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post #101 of 222
No I did not see that Jaimee!

I've always been too nervous to try the diva cup. I bleed VERY heavily and I'm not sure it would work for me. I've also heard that its pretty messy.
post #102 of 222
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Originally Posted by dashley111 View Post

No I did not see that Jaimee!
I've always been too nervous to try the diva cup. I bleed VERY heavily and I'm not sure it would work for me. I've also heard that its pretty messy.

 

It is pretty messy, I won't lie. I can't imagine using it if I were out of the house all of the time. No idea how you'd use it in a public restroom. But the instructions do say it can safely be worn for up to 12 hours without removal, so that is helpful during low flow times. I'm like you, Ash, with a heavy period. It was working out okay the first two days of this cycle but I had to switch to tampons/pads today until my flow decreases again because the cup wasn't staying in place very well since it was constantly filling up. I'm still sold on it, though!

post #103 of 222

I suppose it is messy, in it's own way, but I felt way messier, and dirtier, when I was using pads briefly during the heaviest part of my period. I was leaking all over the place, I felt the need to shower all the time, I had to deal with the used pads etc. With the Diva Cup I empty it every 3 or 4 hours on my heaviest flow days, and every 12 hours on the other days of my period (morning and evening, when I am almost always at home.). I've used a cup on an airplane, when camping, in countless public bathrooms, and it's not a problem. Camping I would just bring a bottle of water in with me for rinsing, and public washrooms I just empty it without rinsing it for that one time, unless I am out all day, and need to empty it more than once, then I will do the water bottle. 

 

And yes, you do get blood on your hands occasionally, but when you get good at it, it's rare, and you just wash your hands, no big deal. But it feels way cleaner over all, because all the blood is in the cup, and none of it gets on your labia at all, usually. TMI? Well, I find that awesome. 

 

I don't think I have a super-heavy period, but I do have heavy periods, and where "dealing" with my period (leaks, messes, garbage, remembering to bring pads with me etc) was a part of my life before, I feel like using a cup, I hardly ever think about having my period when i have it. Really!

post #104 of 222
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Originally Posted by birdhappy85 View Post

 It was working out okay the first two days of this cycle but I had to switch to tampons/pads today until my flow decreases again because the cup wasn't staying in place very well since it was constantly filling up. I'm still sold on it, though!

 

What are you doing to get a good seal? I make sure mine opens all the way inside, then shimmy it further inside, and give it a couple of turns to make sure it makes a seal. This keeps it in place even on the heaviest flow days, when I have to empty it every couple of hours. But of course, everyone's body is shaped differently. I had way more trouble with it pre-childbirth, or perhaps it was the Keeper vs. the Diva Cup. 

post #105 of 222
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What are you doing to get a good seal? I make sure mine opens all the way inside, then shimmy it further inside, and give it a couple of turns to make sure it makes a seal. This keeps it in place even on the heaviest flow days, when I have to empty it every couple of hours. But of course, everyone's body is shaped differently. I had way more trouble with it pre-childbirth, or perhaps it was the Keeper vs. the Diva Cup. 

 

I pushed it in as far as I could and gave it some turns, making sure it was open inside, but it still kept sliding down when I moved around doing normal activities (I think due to too much lubrication in there). It got uncomfortable hanging so low, and I was less than enthused about dealing with so much blood on my hands so frequently emptying/cleaning/re-inserting. The last time it fell straight into the toilet before I could stop it and I was so grossed out duh.gif. I had to boil it. I still had a ton of blood in a pad even with the Diva Cup inserted today. I really had no idea just how heavy my flow was until using this thing! Jeez! Pads and tampons really must be that absorbent that I had no concept of amount. I was in shock, really.

 

Btw, I did make sure to get the Model 2 (for women who have delivered vaginally before). 

 

I'm so new to this that I'm sure I do need more practice getting a good seal. If I'm getting a ton of blood on my hands, what am I doing wrong? I was surprised to read you say that it's rare to get blood on your hands! You have such a good seal that you don't even need to wear a pad???

post #106 of 222
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I'm so new to this that I'm sure I do need more practice getting a good seal. If I'm getting a ton of blood on my hands, what am I doing wrong? I was surprised to read you say that it's rare to get blood on your hands! You have such a good seal that you don't even need to wear a pad???

 

I usually wear a pantyliner on my heaviest flow days, but for the periods I had between Mirabel and Oren, that wasn't usually necessary. I've only had two since Oren, and the first was light, and the second I was sick, so I don't know what things will be like this time around. 

 

I don't think you're doing anything wrong - I think that it just takes a while to figure out what you need to do to get a good seal over your cervix. Like maybe you have a tilted cervix, and what you actually need to do is tilt your cup, or maybe twist and pull down a little, or twist and wiggle, or something. But yeah, if you are getting lots of blood coming around your cup, getting messy hands and need a pad, I would say that you haven't yet figured out how to get a good seal. Especially if you pull the cup out and it's only half full or something. But it totally could be a heavy flow problem, too.

 

I also lose my seal if I let my bladder get too full, or when I have a BM, or an orgasm. OK, this feels like serious TMI, sorry to those of you who are perfectly satisfied with your AF hygiene routine!

post #107 of 222

Aside from you posting pictures of your vagina, I don't think we could all have possibly shared more with each other...this board is where TMI comes to die.

post #108 of 222
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Aside from you posting pictures of your vagina, I don't think we could all have possibly shared more with each other...this board is where TMI comes to die.


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post #109 of 222

I love how we think "TMI" when it comes to detailed AF hygiene but when it came to popping out babies from our vaginas? Anything went, including pictures.  ROTFLMAO.gif

 

Thanks for the help, KayPea!

post #110 of 222

Jaimee-- I love those Crappy stories. I always forget about that blog, must get back to reading it more often! Anyone here ever read Hyperbole and a Half? Has she put up anything new recently? Her last post had me concerned for her well-being...

 

Diva Cup: I thought about trying one, but I have an IUD and I think it's a no-no with an IUD. Something about the suction possibly pulling the IUD out, I think. I haven't had a real cycle yet though, so no need for one here! I'm not sure if the no cycle is from nursing or from the IUD, maybe a combo of both? My cycle came back with DD1 when she was 4 months old, so I'm thrilled to still not have one! Occasionally, I have a day of mild cramping and slight spotting. Nothing a panty-liner can't handle though...

 

Nicole: OMG! I'm glad Conner is okay, he must have been so scared!! I'm so glad he didn't get hurt and the fish was okay too. I'd count that as a lucky day, even with the broken tank!

 

AFU: The girls and I are going to the pumpkin patch tomorrow. This is the 3rd year we've gone to this pumpkin patch and we always have a great time. There's a petting zoo, a huge playground, a train ride, plus the hayride out to the pumpkins. Last year when we went it was less than 2 weeks before Greta was born. I can't wait to take her for the first time! 

 

Today is our crazy day... I am baby sitting my cousin's daughter for a few hours, DD1 has preschool and dance class. I have to finish up progress reports for my students and we have parent-teacher conferences all evening tonight. But I'm off tomorrow and the rest of the weekend. DH and I are even getting the night out on Saturday! A local winery is having a costume party we're going to and my sister owes us a night of baby sitting. So yummy wine, brick oven pizza and free childcare, woo hoo! 

post #111 of 222

DivaCup: When I have my heaviest day, I might need to wear a liner, but usually not. That thing works great! And I too fel way less messy than using pads- gross.

 

AFM: Nochy started waving and walking behind  push-behind toy yesterday. It was so much fun.

post #112 of 222
As of Monday, I am officially TTC again. I finished my BC today and will be out of town this weekend, away from DH... So Monday, it begins...
post #113 of 222
Lol, what do you have to do to start TTC that early in you cycle?

Laughing because when we started TTC my MIL said, "You're trying in June? So June first?" And we had to explain ovulation and everything.
post #114 of 222

Ohhh good luck!!

post #115 of 222
Good luck :) My hubby keeps asking that we start TTC ... :) I am just not ready yet. I need to loose a few pounds before I will feel ready (I am a plus size mamma) - I retained a lot of weight while nursing, and when I tried to slowly loose, my milk supply just dropped so badly every single time ... but Eli seems to be self weaning (feeling a little sad about it but it is up to him) - he is definitely more interested in food than nursing. But hopefully early in the new year we will TTC :)
post #116 of 222

Ive noticed B is slowly transitioning to more food/less nursing also.  She has had a streak of independence the last week where she has learned to drink from a sippy cup,  slept through the night 4 times in her room (never ever happened before), and nursed way less during the day.  I would say cluster nursing in the morning and early afternoon, then hardly at all the rest of the day/night.  We also left her with a babysitter, her grandma, for 5 whole hours...and she didn't scream the whole time.  Its a first! 

post #117 of 222
Thread Starter 

Good luck Nicole!  Are you charting and all that?

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Eli seems to be self weaning (feeling a little sad about it but it is up to him) - he is definitely more interested in food than nursing. But hopefully early in the new year we will TTC :)

Sonja, it is a rare baby that self weans before the age of one.  Often a baby will go through patches of less nursing due to any variety of things: teeth, illness, milestones, new foods, etc. and then pick it back up again at other times as necessary.  I mention this in case you really want to nurse him longer.  If he decreases his nursing, you can continue to offer the breast at regular intervals and it is likely that he will increase his nursing again down the road.  But if you stop offering and he decreases nursing more and more then your milk will diminish and he will nurse less and less until it's basically gone.  This is sometimes how women have said their children self weaned, but really it was just a lull that resulted in a cycle that lead to weaning.   Getting pregnant could also alter your milk and decrease your supply- I know it did for me!  Just another thing to think about as you embark on the TTC journey.

post #118 of 222

Mamas with babies who say they are self-weaning, please read the articles at this link. Babies typically self-wean closer to two years, not one. Before that it is a nursing strike. http://kellymom.com/bf/normal/babyselfwean/

post #119 of 222
I agree with Jaimee about pregnancy hitting supply hard. It also makes nursing more painful for many women.

Shay is also nursing notably less. Mostly only for naps. I think it would be pretty easy to wean him now if I wanted to. I think toddler nursing is awesome, tho. Shay is certainly a toddler now. He talks now, too. No one can understand him, so I wonder how long he's been doing it. He said "bay" while reaching for a berry, "meh" while pointing at medicine and again while holding a dropper, and "bah ah" while reaching for band-aids. Those are the only obvious ones but I wonder how many I've missed.
post #120 of 222

Yay, Nicole! How exciting!

Levi is still nursing hard. He won't eat. And while I know lots of women in my AP group who have children who didn't eat food until a little after 12 months, I can't help but worry because I haven't ever nursed this long. My other two were consistently eating solids between 6 and 7 months.

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