I'm now 10 days away from my due date and my mom who was supposed to come help after the homebirth has gone bonkers! I'm a single mom by choice, so I have no partner to help care for myself, my baby, or my 3 year old son. My midwife wants someone to be with my son, my baby, and I for atleast the first 24 hours after the birth.
My mom has bipolar and she has apparently decided that this is the time that she's going to go completely manic. She's been so stable for some many years that I thought I could depend on her to help out, but I was apparently very wrong. She is so manic that she can't even hold a phone conversation for 30 seconds due to no attention span what so ever, and she doesn't think there's anything wrong with her. I'm calling her doctor's office tomorrow morning to report her as being in danger because she needs help now, and she's not getting it. She is so exhausting that I'd rather be without any help what so ever after the baby's born than have her here. I know I'm going to break her heart to when I say she can't come help too.
Thanks for letting me vent as I'm one exhausted pregnant mom, and I'm really suprised that my mom has not put me into labor already with all the added stress she's added to my life for the past week.
So what would you do for after birth help? I'd just prefer for it to be my 3 year old son, my baby, and I and have a neighbor check in on us every few hours. I know that wouldn't satisfy my midwife though. I've had people offer to help out, and I feel bad taking them up on their offers. But maybe I should just do so. We live in a small rural area, so hiring a post partum doula is not an option this late in the game even if there were any close by which there are not. So I'm open to any suggestions because I'm very dissappointed right now that what I had planned is not going to work unless my mom comes out of this manic state very soon and gets back to her old self.