that to not have antibiotics for 6 hrs in labor would be malpractice in his mind.  I traveled to a high risk OB I trusted for a 2nd opinion, who said that "if you are worried about infection, have your baby at home, your baby is more likely to get a hospital acquired infection than GBS from you".  (I LOVED that OB, we moved and he delivered my 3rd baby).  At that point in time I couldn't switch doctors, felt locked in, so I agreed to get the antibiotics.  Fast forward to labor-my first baby had been incredibly long (46 hrs) so for my second, I wasn't in a rush to get to the hospital.  Less than two hours after my very first contraction at home, he suddenly descended and was crowning, and then born in two contractions.  His face was really purple (from bruising, but we didn't know it at the time) so we went to the hospital in the middle of the night with him.  They flipped out, and kept us for 48 hours to give him antibiotic injections in his legs until the blood GBS test they ran on him came back negative, then we were allowed to take him home.  In retrospect I wish we had waited for our regular doctor and skipped the hospital, but not knowing why his facial color was off we weren't wasting any time.  They treated it as a MAJOR risk factor. 

 

For my third pregnancy, again, I tested GBS(+).  I decided just to get the antibiotics in labor, because I never wanted to have a baby go through that again and I wanted to get out of the hospital quickly... this time I had a fast labor, and was only on the antibiotic drip for 4 hours before delivery (6 hours is considered completely treated).  My OB was fabulous, but the only person who could release the baby to go home was a pediatrician on call, and he was a creep.  He literally shouted at us for declining the Hepatitis B newborn vaccination, and kept our baby for 48 hours running blood tests for GBS.  The tests came back negative.  He still refused to release us, saying he wanted the baby to stay 48 more hours "for observation" (like I said, he had something against us for refusing the vaccination).  I asked what the observation entailed, and he replied "taking the baby's temperature twice a day to monitor for fever".  I told him I could take the baby's temp at home every 2 hours if he wanted, this was my third child and I was fully prepared to care for it, and he still refused to dismiss our son.  We left the hospital after signing A.M.A. forms, and since that involved leaving with a child, a social worker met us in our room as we were preparing to walk out. The nurses were FABULOUS.  They told the CPS worker that there was absolutely no reason for us to be kept in the hospital, the baby was fine and needed to go home. The case worker seemed really confused as to why she had been called if it was such a no brainer, but apparently any time you leave with a child AMA they automatically call a case worker.

 

Side note-in that (my third) pregnancy, I did do 2 GBS tests at the end.  I tried to change my status from (+) to (-) by upping vitamin C and taking garlic, but not diligently. I still tested positive at the second test.

 

In my 4th pregnancy, midwife still wasn't an option, my doctor I loved had moved to another state, and so I was back at square one with a new OB.  Upon discussing GBS with him, he said he only uses the last test (at around 36 wks) to determine status upon delivery.   This time I wanted to make sure if at all possible that the test wouldn't be positive, I didn't want to deal with the antibiotic and having to stay for blood testing.  A doula friend of mine who is training to be a midwife (and former Bradley teacher) gave me a protocol used by midwives for eliminating GBS in the body.  I did it diligently for 4 weeks prior to the test.  I'm happy to share it, it included taking lots of garlic, vitamin C, and echinacea.  The morning of my appointment, I bathed with Hibiclens.  My swab came back negative, and I plan on repeating the regimen this time.  Just a heads up, they can swab your vagina AND your anus when they test, so no wonder so many positives come up, because it generally colonizes the digestive tract.

 

My advice would be to try to eliminate it from your body with whatever regimen you are comfortable with prior to the test, and I think bathing in hibiclens helped.  Having a known negative test eliminates so much later stress if you have to transfer.   I'm hoping to homebirth this time (finally have a midwife in our area, and she's awesome-wooooooohooooooo!) 

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There is another thread on the pregnancy forum right now on a GBS protocol, just since this seems to be a topic of interest.

 

http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1364899/if-you-are-gbs-consider-this-protocol#post_17144822

post #43 of 343

Thanks mamas! That info is helpful!

 

augustashley, what an experience! Thanks for sharing and that is exactly what I want to be prepared for in the case of a transfer. I appreciate you sharing your story.

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Would love to have a home birth, but don't think it's a possibility for us.

 

First birth was planned as a home birth but ended up at the hospital due to PPROM at 35 weeks 2 days. We had no other complications during labour.  Ideally I would like to plan for the hospital, with a backup plan of a home birth if I make it to the 37 week mark. I have no idea if this is something that we can do though. As far as I know I will be deemed high risk this time.

Miss Ess- you might want to talk with a midwife, I know my DD was PROM at 35 weeks and my local midwives told me they wouldn't consider that necessarily high risk for future homebirths.

 

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I'm glad to know that someone else feels the same way!  I was feeling guilty or something for not wanting DS there, but perhaps I should just trust my instincts.

YES always trust your instincts! Even though I want my DD there and know she will be fine (my 5 yr old neice was at her labor, my hospital midwife was amazing at explaining what was going on and how I was in pain but OK) - I do think that families should do what they think is best for them and their children however- I was all smiles when I saw someone saying "trust my instincts" since that is what we'll need to do to get through the labor process!

 

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I just joined this ddc today. :) My official due date is June 1st but my babies come before my due date, so, here I am. :)

 

I am early June too, but am straddling the 2 groups to build community in both :-)

 

 

 

We are hoping for a homebrith- it is my intention, however my primary choice told me this week she is expecting the same time as me, which meand she cannot take me on as a primary- and also it means that my second will be taking her on....(though I am sure she can manage both of us) (really not fair, I have 3 who are all my first choice for many reasons, my primary choice was selected bc DH knows her- I am friends will all of them, it is hard to pick my "favorite friend".) The third lives over an hour away and I didn't jump on her first because of the thought of having to schedule prenatals so far away did not seem appealing, but if it comes down to homebirth or not, I will drive.

 

We also plan on having my DD (4- will be almost 5 when the baby arrives) home with us and I have asked my neice to come and be my childcare support person, as I want my DH to be part of the process. PLUS it serves as a chance to show my neice how incredibly powerful and capable our bodies are, normalizing homebirth for her (she is 19).

DH asked for a doula which I will do my best to find, I also want a photographer for the sake of wanting some photos (I am a photographer) so I am hoping to find someone local who will be interested in developing their birth portfolio and possibly be a doula as well? Who knows, I am dreaming... really because also my house is soooo small and I really don't want a million people in and out either.....In

my ideal fantasy world (and I really think I will make this happen) I will have a Red Tent set up in my house for me to labor in. I have such a close connection with them and I love the idea of giving birth in a red temple like that. I am sure some of my friends would come over and set it up for me if I asked. I really (for me) want my birth to be a spiritual rite of passage as well and plan on setting a birth altar up and a portal as we get closer in time :0)

 

Also wanted to mention the movie DOULA! has a nice waterbirth which my DD loves to watch.

 

Finally I do love the idea of a HB this time since we wont need to pack a bag, which I never got around to doing with DD since we were so early (I had actually planned to do it the day she was born, no lie!)

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I had a HB with my first and kept it a secret from my mom because I knew that she'd be so worried about it. I just kept referring to the midwife as the doctor whenever I mentioned the visits or she asked me how the visits were going. Once he was born, I told her that we just decided to do it at home because I wasn't happy with the care at the hospital. She said something like, "How could you do that, it's so dangerous!" We were having this conversation a half hour or so after I had given birth, so I just told here that I was exhausted and I would explain it all to her later. But she never asked and it never came up again. So it was no big deal. 

This time, I'm going to have a hospital birth (for a variety of reasons) and I'm so nervous about it! My homebirth was terrific and I would definitely recommend it. 

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In the spirit of preparing my boys (2.5 and almost 5 yrs) for the birth (a long way off, I know), we showed them a couple waterbirth videos from youtube the other night. My DH just informed me that while I was working tonight, they were 'having waterbirths' during their bath time tonight. They would yell, "The baby is coming!" then look in their belly buttons to see it some out. So maybe they missed some key points :) but I still think it is pretty darn cute. I love that my children will grow up thinking birth is a normal and natural life event.

post #47 of 343

hi all,

We're planning a homebirth as well. I laboured at home with my first and planned to have him at home, but after pushing for three hours with little progress, he was born in hospital (with 2 more hours of pushing!). Hoping for a homebirth this time. I love labouring in water, so my hope is to actually be able to birth in the pool this time as well. I had been giving some thought to whether to have DS in the house at the time of birth, he's 3. I've appreciated people's viewpoints on here, good to think about it from different angles. I can see that I would potentially be distracted by his needs. We have plenty of time to figure this out, but I think it may come down to how things unfold - if I go into labour when he's already asleep for the night and whether baby is born by the time he wakes up, where things are in the process when he wakes up, how long my labour is this time, etc... We are fortunate to have lots of family around who could help take care of him if needed, or someone who could be present for him if that's what we decide. I was also not a quiet birther last time, and I had this on my mind too. We have a big house, but the pool will likely be just below his bedroom. Good to know some kids have slept through it in even small apartments!

I hadn't given a lot of thought to labour and birth yet, it's been nice to think ahead and start planning a bit!

post #48 of 343
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In the spirit of preparing my boys (2.5 and almost 5 yrs) for the birth (a long way off, I know), we showed them a couple waterbirth videos from youtube the other night. My DH just informed me that while I was working tonight, they were 'having waterbirths' during their bath time tonight. They would yell, "The baby is coming!" then look in their belly buttons to see it some out. So maybe they missed some key points :) but I still think it is pretty darn cute. I love that my children will grow up thinking birth is a normal and natural life event.

That is so cute!!!ROTFLMAO.gif

post #49 of 343
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Miss Ess- you might want to talk with a midwife, I know my DD was PROM at 35 weeks and my local midwives told me they wouldn't consider that necessarily high risk for future homebirths.

 

It was our midwives who told us after the birth of our son that a home birth for our second would not be possible as I'd be considered at risk for PPROM again. I still intend to ask if it's possible if i make it to 37 weeks or beyond. Can't hurt to try wink1.gif.

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It was our midwives who told us after the birth of our son that a home birth for our second would not be possible as I'd be considered at risk for PPROM again. I still intend to ask if it's possible if i make it to 37 weeks or beyond. Can't hurt to try wink1.gif.


Did your MW mention ways to prevent PPROM. Research has shown that 1000mg of Vitamin C with bioflavinoids and Fish Oils taken every day from about 20 weeks onwards help to strengthen the amniotic sack and therefore prevent premature rupture. I did it with DS2 after my waters broke before labor with DS1 and my water didn't break until the first full spontaneous push, just 20 minutes before DS2 was born.

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I just have to say that its driving me nuts that it seems everyone else in this DDC has either seen or heard their babies on US/doppler. And now feeling movement! JEALOUS!! Even though I am very confident in my choices, I have this envy because I have to wait to see/hear/feel that little one in there, wah! OK, just needed to get that out. I will just have to be patient. I am getting a little sick of having to be patient! Does anyone else feel this way? I just feel like everything about this pregnancy so far has been about waiting. I should really count my blessings instead, but I am having a moment. Anyone else feel this way?

post #52 of 343
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I just have to say that its driving me nuts that it seems everyone else in this DDC has either seen or heard their babies on US/doppler.

I totally know what you mean! Although I have felt some (very subtle) movement, I haven't heard the heartbeat and will have to wait until at least 18 weeks for the ultrasound. And I'm feeling impatient too:) I was just joking with a mom friend that I wish I wasn't so sure of my dates so I would get a dating scan and I could see the little one already.

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I just have to say that its driving me nuts that it seems everyone else in this DDC has either seen or heard their babies on US/doppler. And now feeling movement! JEALOUS!! Even though I am very confident in my choices, I have this envy because I have to wait to see/hear/feel that little one in there, wah! OK, just needed to get that out. I will just have to be patient. I am getting a little sick of having to be patient! Does anyone else feel this way? I just feel like everything about this pregnancy so far has been about waiting. I should really count my blessings instead, but I am having a moment. Anyone else feel this way?


You are not alone in waiting it out, although we won't be having any u/s or Doppler for this baby. We're going the unassisted route this time and just bought a fetoscope so DH can check the heart rate later on. This forces us to be patient as the fetoscope generally doesn't pick up the heart beat until after 20 weeks, and since DH is going to have to train his ear for it I don't expect him to get a reliable heart beat until about 24 weeks, which seems so very far away right now.

 

I'm actually enjoying how laid back I get to be this time. No rushing around to get to appointments. No stressing about tests. No worry about how they will react to my weight gain etc.

 

And honestly I can hardly believe I'm almost at the 2nd trimester already (Fri/Sat) so I know the next 12 weeks are probably going to go by just as quickly with all the Holidays etc and 2 toddlers to run after. I'm just trying to enjoy those little moments that I get to savor with this pregnancy as I know it will all go by faster than I realize.

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Hey ladies! Im planning a possible homebirth. I want to see what happens. Im about fed up with the office im going to. I have a very small brain aneurysm that was diagnosed last year. Its so small that it is inoperable because it has such low risk factor for bursting. Going to a medical dr though, proves pretty stressful because it's brought up at every.single.visit. I had 2 homebirth transfers but vaginal births. My last labor was 7 days long and I went to the hospital and ended up getting an epidural at 9.5 cms (Transition reared it's ugly head and I was getting one) ugh. So im fairly certain we will be at home. My midwife is fine with my homebirth plan, if not, she can come with aas my doula.

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I'll be waiting for the fetoscope too, but the promise of feeling movement soon is what I'm holding out for at this point.

 

Torre, 7 day labor! Goodness! Hope your plans go well this time!

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After reading Ina May's "Birthing Matters", meeting my midwife again, and being part way through Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, I am now SO excited for a homebirth. smile.gif

I really feel my fears disappearing and think that things can go even better at home than they did in the hospital. 

 

I am trying to figure out the logistics of some things (like, the squat bar at the hospital was my life-line with DS, but what can I hang from at home?) but those are minor and DH is great.  Last night he promised to figure something out, and thoughfully too.  "It would be best if it could change in height, and if you could move it different locations."  He's so great.

 

I am working on getting past some guilt re: not telling my mom/family about the homebirth, and about wanting to protect our time afterwards more than we had with DSs birth.  I know my mom will be hurt/angry if I don't share with her, but I know I'll get the gears if I tell her we are having the baby at home, etc. and so she is her own worst enemy.  If she could just be supportive then I'd share more with her, but I don't need her negativity and judgment and "advice" interfering with my plans.  It's hard for me to cut her out in that way, but I think I need to.  I am fortunate that she isn't as extreme as some of the other parents here, but is similar in many ways to some of the moms others are dealing with, (controlling, manipulative, selfish, always right...) just not as extreme or what I would consider abusive, thankfully.

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I am trying to figure out the logistics of some things (like, the squat bar at the hospital was my life-line with DS, but what can I hang from at home?) but those are minor and DH is great.  Last night he promised to figure something out, and thoughfully too.  "It would be best if it could change in height, and if you could move it different locations."  He's so great.

 

 

 

Hi nstewart, this may or may not work for you, but I birth pulling hard on the edge of the bathroom sink. I used the squat bar at the hospital with baby #3 and WOW. I just happen to not be a waterbirther- I am a "kneel and pull hard" land birther!  ;) With babies 4, 5, and 6 I labored and birthed pulling with all my might from the floor on the edge of our bathroom sink. Wonderful! To think I birthed my first 2 flat on my back! oy.

 

Good luck with everything!

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After reading Ina May's "Birthing Matters", meeting my midwife again, and being part way through Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, I am now SO excited for a homebirth. smile.gif

I really feel my fears disappearing and think that things can go even better at home than they did in the hospital. 

 

I am trying to figure out the logistics of some things (like, the squat bar at the hospital was my life-line with DS, but what can I hang from at home?) but those are minor and DH is great.  Last night he promised to figure something out, and thoughfully too.  "It would be best if it could change in height, and if you could move it different locations."  He's so great.

 

 


My DH has one of those exercise bars that fits on any door frame for doing the pull up type exercises. Would one of them work for birth for you? It wasn't very expensive (about $20-25) and can be moved to any door frame in the house. Or you could put a long piece of fabric over a door and pull down on that (I think that one is illustrated in one of Ina May's books)

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My DH has one of those exercise bars that fits on any door frame for doing the pull up type exercises. Would one of them work for birth for you? It wasn't very expensive (about $20-25) and can be moved to any door frame in the house. Or you could put a long piece of fabric over a door and pull down on that (I think that one is illustrated in one of Ina May's books)

Yes, I mentioned one of those bars and it would work well I think.  What was great about the squat bar was that while I was pushing DS out I could rest on the bed between contractions, then sit up when I felt one coming, and ream on the hospital gown that they'd wrapped around the squat bar.  So something in our bedroom would be nice, but we'll see.  But I recognize that I may want something totally different this time.  Dr. Sarah Buckley's birth stories kind of showed me that each labour can be different for the same woman. 

 

It's been really interesting for me reading up on birth and HB and reflecting back on my hospital birth.  While I felt like it went amazingly at the time, there are things I look back on now through this different lense and see that they could have been better.  (Like waiting in triage for 2 hours, or like when the on call OB came into my room by mistake and then chatted up my Doula for 5 mins while I lay there naked almost ready to push...)  So part of me wants to think about these things and how they can be better at home, but part of me doesn't want to think about it because I want to protect the positive memories I have/had of my first experience.  I guess it's all part of growing and learning.

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I am in Vancouver, BC and am planning a home birth and was really happy to see this article a friend posted to facebook this morning. http://www.timescolonist.com/touch/health/story.html?id=7481232 Midwife attended births, at home and the hospital, have been covered for a while here, but to have someone in the government officially recognize HB as a reasonable and viable option is just fantastic.

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