So, I am a first-time mom, and I have nothing. Well-- not nothing. See the "Have you bought anything for baby yet?" thread...
But I've started from scratch.
Over time, I've put together a really comprehensive (yet well-edited) Amazon wish list that I plan on translating into a baby registry, and I visited a local cloth diaper/babywearing shop with a great online presence, and plan to register there as well.
It... seems like a lot.
I mean, even though I won't be registering for a stroller, a crib, swing, infant car seat, exersaucer, etc., even many clothes... I estimated, and the total is going to be $2000-3000 (not that I think I'll get more than half that as gifts), depending on how I decide to edit it further. I don't feel like I am registering for anything unnecessary*, but I am trying to figure out what makes the most sense in terms of how I approach this...
FINE PRINT DISCLAIMER: I want to state for the record that DH and I are not super-comfy, but also not hurting financially, and I really could not care less if all I get gifted for this baby are lovely homemade cards. To get an idea of my gift-receiving mindset, I was like... seriously delighted and surprised to get any gifts for my wedding at all, even though, duh! People are going to give you gifts! We have a lot of friends and family who want to buy us things, but they run the gamut-- I have aunts and uncles living in trailers on disability, and another aunt who is a successful doctor with an office in Upper East Side Manhattan. Etc. I don't really expect anything, but I also know we'll get some things, so a (diverse) registry makes sense for us, I think. I've also used the wish list just to gather my own thoughts about what I need/"need."
Okay, a couple of questions:
-Is there a "strategy" for this? Should I only register for the stuff that's absolutely most critical, so I'm not disappointed when I get some very-nice-to-have-but-not-strictly-necessary things but my woven wrap or my diapers are still unbought? OTOH, for example, is it a good idea to register for the few crunchy toys I'm interested in (even though they're not critical), since maybe... people like to buy toys and if I don't do that, I'll get even MORE MIC plastic cr@p? (BTW, I am not banning all of that from my home, just plan on limiting it and not buying any myself.) You know what I'm asking? Strategic types? Thoughts?
-How about a diversity of prices? I feel like most of the things on the list are $10-25, with a few cheaper, and some in the $30-60 range, and just a couple things over $100 (car seat, one carrier that I MIGHT register for). Any strategy there?
-Will it be okay if I don't register at a B&M store? Pros and cons? My BFF said B&M registries are for the old folks who like to go in and touch and feel things, and I have to say... There's exactly ONE person like that in our circle that DH or I could think of-- my Bubbe (paternal grandmother). She still drives, likes to shop, but is stymied by the Internet (though she would give us cash or get someone to help her place an order). But my other grandmother, even all the older folks we know, even the people who have to use a prepaid VISA gift card to shop online... They actually prefer the Internet. Per above, I'm thinking of A) the local diaper shop (B&M location not super-convenient for most people, though), as they are mostly an online operation-- they have free shipping on all orders. And B) Amazon. I know I could register for a bunch of the Amazon stuff at a BRU or BuyBuyBaby, but it would almost all be more expensive, and I want a lot of stuff BRU and its ilk don't carry (like EC-related stuff, or unusual wraps or whatever). If I did BRU too, I'd have like 3 registries... Seems like too much. Insight?
-Is this all a colossal joke, and I'll end up with 432 receiving blankets (I am registering for zero, figuring I'll get a few anyway), 63 frilly girly and/or uber-boy outfits (even though sex will be a surprise) and 15 packs of sposies (even though I am CDing/ECing)? Not to mention, 5 copies of BabyWise?
-What (generally) did you or will you register for, especially for your first? And did you get much on your registry, or did people ignore it? Were you happy with the store you registered with? How did that work out for you?
*Really! Because I've been reading MDC, etc., and honing for months!