I always take note whenever my "I'd never's" come back to in the form of humble pie. I think it's a good exercise in humility and personal growth.
We've been an open, relaxed schedule family ever since our now 11 year old was born. Reading articles over the years I suppose I patted myself on the back that we were doing well by our kid in this regard. Fast forward to 11, 5th grade and a kid who as a few more interests than in years past and we suddenly have a rather full calendar. And wouldn't you know it, DC just this morning told me she wants to join drama club.
I'd love to share our schedule with you for some feedback. Maybe she isn't all that scheduled for your average 11 year old - maybe some of you think she is. Maybe you have some suggestions about how to either cut back or create time to "just be".
Her schedule is:
- Monday - a free program for young kids offered by one of the best schools in the city / something DC tried-out for and got a space in - a wonderful opportunity and a priority for the year.
- Tuesday - carpool and alternating (2x/month) game night with school
- Wednesday - soccer (for the fall)
- Thursday - homework club for 45 minutes after school followed by carpool / DC had a reading delay 2 years ago and I'd like her to do this club / if she gets into drama club she will do this on Thursday instead of homework for the month of the club
- Friday - free and school gets out at 1:15 / 1x/month playdate and frequent impromptu playdates
- Saturday - soccer and frequent play-dates / birthday parties
- Sunday - free / often plays with neighbors
- Homework - this year is the first year that DC will have homework. It will come home on Monday and be completed by Thursday for homework club.
- Chores - DC has a small amount of chores, which we've been slacking on because she's been busy. I don't want her to not have household responsibilities just because she has an active life. I'd love to hear opinions and thoughts on this issue.
- Neighbors - we have lots of neighbor kids so DC is never without someone to play with. Sometimes this seems a blessing and a curse because when she's getting (what I think to be) much needed alone time/head space there are often neighbors stopping by to play.
- This early in the year there are likely to be more activities offered that DC wants to add. Our community offers so many free activities that it's sometimes difficult to pass up.
So, what do you think? Does this seem like an ok level of activities for an 11 year old?