The "One" Thread for Sept. 30 - Oct. 7 - Page 2

[SweetMama34]

kitteh - hope there are some concrete answers for you soon - but then again, as we all know, sometimes we just don't get the answers we want! I'm usually thoroughly confused at some point in every cycle. :P

I just realized that the last time I was 8dpo (where I am today), I had a BFP. I don't feel the same as I did then. Didn't even think of testing. Haven't been temping consistently, as I've had a cold, have been breathing through my mouth and getting wonky temps anyhow. I also had a sudden onset of dizziness/nausea today which made me go 'hmmmm....' - but then again, my head is full of snot and it's making me dizzy. Dizzy = nauseous, so nothing to be excited about. I may or may not test in the morning. I'm not overly excited about it either way, which is just so odd.

I think my friend's recent tragedy just changed perspective for me. I'm more intent on taking things day by day, moment by moment - and less focused on end results. That's not to say I won't be sad when AF arrives, or elated when I get a BFP. It's just that today, I'm feeling ambivalent.

[InLove2009]

Sweet Mama- I am sorry that you feel that way. It sounds like you just feel really distant. I also hope that your head cold is better soon! You are in my prayers and I hope that your heart will heal from your tragedy. 

[kitteh]

I think that taking things day by day and moment by moment is a great approach, and one I'm really trying to embrace. When I think too far ahead--how many weeks will I be at Christmas if I'm pregnant now? How about DD's birthday? What kind of maternity clothes will I need for that season, etc etc--then I end up becoming really attached to that particular outcome without realizing it, which makes this crazy TTC journey so much more difficult. So I'm trying not to think too far ahead and instead am focusing on the moment. Trying to, anyhow.

This evening's OPK was negative, which is actually a relief. I really hope that I have already O'd and am not going to O later. I know that having a -OPK now doesn't necessarily mean I've already O'd, but it still was a relief to see. Now we'll just see if my temp continues to creep upward.

Edited by kitteh - 10/2/12 at 9:59pm

[SweetMama34]

Originally Posted by InLove2009 

Sweet Mama- I am sorry that you feel that way. It sounds like you just feel really distant. I also hope that your head cold is better soon! You are in my prayers and I hope that your heart will heal from your tragedy. 

Yes - I think I'm feeling somewhat detached, which is expected after shocking and tragic news. I'm coming back, though...today was easier than yesterday, which I was grateful for.

[SweetMama34]

....oh, and I'm testing in the morning. Waaaaay too early (9dpo) - but why not? My last BFP was at 8dpo. :P

[anyalily]

Amlikam, congrats! I guess that's what the f was going on...

Kitteh, I hear you about not wanting it to be a chore. I have not had my temp spike yet, I may have been delayed because I got a shock a few night ago. I am ashamed and horrified to say that I have discovered bed bugs in my house.  This is one of my greatest fears, I mean it literally, and I have been totally obsessed trying to clean the house and wash everything I own. Had to drop a bunch of money on a cedar oil treatment, and I am just praying it does the trick. I do not want pesticides in the house! And I want bugs even less! The little jerks have been biting us for a while and I have been searching for fleas, bed bugs, ants, spiders, anything that ould be biting... Why they only now made an appearance, I do not know. Ugh. So gross.

Don't worry friends, you can't catch bed bugs through chat rooms. I hope you all will still be my friends. 

SweetMama, hearing about your friends terrible tragedy puts this in perspective, that I am blessed to have buggies and still have my loved ones. I have really been spinning out on this and I am sure the stress has set me back in one way or another. I am sending you a hug and wishes for strength. What a nightmare.

[MyKidKissTrees]

omg!  anyalıly!!  we JUST went through that.  I am SO SURE ıt was bed bugs.   We are vısıtıng famıly ın Turkey rıght now.  We fırst went to bodrum (agean sea area) and we were EATEN ALIVE at my MILs house!!!  And then to the black sea regıon and the fırst few days the kıds were stıll gettıng eaten and then ı used a carpet steamer on the matresses and floors... totally stopped!  goodluck!!  that ıs lıke my WORST fear!  We could never see them though... ı kept loookıng and lookıng... nothıng.  just horrıble bıtes all over me.  lıke lıterally HUNDREDS AND HUNDREDS of bıtes!!  I was dyıng ı was ıtchıng sobadly!!  (apparently they lıke the one wıth the warmest temp and ı cuaght a mıld cold whıle ı was here but ı guess enough to raıse my temp...)  nıghtmare!!!  ıf ı could post a pıc of what ı looked lıke ı would.  ı mean... ı was covered from head to toe... about the only place ı dıdnt get bıt was my vajayjay.  maybe even there too but ı was all amazonıan down there and couldnt tell ;)  goodluck!!!

ALSO!  they lıked coconut oıl whıch ı had been puttıng on my skın to relıeve the ıtchıng... uh... ı had about 1000 more after ı used that.  so ı closed the lıd tıght after that and ıt calmed down a bıt.

[Stevi]

Ugh! I think I have them too! (Bed bugs, I mean.) I started waking up with tiny, itchy bites about a week ago. I've been in this house since July, so I don't know why they are suddenly showing up. I have never had them before, and brought all of my own beds and bedding from the old place. There are no carpets here, either, so I don't know where they could have hiddin...

I'm allergic to many pesticides, so I have to find something besides poisin to get rid of them.

Think Fertile Thoughts!!!

[SweetMama34]

anya - don't worry!!! SOMETHING is biting the hell out of me nearly every night in bed. But I'm the ONLY one getting bit. How is that possible? Our dogs did get fleas this summer, but we did massive flea control and pretty sure it was under control - so WHAT keeps biting me? How do I know if I have bedbugs? I've washed and washed and washed all bedding in hot water and borax, vaccuumed like crazy...I don't see anything, so what is it?

Thank you all for the amazingly wonderful support. I have a few PMs from amazing women who have offered tremendous support as well. Haven't gotten back to those, but I will (if you're out there reading this now!)

Before I do that, will you tell me what you see here?

9pdo...had an extreme dizzy/nauseous little thing yesterday, boobs have been heavy/super sore and well....my temps were good and I figured I'd test today. Did NOT expect this. Super shocked.

Going in for an HCG quant in a bit - and again Friday morning. PLEASE, be a sticky baby this time!!!! (and I'm really stunned by the irony of conceiving right when my dear friend lost her baby - I'd trade this baby so she could have hers back if I could....I really would.)

[anyalily]

Oh no, maybe you can catch them through the interwebs! MyKid and Stevi, it is hellish! I am so sorry you have experienced this. I have read that steam and heat kill them, but sometimes you have to combine it with something else to get them all. I recommend this stuff called CedarCide. I don't want to advertise, so you can PM me for the deets, but it is a good preventative measure and it kills them on contact, plus the eggs, without harming the humans and animals. I had a small amount and was sometimes spraying my bed clothes, and on those nights I did not get bitten. I have faith that once I do the whole house once or twice, the biting will stop. I may have to do it all over again or try the heat thing, but at least I have something to fight them with.

Stevi, they hide in tiny nooks in bed frames and in the seams of mattresses, etc. They can also hide in the wall sockets. If your landlord did an incomplete treatment before you moved in (like just bombing or dusting the place or something) they could have been replenishing their numbers and are just making an appearance now. Nip it in the bud!

Anyway, I had my temp shift this morning, but we have not DTD since Sunday night so I think our timing wasn't great. I felt like I was O'ing but I think the stress of this whole thing may have delayed it a day or two. With DH on a twin bed in the office and me on the couch there hasn't been space or time for us to meet. Oh well. It is possible, but unlikely.

[anyalily]

SweetMama, wow! Sticky vibes to you, for sure. I am so excited for you!

About the bugs... they don't live in the bedding, they live somewhere nearby. One thing you can do it put white sheets on and look around for blood spots. They also have little glue traps. It is common for only one person to be bothered by them... Some people don't react and get noticeable bites, and sometimes they just seem to prefer someone. Get rid of them now, so you don't have to deal with it with a new baby! Oh, and they only move around at night, so you could turn the lights on late at night and go hunting.

[SweetMama34]

Originally Posted by anyalily 

SweetMama, wow! Sticky vibes to you, for sure. I am so excited for you!

About the bugs... they don't live in the bedding, they live somewhere nearby. One thing you can do it put white sheets on and look around for blood spots. They also have little glue traps. It is common for only one person to be bothered by them... Some people don't react and get noticeable bites, and sometimes they just seem to prefer someone. Get rid of them now, so you don't have to deal with it with a new baby! Oh, and they only move around at night, so you could turn the lights on late at night and go hunting.

Thanks for the tips...but oh my goodness...this is all sounding really horrifying.

[kitteh]

OMG, we're going through a bedbug scare right now too!

When we first moved in here we met our (very... strange) neighbor Billy, who drinks about a case of PBR a day and chain smokes. He's a good guy with a good heart, I think, but to be quite honest, I really wish he wasn't our neighbor. Well, he informed us early on that he had bed bugs and started to complain about how he'd had a REALLY bad infestation at his last apartment. I got the impression that he though it was his apt manager's fault. He moved here maybe 6 months before we did, so I asked if he'd gotten professional treatment or had gotten new furniture when he moved in and he said no to both. He didn't seem to understand that if his old apt wasn't treated and he moved his furniture here, then HE brought the bugs with him. He also complained that his bedroom here had gotten so bad that he had to move to his couch, and now they were biting him there too. Everything I've read about bed bugs says that if you leave the bed and sleep elsewhere to avoid being bitten, you'll only make the problem WORSE and spread the bugs over more of the house, because some of those little monsters WILL come looking for you.

He also adores DD and tries to give her little gifts like stuffed animals and whatnot on a pretty regular basis. I always throw them out right away and never let her touch them, or even let them in our place. But he can't walk and uses a scooter to get around, and he likes to give DD rides on it (on his lap.) I try not to let him, but he has done it once or twice.

So anyhow,  I asked if he was going to have the place treated, and he mentioned something about rubbing alcohol and bug spray. So I called the manager to make sure she knew he was infested, and they had the dudes with the bug-sniffing dogs come out to check his place and then I guess they treated it. That was a few months ago.

We share a wall with this guy, so I've always been really paranoid about the bed bugs making their way over to us, but we have no shared vents and no outlets on that wall, so I figured we're ok and just kept my eyes open. Well, the other day I was sitting on the toilet and saw what I thought was a tick crawling across the bathroom floor. I yelled for DH and the little bugger squeezed itself under the metal carpet plate/doorjam thingy. Luckily we were able to fish it out with a tweezers. Neither of us knew what it was, but I knew it wasn't a tick. For some reason I didn't even think of bed bugs, it was much bigger than I thought bed bugs got. So we stuck it in a little tupperware container and called the manager. They sent over one of the exterminator guys, who confirmed it is a bed bug, but that it looked like it hadn't fed in a while. None of us has experienced any bites, I don't think, but I have read that some people don't react to the bites and might not even know they are being bitten. Also, since DH works overnight 3 shifts a week he is really only in the bed maybe during peak feeding time 4 nights a week, so maybe he is just getting lucky? The exterminator did a visual check of our mattress and some other areas and said that he didn't see anything, but since we obviously had a live adult in our place, that we should treat as if we have an infestation. He pointed out that it could have been a female, and they lay eggs frequently.

So that is where we stand right now. I'd rather be safe than sorry, but I also don't love the idea of poison in our home. Plus the prep work for the treatment sounds like a total pain in the a$$. But I'd hate to decline treatment and then have a problem later... ugh.

Sorry for the novel!

[anyalily]

I am starting to realize that most people have had experience with bed bugs but maybe no one wants to talk about it. Kitteh, sorry you have a lame neighbor. I feel sorry for him too, because I was thinking about what happens if you are just not up for the fight. Well, you live with bed bugs. Gross.

Kitteh, pm me if you want info about the natural remedy I am using. The prep is the same but the PCO exterminator guys don't always get them all the first time and I hate the idea of repeat exposure to bug spray if it can be avoided. I think if this stuff is used right, it is just as effective as what they do, and if you have to repeat it, at least it is not a neurotoxin.

SweetMama, it is sort of horrifying but only because it is so much work and there is no quick solution. They do not spread disease like fleas and ticks, so it is just a nuisance. I keep having to remind myself of that. LOL

I have been feeling kind of desperate about figuring out where the bugs are coming from before we have another baby. It is bad enough that my little sweet daughter gets bites a few times a month. Usually on her toes or the soles of her feet. It really brings out the mama bear in me and makes me want to destroy them! Rroar!

[kitteh]

Oh and, CONGRATS SweetMama!! What great news for you. I just read about your friend's tragedy and I'm so so sorry for her loss, I can't even imagine.

AFM, my temp finally spiked today and FF thinks I O'd on Sunday, which is what I think too. We didn't manage to BD on Sunday, but did every night the 4 days leading up to O so hopefully that will be enough. That puts me at 3DPO. I'm still getting over a head cold and trying not to symptom spot during this TWW. But I can't help noticing how painful my nipples are, especially when DD tries to nurse. OUCH!

I hope that SweetMama's BFP is the first of many this month! Baby Dust.

[SweetMama34]

kitteh - we didn't BD the three days before I ovulated - so it's definitely possible! I conceived before with much better timing (every day, the day of twice...or something like that).

Sooo many ups and downs this month...this week, even. I hope this BFP starts a trend for our little thread, too!

[Stevi]

I found out what is biting me. While getting into my car this morning I saw a bug taking a stroll down the driveway. I recognized it right away; it was a Hualapai Tiger, aka the Kissing Bug. They are native to the desert and usually live in packrat nests, but will settle for human dwellings. I have met with these creatures in the past, trying to get rid of them as a teen is how I learned that I'm allergic to insecticides.

I'm going to try and spray around the outside of my house, and seal along the floors in my bedroom and just hope that works.

[anyalily]

Originally Posted by SweetMama34 

kitteh - we didn't BD the three days before I ovulated - so it's definitely possible! I conceived before with much better timing (every day, the day of twice...or something like that).

Sooo many ups and downs this month...this week, even. I hope this BFP starts a trend for our little thread, too!

Uh oh. And here I was thinking I missed it because we didn't DTD the two days before O. Maybe I am still in the running. 

[anyalily]

Originally Posted by Stevi 

I found out what is biting me. While getting into my car this morning I saw a bug taking a stroll down the driveway. I recognized it right away; it was a Hualapai Tiger, aka the Kissing Bug. They are native to the desert and usually live in packrat nests, but will settle for human dwellings. I have met with these creatures in the past, trying to get rid of them as a teen is how I learned that I'm allergic to insecticides.

I'm going to try and spray around the outside of my house, and seal along the floors in my bedroom and just hope that works.

Kissing bugs, I know nothing about them. Are they as hard to get rid of as bed bugs?

[Stevi]

Anyalily...   I hope not!!!