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sphinxy--I 4th the twice a day OPKs. The only way I would have ever have caught my surges was doing it that way. I always did mine once at 10am and again at 2pm. Sometimes I would add an evening one in if I thought I was close. Good luck!
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I just have to say I think the stylistic upgrades to this websites are schnazzy!!!

 

AMT Hey girl. It's so great to see your post. Sounds like your most  recent insem had great timing. Hopefully you will get good news in about 14 days. I'm so happy to hear that DW's health is stable. I will also be happy when you announce your BFP. FX.

 

Scorpio Thoughts about how to figure out good timing: I really have to say that I have no idea. I typically think that I have good timing- and then again I haven't gotten pregnant yet and I've been at this a while. I know that others will say that it's good to add up three signs: the position of your Cervix, the amount of egg white mucus, and the OPK. Good Luck.

 

Sphinxy: I second that there is a fine line between preparing 4 success and overthinking the process. My DW can confer that this ttc process has swallowed up alot of my identity. It's hard for it not too at times. I had a thought about your IUI at home dilemma. Have you thought about contacting your ob or other obgyn offices and inquire about discounted rates for procedures that don't go to insurance...like IUI. My ob has been good about giving us the IUI half off. I agree with all the others about best time for OPK. I always got my darkest reading around 1-3pm.

 

Fmorris My thoughts go out to you about your screwy cycle. It so hard to feel grounded when your body isn't doing what you expect it to do. I'm experiencing that right now. Just remember the case of Cananny - a couple months back I remember she was having trouble getting her AF. I think I remember that her cycle went something like 40 some days (Cananny- if you're seeing this- pls correct me if I'm wrong) It was such a fiasco to try to get her start her period. Where is Cananny now? Last I heard she is pregnant with triplets. So there- just remember, you are not being punished. you just haven't been rewarded yet.

 

Sandiego Last year I had 2 IUIs but never with a trigger. sorry about your BFN. boo on the BFN. Ditto to SunandEr and Jenny

 

 

2justicemamas yeah for your pending KD swimmer results. it's sucks that waiting is so much part of the ttc process

 

E2W: It is so exciting to hear how you guys were successful. Honestly if my hormones and uterus would just play nice then I could have a success story that looks just like yours.

 

 

Lizbian I second the cool username. Welcome. Like others have said you are in the right place. If you have any questions about anything, I've been doing this ttc thing for a hot minute now- 2 plus years- feel free to ask. Also if you would like some inspiration- you should look up Nos Reves over in QP&P, she is pregnant at 40 ready to bring in twins into this world in a month or two. She and partner live across the pond like you.

 

Outdoorsy: So exciting to see your betas! How great if you were another multiple carrier! You would be a member of a fast growing club here. I can't wait to be in your shoes lady. One day I know. Oh thanks for commenting on Miss Amira Jane. My 14-15 yr old kitty. She is the love of my life- ofcourse next to my wife.

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oops I forgot my update...

 

So I am having a polypectomy this friday at 7:30 in the morning. I'm super nervous about coming out of anathesia . When I had my last polypectomy last year, I had a crazy experiencing waking up and being super anxious- shaking, feeling somewhat paralyzed, and really cold. I couldn't talk and no one came and checked on me for what felt like hours. I'm getting it done in a different place this time. hopefully I won't be such a zombie afterwards.

 

Oh yes, listen to this, I started my period a week early this month on cycle day 24. I never have started that early- I read it could be bc of the clomid I took early this cycle or bc of the polyp. Any thoughts? Also I've been trying to hunt around on line for reasons why I got a polyp again ... when two months ago I had an u/s and no polyp was present at that time. I started clomid this cycle...took it about a week b4 the polyp was discovered. I have read that clomid is a drug you shouldn't take if you have a hx of endometriois like me. My doctor seems to disagree saying that he has never read any research on clomid increasing endometriois.

Any thoughts on this?

 

Lastly it's interesting that i'm having this surgery on friday and my sister is about to give birth in the next week or two. I definitely didn't think either one of us would be here a year ago. Oh well, everything happens for a reason right?

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Hey everyone! I posted here years ago (late 2009) when we were ttc, but due to the stress of home buying and grad school we took a break. That ended up lasting three years - mostly due to travel, my wife being laid off and my decision to add another major credential to my list. Last year I also did a big detox and lost a significant amount of weight, so I'm feeling much better about my health and our chances. We've been gearing up to ttc again and we're planing to start next month. We'll using willing-to-be-known frozen sperm and planning to do at-home IUI. We've done them before and feel confident in the process, but I know some folks on here have too and I'd love to chat with anyone willing to share more info.

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Invitn - I'm not sure how much Clomid you're taking, but maybe you could do a smaller dose? The first month I tried it, I had 100 mg prescribed by the midwife's office. Shortly thereafter, I ended up with a liquid cyst in my breast that had to be aspirated, and, the following month, I had an oddly light period and very short cycle. That sucked! Then, when I went to the RE, she put me on half the dose (50 mg) and everything seemed much better -- and now I'm pregnant in the second cycle with the smaller dose.

 

Welcome to the new people!!!!!

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hi all - remember me? no? oh, ok.

i had a blood test this morning (@16dpo, i think?) and it was negative, so i can be moved to waiting to O. AF has not arrived yet, but obviously it is not a situation for misplaced hope.

i'm looking forward to needles and shots, and more needles and shots! also, my organization got a new health insurance october 1 and apparently now i have some minimal fertility coverage for labs and monitoring, so everything won't be 100% out of pocket anymore. that was well-timed news because i'm starting to feel like i have a gambling addiction to the baby lottery. 

 

re: clomid i hated being on clomid. i had a lot of unpleasant side effects and never produced more than 1-2 follicles. some people just dont respond to it or respond really poorly to it. i took doses of 50,100 and 150.  

 

re: 2 iuis. i have read that there is not scientific evidence to support two IUIs are better than "one well-timed IUI" but determining what is "well-timed" for that particular cycle/person is often difficult. I think if we get a better response to follistim next time, we may try 2 iui's (on advice from our clinic). they warned us it has higher rate of multiples but really, that's a chance i'm willing to take at this point. plus, a vial of sperm+iui costs around $500-$1000 (appx) (out of pocket), and i'm spending a great deal more than that on follistim alone for each cycle. so if we have one follicle, no, probably not worth it, but if we have a stronger response, we will go for it. 

 

 


yay for the bfps! 

boo for the bfns! 

fx for the tww-ers!

hope you're all doing well! 

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Hi m&m - Sorry about the negative!  But what good news about your insurance!  That should take some of the pain out of the process, even if you'll still need to be poked with many needles.  

 

I hope you win the baby lottery next month.

 

invitn - Good luck with your surgery, although I am sorry you have to go through it.  I agree with you about anesthesia.  I hate it more than the surgery itself.  A speedy recovery and renewed baby hopes to you!

 

SunandEr, SanDiego - How is it going?  

 

outdoorsy - Are you a graduate yet?  I hope the pregnancy is moving along smoothly.

 

AFU - Almost six weeks, nausea is starting to set in.  I'm excited to be moving on but will be popping back in to see how you are all doing and hope you're all gone next month!

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thanks for the welcomes everyone nod.gif - my friend thought of my username which of course she's very proud of.

 

It's great I'm in the right place and it's nice to see so many other women going through the same experience. Good luck to everyone TTC this month - I hope it's a success.

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Sphinxy - I too endorse the twice-a-day opk testing. Try to do it at the same times every day. My midwife's office said once a day, but after I miised the surge one month, I vowed never to do that again. Like someone else said, I also used the cheapies to observe a fade-in before I started using the digitals. That way you don't plow through a ton of expensive testers. I found that sometimes the cheapie registered positive before the ditigal, though, and in that case, I used the digital for timing purposes.

 

invitn - good luck with your surgery!

 

mrsandmrs - sorry about the BFN. For anyone whose insurance will cover it, I heartily recommend ultrasound monitoring to see how mature your eggs are before you insem. It is so much easier to time it right! But I had to jump through some hoops (prove previous anovulatory cycles, have an HSG) before mine would cover it.

 

ETW - Hi! I won't be a graduate until at least Nov. 9, when I have my first ultrasound to, as my doc said, "confirm viability." How clinical. I hope you don't have much nausea -- and I'm wondering if/when I will get it.

 

Welcome, joyseattle and lizbian.

 

AFM - Wifey is rebelling against the customary system of counting how many weeks along we are from the date of last period, instead of the date of conception. She is being stubborn! So anytime we read something that says your little bean is such-and-such at 5 weeks, she has to insist that I'm really 3 weeks, etc. She knows that's not how they count it, but she doesn't like it. Also we are trying to decide on a hospital/doc/midwife so that if my ultrasound on Nov. 9 is normal and we get "discharged" from the RE, we know where to go next. I didn't realize how few hospitals have a true NICU and how many have just a "special care nursery" or whatever they call it. Even here in relatively populous Massachusetts, we would have to go farther than wifey wants to drive, and to a fairly big hospital, in order to go to one with a NICU. Hopefully we won't need one, of course! But we're trying to decide what to do. The smaller hospital we're considering is 35 mins from the larger one. Any thoughts, especially from those of you have given birth before?

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Outdoorsy--If the closest hospital is acceptable to you--I'd go with closest.  Being in a car whilst in labor is AWFUL.  We delivered our first son at the closest hospital to us, (15-20 minute drive).  It didn't have a NICU but we had no reason to believe we would need a NICU (the vast majority of babies don't) and we knew that if we did need a NICU it would be a fairly seamless transfer to the big fancy NICU downtown (an hour away--but an easy transfer via life flight if needed).  

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joyseattle:

welcome to you, and nice to meet you, too! orngbiggrin.gif

we are also using frozen sperm & IUI (also one ICI). where are you at in your cycle?

 

I can start the Nov. thread whenever... If anyone has a preference I will do that but I will start it on the 29th or 30th otherwise. 

 

invitn: thinking of you for your surgery. Sending healthy, fertile and healing thoughts your way!

 

afm: sperm is here! excited. we always giggle when sperm arrives, it's just so funny to have a big tank in the bedroom. waiting for OPK and ew mucus very soon.

had more baby dreams last night! oh my goodness. so many! 

 

ajusticemamas: what is your timeline like this month?

 

xo

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AFM - Wifey is rebelling against the customary system of counting how many weeks along we are from the date of last period, instead of the date of conception. She is being stubborn! So anytime we read something that says your little bean is such-and-such at 5 weeks, she has to insist that I'm really 3 weeks, etc. She knows that's not how they count it, but she doesn't like it. Also we are trying to decide on a hospital/doc/midwife so that if my ultrasound on Nov. 9 is normal and we get "discharged" from the RE, we know where to go next. I didn't realize how few hospitals have a true NICU and how many have just a "special care nursery" or whatever they call it. Even here in relatively populous Massachusetts, we would have to go farther than wifey wants to drive, and to a fairly big hospital, in order to go to one with a NICU. Hopefully we won't need one, of course! But we're trying to decide what to do. The smaller hospital we're considering is 35 mins from the larger one. Any thoughts, especially from those of you have given birth before?

 

If you have a healthy pregnancy you could consider a home birth!

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joyseattle - welcome! (back!)

 

m&m - sorry about your bfn. november, here we come!

 

invitn - thinking of you today. best of luck with your procedure! yes, when we were interviewing midwives at the start of this whole process we did talk about cost and the one we chose is very flexible. she took one look at our insurance coverage and basically told us that if we used her for the whole process (iui through birth) that she would just accept our insurance as payment in full without copay. but that doesn't come with much advice on the planning stages - while she can do iui, it's not her specialty so the timing is pretty much up to me and i just have to book an appointment and show up with my sperm. and i don't get the feeling she's interested in doing more than one per cycle for me, which is why we briefly entertained the idea of hiring a second traveling midwife to come to our house...

 

...so afm, dw and i had a fantastic talk last night about our plans and decided to do one iui at the midwife's office and one diy insem at home about 12 hours or so apart. we don't want to have to worry about catheters at home, but we have read that we can use our washed iui samples for ivi or ici if we want. so we're going to do some reading on home inseminations, and dw is going to break out her hiker's headlamp, and we'll see what happens! did i see someone post on here that they had some spare speculums? any advice on diy is welcome! my immediate concern is the impact this hurricane/noreaster that is headed towards the east coast will have on my sperm delivery! today is cd9, i usually ovulate around cd 17, so i was going to schedule shipment to arrive cd 15 just in case - which is the same day "sandy" likely will make landfall in my area. and to make it worse we might consider evacuating to my parents house, but i would need to make that decision today in order to reroute the delivery address for the tanks...

 

and thank you, everyone, for your thoughts on the opks. i've only got the cheap online ones on hand, hadn't even thought about buying a few digitals but perhaps i should. we'll see, i'm pretty cheap!

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OMG!!! we have a BFP!!

 

14dpo - FAINT

15dpo (today) getting darker

 

however, my wife is experiencing bleeding, which she's going to the DR today & also getting bloodwork today, please wish us luck that everything is OK!! I heard from 2 friends who also got pregnant and took the Crinone progesterone suppositories that bleeding occurred... they both have 2 healthy babies today.

 

wish us luck!!

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Congrats, SanDiego! Sending lots of good thoughts!
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Thread Starter 
I knew it! We just had to have more BFPs coming our way! Good luck and congrats!!

So many babies desperately wanting to make their entrance in the early summer!
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SanDiego!

YAYAYYAY! KEEP US POSTED!!

 

Sphinxy: we are doing the same thing this month: 1 IUI with midwife and 1 ICI at home. Last month we did 2 ICIs at home!

we ordered our speculum from the internet but we only used it for checking position of my cervix- not for insemination.

We just drew the sperm into a syringe, took the needle off, insert the syringe into my vagina and slowly depressed the syringe. 

 

Book that REALLY helped us: The Essential Guide to Lesbian Conception, Pregnancy and Birth by Brill.

 

what day are you on now? I am on CD14 and we are expecting to insem. CD 17 and 18, depending on OPKs/other signs. 

YAY!


Edited by scorpioma - 10/26/12 at 10:44am
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scorpioma - I'm 4dpo but we didn't insem this month. CD1 should be around 11/4 and then we'll insem roughly two weeks later. I'm currently debating between one IUI or two. I know Brill suggests two, but I'm thinking we'll do one for our first cycle and then see how it goes. We have a limited supply of swimmers on ice.

On the topic of OPKs, I use cheapies twice a day and definitely see a fade in. This cycle, I used digitals for confirmation and actually got three smilie faces (one at 8pm, one at 11am and then 8pm the day before confirmed O). So I think I caught the beginning, peak and tail of my surge with the digital and it confirmed the timing I had assumed with my cheapies (that I O within 12-24 hours of a stark positive with the cheapie brand I use). If that all makes sense!

SanDiego! Congratulations on the BFP and fingers crossed for you all!

 

This board is hot! I hope we get more BFPs and it holds out through next month when we're trying!
 

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Welcome.gif joyseattle and good luck!  It would be awesome if November is just as hot as this month has been so far.

 

 

SanDiego -Keeping my excitement small until you have more info, but it sounds great to me!  Congratulations!  joy.gif I've heard so many stories of healthy pregnancies with bleeding and/or spotting.  fingersx.gif

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OPKS: I'm doing twice a day with the cheapies, haven't the digital yet but am going to try this month to confirm the positive

 

Invitn: Thanks, the  process is seeming to take forever but it is somewhat good in a way, we aren't really ready financially to start trying yet so hopefully when everything is ready to go we'll be ready in all the other ways too. Hope your surgery went well and that the anethesia was a better experience. I'm not a big fan myself. Hopefully you will have more of the experience like the girl Elllen had on her show singing about unicorns and jc. lol.gif

 

Joy: Welcome, hope your stay is short

 

mrs: good news on the insurance, sorry about the BFN

 

Outdoorsy: funny, sounds like something my DW would do/say

 

Scorpio: good luck with your insem! Timeline this month is just waiting to get KD's test results back and trying to figure out when I ovulate. Next is donor contract

 

Sandiego: Congrats! So exciting biggrinbounce.gif Hope everything goes will at the Dr. 

 

AFM: DW and I had a long chat last night about TTC. If all goes well we'll be actually trying in 3 months, good to have a plan but it seems so far away. Has anyone else been on different pages as far as "feeling" ready? What did you do? 

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