I had a natural birth with my DD in the hospital, but I hated my OB, every prenatal visit, and the stress of just being in a hospital. They wouldnt let me out of bed, and I had the IV and contsant monitoring. From start to finish I was only in labor for about four and a half hours, and I really felt like that's what kept the interventions from being much worse. Now that I've had a taste of what the difference can be with a midwife, I'm terrified to go back to the super medical side of things. I love that no one has touched my vagina, and I'm not being patronized about the forty pounds (!) I've already put on this pregnancy. I absolutely hate being confrontational and difficult, so I get very nervous about going into the hospital wanting everything to change for me.
So I'm just wondering if anyone can give me some encouragement about birthing in a hospital or advice about how to still have a good birth there. Last time my goal was to have an unmedicated birth, but this time I don't want ANYTHING done to me or the baby, and surely I can't actually achieve that, right? I'm assuming I'll have to give in on some things like cervical checks or some kind of monitoring?
I'm sorry this is so long; I'm just hoping for some encouraging words to help me move past grieving the loss of the homebirth I've wanted for so long to feeling good about the birth I can have in a hospital. I feel a bit guilty for being so upset about it since the biggest difference is that my husband actually gets to be there now!!