Our 20m old DD uses the toilet really consistently whenever she is diaper-free, but when she is in a diaper, she just uses them - she might tell us if she is pooping, but she doesn't tell us if she needs to pee. Since she's been so consistent with using the potty when diaper-free, I feel that it might be time to switch to training pants or underwear that she can pull down herself, but I have been hesitant to do anything yet because I don't want to introduce any confusion. We have cloth trainers that she should be able to pull up or down herself. We don't have any undies yet, but I could go purchase some if I thought she might use them soon, but I don't want to jump the gun (especially since she is in a constant bigtime growth-spurt!).
One issue is that she is with my MIL all day during working hours, who won't let her go diaper-free, so if she is ever to use the potty successfully over there, we need some kind of solution that involves wearing something. MIL also will likely not buy into anything that requires more work than changing her diapers, as she does now, so if there are a lot of accidents in the trainers or in undies, that could be an issue. On the other hand, because DD just goes in her diaper when she has one on, I'm not sure if she will behave any differently in a training pant or undies - they may just feel like another kind of diapers for her. I can certainly show her how to pull them down and explain how she can pull them off to use the potty, and maybe this will work, but I have been nervous about trying that because I'd like to keep things simple and consistent, and I don't want to rush her.
I feel like DD is ready to use the potty more often, but I think her current diaper/clothes situation is getting in the way, and I'm not sure how to proceed (and also don't want to rush her at all).
I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas or advice about whether trying the pull-ups would be a mistake that might confuse her, or whether it would make sense to try undies, or whether the two (since we have cloth pull-ups) are likely to work about the same - or is there another option? Any advice, or relevant experience welcome! Thanks for reading my post!