Originally Posted by Loogiejane
Curious, when you tell someone you're having a homebirth and they look at you like you have a third eye, do you go on to explain why you're choosing it or do you just smile and nod? I often find it to be a little awkward when it comes up, the person looks like a deer in headlights and then I dont know if I should carry the conversation.
It's nothing that vexes or concerns me, just encountered it tonight and curious how others handle themselves.
I had this experience yesterday at lunch with some female coworkers (all moms themselves). I started to explain about "better outcomes" etc. but I didn't want to appear to be thinking of myself as "superior" or whatever, so I just sort of stopped. It'll either be a smile and nod, or an explanation, depending on the audiance for me. Someone I am close to, I would want to explain. Anyone else, unless they seem interested, I'll just grin and nod.
It doesn't vex me either, just drives me crazy how ignorant people are by thinking that homebirth is automatically dangerous, and hospital birth is automatically safer without having any actual knowledge on the matter, kwim? I am in no place to judge though, because prior to my pregnancy with DS and even more so this pregnancy I would have thought the same thing, having never heard otherwise from anyone.
Had an appointment with my MW this morning, and got some more information on all what is in the birth kit. The only thing they don't carry is nitrous (I didn't ask, but she told me they wanted to carry it but it's too volitile to have rolling around in the car). So, they have pitocin, oxygen, IV equipment, antibiotics, etc. etc. So, HB 100% for sure now, unless we are ruled out due to complications arising in the future. She also gave me the names of a couple doulas to contact who live close to us, so that's great too. She said she's happy to be hands on during labour, but depending on how fast it is going sometimes all she has time for is to get stuff set up for the actual birth when she arrives. So, given that DS was already "quick" by first labor standards, I think a doula would be good to have for support.