I do say be careful. Which usually prompts Gabe to say, "big ouches?" and I say, "yes, if you are not careful, you can get big ouches" - it's not to tell him not to do something, but not to be reckless, which the older and bolder he gets, the more he is. A little bit of caution is not a bad thing. Generally I love how fearless he is, but sometimes it goes a bit too far.
That, and I hate to say this, because I don't really like the idea of older siblings having to watch out for younger ones (as in be an example - that puts a lot of undue pressure), but Norah DOES try to do things that Gabe does. And she is just not quite ready for some of it. And so, while she is awake and active, I kind of try to keep the daredevil stuff down to a minimum.
Pushing and hitting: me too, because I feel my options suck. You saw on FB about how Gabe loves to push Norah down? and she loves him doing it (most of the time) . . . I can't find a good reason to stop it while she's laughing and giggling, but I do try to make Gabe aware once it's gone too far - "Norah's crying now, not laughing. let's take a break from this game and give her hugs and kisses instead" Which works for a little bit. Our bigger issue is lately Gabe doesn't want to share me, (literally, he says, "Gabe no share mommy") and pushes or kicks at Norah to get away. What my gut reaction is to do is to push him away and cuddle Norah, who was just pushed and wants mommy time too, but I feel this is wrong in that all it does is cement a preference in Gabe's head, where there really isn't one. And make him more jealous of the mommy time he does have. So I usually pass Norah off to DH, and sit and talk with Gabe, but this also doesn't feel quite right.
If I were a toy they were fighting over, i would just take it away for a bit, but that's not really an option.
Carrie, is it just general pushing and hitting, or more specific stuff?
Annie: She stands on the chair all the time, right? and she fell once. Falls happen. Even to grown people. I can go up and down stairs a hundred times, but one time I will trip. doesn't mean I stop using the stairs. Ava seems like the kind of independent little person that no matter what, she's going to do it - climb, jump, whatever. You just try to find safe ways to do those things. (like maybe only climb the chair if mom or dad is sitting right next to you?)