Queer Conceptions - October 2012 - Page 19

[SanDiego78]

thanks SO much everyone...it's been so amazing to see the BFPs on the first response sticks, but the bleeding is very concerning.... right now we're in limbo...waiting on blood results (hope to have today) and we'll take it from there... & have another blood test in the next 2 days. I'm starting to have my doubts, but trying to keep it together and stay positive.

[granite]

Hi all!

I've been out with a dead computer plus a cold, so hibernating all week... So much to catch up on!

2justicemamas, my DP and I have *definitely* been on different pages about when to get going on the baby-making... A year ago, we'd actually been planning to be living in a different city by now, with DP attending graduate school. But then I got hit hard by a wave of hormones that told me if I wanted to get pregnant, I'd need to start ASAP. That, combined with a hard look at our finances and prospects (we were, and are, both fully employed in unionized jobs), and many many MANY long talks later, made us decided to stay put and look into conceiving a child instead. Maybe we're too practical, but that's the approach that brought DP and I together on this issue. I still don't feel like we're fully ready, but I don't think I ever will. The fact that you and your DW are already having long talks is fantastic! And January really is soon.

to joyseattle and lizbian! May your stay here be short and sweet.

SanDiego78!!! My fingers are crossed for you!!! Baby-dust... Stick stick stick!

Scorpioma, your dreams sound hilarious.. Please keep us posted. Also, thanks for agreeing to moderate next month... Threadkeeper's luck!

Sphinxy, I too am very cheap and have only used the cheapie OPKs... But then I'm working with a clinic that monitors me via blood tests and ultrasounds so am not depending on them in the same way you are. As such, I test every day at 10am, and that's it. I get a pretty good fade-in most cycles, except the last when I missed seeing a full dark line. FX that that storm keeps away!

Hi, mrsandmrs! I'm glad to hear you'll have coverage for your fertility adventures at last... That's so excellent.

I think everything does happen for a reason, invitn... But sometimes it's still really f*ing hard, especially when it involves surgery. Hugs to you.

I'm so sorry for the BFNs, SunandEr and fmorris28... Hugs to you as well!

Great betas, outdoorsy!

AFM: Another week, another blood test showing that my hormones are low low low... I'm on CD30, and no sign of O'ing. Even with my longer cycles, this is nuts. Boo! So I'm out for this cycle, and the clinic has a new protocol for me: Birth control pill for two weeks, then once AF comes, 100mg of clomid on CD3-9, followed by an ultrasound on CD15. It sounds like a bit of a rough hormonal trip for my body, but I'm willing to try it. 

I was talking with a friend about how my cycle is suddenly extra-wacky, and she said she isn't surprised, considering the stress I've been under: At the start of my cycle, DP was suddenly hospitalized with what we now know were haemorrhaging uterine fibroids and had to have emergency surgery. I don't know why I didn't share this with you all on here, but I felt really fragile for a little while. It was awful, but she was well taken care of, and is doing really great now. That was the same week that I was taking clomid, so it's also possible that I didn't notice many side effects simply because I was too distracted!

[scorpioma]

woke up with killer headache and an even worse sore throat/glands. really concerned about conception. 

can't detect a fever (used my BBT thermom!) but we're headed to the Doc now to get a Strep test and see what we can do...

oh, dear.

please send any thoughts on sickness/conception: good or bad. I just need the truth!

sperm in the closet! what terrible timing to be sick! 

[granite]

NOOOOOO, scorpio! That sounds like what I had last week!

(...Are we all somehow passing around our germs via computer?!)
 

My only knowledge around illness and conception is that a (straight, partnered) friend of mine got pregnant while very sick with the whooping cough. She didn't intend to, either... Just thought that being so ill would delay ovulation. It didn't! And she now has a healthy 4-your-old kid running around.

What did the doc say?

(Also, get that sperm outta the closet! Out and proud!)

[scorpioma]

Hahaha! Now the sperm is in the office, Granite. It's just so unwieldy in the big container!

The Strep test was negative, which is good. I guess I just had a momentary panic that all of my baby dreams would be shot. It seems like everything is going to be just fine. 

[SanDiego78]

hcg - 13 on 15dpo....low but still early, crossing fingers it sticks!

[darthtunaqueen]

Outdoorsy: I missed the part where you needed a NICU?  If there isn't any reason prior to needing to deliver at a hospital with a NICU (high order multiples, gestation less than 35 weeks, known life threatening complication, known immediate surgical need, like Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia or a complex heart condition).  Out of the 45,000 babies born in BC each year, in our massive 64 bed NICU we see about 400-500 of them, and most of those are just premature (like Adair!), so less than 1% of all the babies.  Don't make "hospital has a NICU" your priority!!

Sandiego: congrats on your BFP, hope it sticks.  You could have a vanishing twin bleeding...

Scorpio: BBT thermometers don't work to detect fever (they're not designed for that).  Crack out a regular thermometer if you think you have a fever.

[Sphinxy]

scorpio - i hope the tickle in your throat was nothing! i can empathize - coughing through the last bits of my week-long cold today. hopefully it won't screw too much with my cycle!

sandiego - fx for you. stick, stick, stick!

granite - sounds like maybe last cycle just wasn't meant to be. glad to hear your partner is doing better now, and fx for getting your cycle back on track this coming month!

afm - still bracing for this "frankenstorm" in northern nj. i'm on cd11, usually o between cd 16-18, so i ordered the vials to arrive on cd 14 just in case they are delayed a day or two. it's looking more and more likely that we'll be without electricity for at least part of this week. SO glad i requested the tanks to be delivered to me at home and not the midwife's office - this area is prone to serious flooding so it's possible we'll be stuck doing both insems at home. hopefully i can just stay as calm as possible and keep some good baby-making vibes, come what may! FX please that my delivery arrives safely/promptly!

[scorpioma]

YAY Sphinxy: we will be in the 2ww together!

Waiting on a +OPK today, tomorrow or next day! So soon!

my DP has family in NY so we are watching the storm a bit- wow! 

good luck!! What a time for Fed Ex! Keep those swimmers safe!! 

[darthtunaqueen]

Sphinxy, wow!  If this one sticks then you'll have a *great* story for your kid.  :D  If not, then you still have a great story!!

Speaking of crazy weather, I'm in Vancouver and so everyone freaked out about the earthquake last night.  It even prompted a whole #prayforcanada and for Justin Bieber's fans to flip their shit (since he's Canadian.... except that his family is in Stratford Ontario, which is just about on the other side of the country from us!).  This morning everyone appears to be OK.  :) Granite, did you feel anything?

[granite]

Nope... Though a friend was at a hockey game in Kitimat and it shook the whole arena: They evacuated for about 20 minutes or so, then went back in for the rest of the game! I was up late working on some sewing projects when I saw the tsunami alert go out across my FB feed, but it was all the north coast... And then the CBC reported that the wave was only about 50 cm high, so I figured we were safe. It's actually a nice, clear, almost sunny day here on the south island!
 

[outdoorsy]

Between the hurricane brewing outside and staring at the calendar waiting to see if there's really a baby in there at my Nov. 9 ultrasound, it's hard to concentrate today.

Sphinxy -- Good luck on safe delivery of the sperm, and on your insems! Fingers crossed that everything will work out well for you and result in a BFP. (I can see the baby name list now... "Sandy," "Storm," etc. Here's hoping this is your month!

Darth - Thanks for the reassurance re NICUs. I didn't really know the drill before I started looking into it, but I have an acquaintance who went to a hospital with a NICU "just in case." Hopefully that won't be necessary for me.

To everyone weathering the storm -- literally or figuratively -- GOOD LUCK! Hugs!

[KnittingTigers]

Outdoorsy, ditto on the no need for a NICU talk. We lived in Providence when we had DD, and actually chose Memorial in Pawtucket over Women and Infants, even though W&I has a NICU and does most of RI's births. Memorial wasn't as big and shiny, but we had a great experience, and I had exactly the birth that I wanted, which I think might have been harder at a bigger hospital. Good luck!
 

[SanDiego78]

OMG - we're going in the right direction! HCG went up 6x since Friday... still a low #, but it's getting higher at the right rate!

[pokeyAC]

Congratulations SanDiego!  That sounds like a great increase!  You must be feeling so relieved.

[SanDiego78]

thanks Pokey!!

I have no words for what I'm feeling right now - definitely relieved & mostly in shock.....it's been a roller coaster of a few days....we're SO excited that it's official, and we're out of the 'gray' area!  How are you feeling by the way?

[pokeyAC]

I'm feeling pretty decent.  I have to eat constantly to avoid the nausea, but it seems to be working.  I feel off in some ways and tired but nothing too terrible.  We had our first ultrasound on Thursday and we go to see the little bean with its heartbeat and it was really cool.  How are you feeling?  Symptoms setting in?

[SanDiego78]

 That is so exciting!! Wow your first u/s already, time is flying.  Congrats again!

Me - I'm a-ok...lol.  My wife is the one that is preg.

I may consider doing so in a year or two! (probably not)

[pokeyAC]

Oops, sorry!  Sometimes I get confused. Is your wife feeling ok? 

[scorpioma]

So many congratulations SanDiego! AGH!

YAYAYAY!