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[KayPea]

Oren is nursing less and eating more too - during the day. At night he still nurses from about 330 until 6. Non-stop. And this after waking once at midnight, and sometimes at 2. I'm SO TIRED. 

[Jaimee]

Becky, just keep offering and he'll eat in his own time.  Really, as long as he's nursing regularly, there is no cause for concern over nutrition until he's much older- closer to 15 months.  I had some hard core AP friends that wouldn't even offer food until their babies were over a year old.  That being said, if you see other signs of possible allergy or digestive issue that could be preventing him from wanting to eat solids, then that could be a cause for concern.  Any rash- diaper or elsewhere?  Persistent diarrhea?  Etc.?

[seraf]

How could you keep an older baby from eating? Even Soren is pretty clear about desperately wanting food and I have to wrestle it out of his hands/mouth. I think I would have to lock Shay in another room to keep him from eating. He just walks over, grabs food off the table/counter and shoves it in his mouth.

[MrsKatie]

Toooons of nursing still over here! KJ still nurses 2-6 times at night and a billion times during the day.  First thing in the morning she nurses for a long time.  She is in love with nursing.  She will often pop off, go get one of her toys, then come back and put the toy to my nipple and make a lip-smacking sound like the toy is nursing.  Sometimes she does this with stuffed animals, but she doesn't really discriminate... she's been known to make a bouncy ball and even my bra strap "nurse."

[seraf]

Katie, too cute.  Shay does that to Sara but not me.

The kid is talking up a storm now. It's like the dam burst.Eat, more, another, bite, (hmm, I'm noticing a theme) poop, potty, baby, me, trampoline.  He only says part of the word, tho.  If I say, "would you like another?" He confirms by saying "Eye uh uhhu" with all the right inflections but few of the sounds.

[birdhappy85]

I'm on edge right now. Breaking news on the TV just said there has been a mass shooting mere blocks away from our home... They don't know confirmed details yet but 7 shot. It's really unsettling because we're in a town where you would least expect something like that to happen, one of the safest.  I don't understand why so many mass shootings are happening lately. I'm upset that DH is so desensitized to these things that he thinks I'm overreacting to be so scared... The shooter is still on the loose. I can have a freak-out if I want to! *hmmph*

[seraf]

Joanie, I'm sorry that happened. I would be upset, too. Violence usually has a motive (I like to think) so I would guess if it happens in my neighborhood I would be related to drugs or a famil dispute. Suddenly seeing that those things were happening near my home would upset me, even if I didn't fear for my personal safety. I would certainly keep the kids inside more in the short term. I hope you are ok emotionally and the families of the victims, oh I hope they can somehow be ok.

[Becky Wheeler]

I agree with Sara. I would also be very upset. We live in a crunchy, university town that isn't too big. I wouldn't expect anything to happen here, but you never know. 

[dashley111]

I'm sorry Joanie. Things like that happening are very unsettling even if your personal safety isn't compromised. Just having to acknowledge the potential for violence happening in your safe place can be shattering. We had some crazy stuff happen in our town about 9 months ago. Very violent things for such a small town. And everyone really reeled over it for quite some time, even the older children.

[Mal85]

Wow Joanie, I would be very scared too. 

Weaning... DD1 weaned at 14 months. I was literally wrestling her to the boob and she had night-weaned on her own and was consistently STTN. Looking back, I probably could have powered through and continued nursing during the day. But we were talking about TTC, so I went with it. I never had any regrets. Greta has a love-hate relationship with the boob, so we'll see how long she goes. I would be fine with weaning anytime after a year, but if she's attached to it we'll keep going. Right now, she nurses very well overnight, 1-2 times most nights. She also LOVES to nurse as soon as I get home from work. It's kind of our time of reconnection. It really doesn't matter when she ate last, as soon as I come home, she wants to nurse. Literally spits the pacifier out on the floor and comes in for the boob. That's really the only time she does that though. Most of the time, she could take it or leave it. 

She has started this awful thing with flicking my nipple with her teeth. It's not really painful, she's not biting down or scraping, just playing with the nipple with her teeth. I. hate. it. It sends shivers down my spine every time she does it. I think she's doing it because her gums are sore and she sucks pretty vigorously before the letdown. I imagine that vigorous sucking isn't very comfortable on her sore gums, so she just starts playing with the nipple instead. The constant stimulation does bring on the letdown, but I can't stand the sensation of her doing it. 

And you people talking about TTC... crazy talk! No, really, after my first I was ready to start trying again right after she turned one, so I get it. I am SO not ready right now. I think when Greta starts preschool will be a good time. I'm still on the fence about having another... usually I lean more towards not having anymore. But I just finished watching the More Business of Being Born series, so right now I want to have another!

Oh and our pumpkin patch trip didn't really go as planned. It was really cold and windy that day, so my mom ended up keeping Greta while we took the older kids. They were so excited about going and old enough to know what was going on (DD1 actually remembered the place from last year!), we didn't want to let them down. So, it was a shorter trip than normal. DD1 had a blast and I think she really liked getting some special time with me. I was bummed Greta couldn't come though. I was so excited for her to see the place for the first time. 

[dashley111]

I hear cricket sounds in here.  Where is everyone!?

[Jaimee]

I'm comatose b/c dh has been out of town for two days and my kids don't sleep.  Avalon has a cough, Austin is scared of the thunder, and Avery, well, you know how that goes.  So when dh is gone, it's all mom, all night, in and out of bed with three awake kids with needs.  He's home now, but is leaving again in 5 freaking days for a whole lot longer.  Shoot me now.

[Becky Wheeler]

Been busy with BF stuff and trying to keep up with the kids and the house. Aaaand also been napping a bit during the day, since Levi likes to get up in the middle of the night to play. He seems to sense when daddy gets home and wants to see him.

[seraf]

I can hear crickets, too, because there's a wily one and the spider can't seem to catch it.

Jaimee, how long will your DH be gone? If you cleaned your house and then came here for a week, you wouldn't be alone and the house would be clean when you got home. It would be chaos with 2.3 children per adult but that's slightly better numbers than you have alone. I'm off work from Halloween to November 6. Tempting, yes? Lol.

Our boys are just getting over some sniffles. Shay is all toddler now. It's pretty stinking adorable. He has some kind of gift for opening things and busting his face. Not much else going on.

[Autumnshades]

Trying to catch up on housework here ... its been on the back-burner since Eli was born.  He is also not sleeping much at night  so I have been taking advantage of his afternoon nap and the cooler weather makes sleeping in my comfy bed so much better .  All warm and snuggly.

I feel for you Jaimee.    There are some days where I am super thankful that my hubby is on his way home from work.  I have been dealing with crazy migraines the last week or so and without my darling hubby's help I would have gone insane.

[dashley111]

Oh yuck Jaimee I'm so sorry :/. If only we were all close and could be as awesome of a community IRL as we are online!

Not much here either. B took 3 steps today. She has been sleeping in her crib, but crying/whining about once every 30 minutes and comforting himself back to sleep. I actually get less sleep when she sleeps alone because of it, because every time I start to get back to sleep she does it again.
I'm going to tough it out and hope it gets better.

[birdhappy85]

Originally Posted by dashley111 

I'm sorry Joanie. Things like that happening are very unsettling even if your personal safety isn't compromised. Just having to acknowledge the potential for violence happening in your safe place can be shattering. We had some crazy stuff happen in our town about 9 months ago. Very violent things for such a small town. And everyone really reeled over it for quite some time, even the older children.

This is exactly how I'm feeling, Ash. I've been sad and irritable ever since the shooting happened. I lay in bed crying alone for no reason. I couldn't pinpoint why it upset me so much until I read your post and realized this did shatter this safe place I created in my mind where we live. It was a domestic violence situation gone lethal, so it could've happened anywhere, but that still doesn't seem to make me feel any better... Senseless deaths of innocent women, and families torn apart. I can't even drive up the street without all of this replaying in my head. It's the first thing I think about when I drive past the building. I have always been a deeply empathic person... It's like I'm grieving and I wasn't even involved. I don't even know how to deal with this. On top of it, three friends of mine have told me recently about serious marital issues (cheating/abuse) and it's all painting this gloomy picture of the world for me at the moment. DH, baby, and I are going away for a weekend soon, so hopefully I can re-center myself and focus on the good things in life.

[KayPea]

Joanie - I felt like this recently as well, when we were worrying about abuse with my friend's son, and then she split up with her husband in an unfriendly way. Then just a couple of weeks ago, two kids from our "tribe" sustained needle-prick injuries from used drug needles in a community garden that we had been playing in weekly for the past couple of months. it just made the world seem so sinister, and like I couldn't trust anyone, or go anywhere. 

But, I'm feeling better about it all, day by day. Her son's penis-obsession passed, it seemed to be just a phase. She and her husband seem to be better people after splitting, despite how difficult it has all been, and the community has really rallied after the needle incident with love and activism, and the world seems like a better place after all, even if bad things can happen, because good people can rise above it. 

[Becky Wheeler]

Originally Posted by birdhappy85 

This is exactly how I'm feeling, Ash. I've been sad and irritable ever since the shooting happened. I lay in bed crying alone for no reason. I couldn't pinpoint why it upset me so much until I read your post and realized this did shatter this safe place I created in my mind where we live. It was a domestic violence situation gone lethal, so it could've happened anywhere, but that still doesn't seem to make me feel any better... Senseless deaths of innocent women, and families torn apart. I can't even drive up the street without all of this replaying in my head. It's the first thing I think about when I drive past the building. I have always been a deeply empathic person... It's like I'm grieving and I wasn't even involved. I don't even know how to deal with this. On top of it, three friends of mine have told me recently about serious marital issues (cheating/abuse) and it's all painting this gloomy picture of the world for me at the moment. DH, baby, and I are going away for a weekend soon, so hopefully I can re-center myself and focus on the good things in life.

Is your husband more understanding about it, instead of brushing it off? I'm glad you guys are getting away for a bit. That'll be good. 

[Becky Wheeler]

Originally Posted by KayPea 

Joanie - I felt like this recently as well, when we were worrying about abuse with my friend's son, and then she split up with her husband in an unfriendly way. Then just a couple of weeks ago, two kids from our "tribe" sustained needle-prick injuries from used drug needles in a community garden that we had been playing in weekly for the past couple of months. it just made the world seem so sinister, and like I couldn't trust anyone, or go anywhere. 

But, I'm feeling better about it all, day by day. Her son's penis-obsession passed, it seemed to be just a phase. She and her husband seem to be better people after splitting, despite how difficult it has all been, and the community has really rallied after the needle incident with love and activism, and the world seems like a better place after all, even if bad things can happen, because good people can rise above it. 

There has to be some bad in order to recognize and appreciate the good.