Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes
Oh ouch! I crossed my legs just thinking about that. Yes, I could def see why you NEED to avoid that next time!!
What sort of birth are you planning this time? Same? (Hospital? Birth Center? Home?)
10 hours of active labor?
Now I want deets!
I will start sending my good labor/fast labor juju. Finn's labor was 3 hours of active and maybe 10 min of pushing. It was so freaking incredible and easy. I wish all babies were born as easily and w/o complication. I realize this is not possible but it was really the picture perfectest labor and I have such fond memories. I'm torn b/w wanting to do it again, and never wanting another b/c his birth was so perfect, I don't want to risk it going horribly!
PS I'm SO GLAD you're out on FB. I love seeing your updates!!
MW - how are you? Not getting updates again? You should know by now to just CHECK THE THREAD silly!!
Ugh. Crossed my legs too. When I think about my birth/postpartum period, I'm far enough away from it now, that I can look objectively and realize how insanely different it would have been, had I not torn, and had such bad SPD pain afterwards. My actual vagina felt fine, and once I remembered the witch hazel and the swelling went down, I felt ok down there. But learning to move with stitches I was terrified to rip out, and still having the SPD pain, was atrocious. Taking away even one of those... it blows my mind how much easier it could have been.
I'll put my good thoughts in as well. I totally see this being your easy peasy labor. It was super easy to get pregnant, the pregnancy feels like it's kind of flown by, and it's a third baby... I think you could totally do a 6 hour or so labor.
Mine was 12/5 hours from very first contraction to end, with 2.5 hours of pushing. Ugh. I can think of so much in hindsight I could have done to make it easier. I think a shorter pushing stage would have made a world of difference too. I should have hopped off the bed and squatted for too longer, but I was exhausted and lazy, so I didn't. I should have made Rob hold me up, but it didn't even occur to me.
Carrie-- I've thought about the idea of being a surrogate after we have a second. I just find so much magic in pregnancy and birth that I honestly can't imagine being done that either. If I'm honest with myself, I could sooner be done "having kids" and not have a second, than I could accept not being pregnant and giving birth again. I -need- to give birth again.
RE: Names. I still have moments where I'm sad about Tenley's name. I kind of wish I'd fought and gone with Harper. It's ok though, because it's her middle name, so if we decide/she decides, we wouldn't have to change it, it's already there. Everyone says she fits Tenley so well, and I see it, I guess I just still am not in love with the name. DH is though. And when I talk to her, I always call her Tenley Harper, rarely just Tenley so I suppose there's not a big difference. And I already said if the next is a girl, she'll be Adelyn Grace. Baby Addie.
Had a doula interview/meeting tonight. My first one in YEARS. I was so nervous, and felt like I kept repeating gibberish, but I think it went alright actually. I connected really well with the mama, the father was understandably a little bit quieter and awkward. They're still very worried about the cost though, so I'm not sure if they'll end up hiring me.
It is --sooo-- hard to talk as a doula now, without putting my own experience out there. And so many people say not to do that, but it's hard, when I remember things about my own birth that the doula did, or didn't do, or I felt, etc etc, and wanting to share that knowledge with another soon to be mama. I need to step back a bit and keep that to myself. Or at least tell it as if it's just a story from a birth I was at, not my own.
Kat-- that type of thing with the Zoo, drives me NUTS. DH does the same thing. I'll plan out something, give him an insane amount of details, and then he'll say ok, but he has to... I dunno, drop by his parents to pick up the lawnmower first. (This happened last week). I was like ok, no problem. They live two blocks from us- so I tacked on like 5-10 minutes into our timeline. Well what he MEANT was that he wanted to pick up the lawnmower, mow our lawn, then load it back up and take it back. I was like WHAT? You knew we had something planned!!
On the topic of births and newborns and dealing with toddlerness.... I'm just feeling in the past few weeks that I could do it if we had another now. That's not to say I want another now, or would try for one right now- but if presented with the choice have one now, or not at all, I'd have one now. Even a month ago, that thought still would have terrified me. Also my segueway into, we dtd last night and didn't pull out or use protection or anything. He didn't bother asking until afterwards, and I hate freaking condoms so much, I didn't speak up. Meh. I'm pretty sure I ovulated already anywhere from 3-7 days ago. And my LP have been short anyways (from what I can tell, since I'm not realllly charting, just paying attention to CF and a little bit of o type pain.)