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Martha: Your son sounds similar to my oldest (who is 5 1/2 now). She didn't speak at all until she was almost 2. Developmentally she was behind with all her milestones. She didn't have a club foot, but she didn't crawl when the other babies did, and she didn't walk when they did either. We took her to get her speech tested shortly after she turned two, and were surprised that she still tested normal, albeit on the low end of normal. They recommended we go further with the testing because she had some red flags for autism, but we declined. We felt that it would be better to wait and see rather than have her officially labeled as having "something." I am so glad we did! By the time she was 3, she was almost "normal." She still has something about her that is different than other kids her age... emotionally she is "off", though you'd have to really know her to notice. I'll never forget the first time she finally said "Momma." I was in the garden and she'd had just gotten back from somewhere with my mom, and she came running to me, yelling "Momma! Momma!" It was such an awesome moment :) I waited for what seemed like FOREVER to hear that!

 

Anyway, big hugs to you! It's so hard to be a mom! FWIW, my 19 month old isn't saying much yet either... just a few words in the last couple weeks... and she is definitley "normal" as far as everything else goes. So maybe your son is just taking his time? 

 

munchkin: I agree that Katie's advice is good. I would add that pregnancy isn't really as complicated as some people, especially professionals, make it sound. So many of the "rules" and "regulations" aren't really all that big of a game changer. I have a dirty little secret- I've never taken prenatals. I try every single time. I even ordered some special ones this time. I just can't seem to do it.... Oh the horror! The shame! I'm such an unfit mother! No... not really. Is it better to take them? Probably (though I know most people acknowledge that they are pretty much just "bed pan bullets"), but I seem to do fine without them. So go with what feels right to you, even if it isn't exactly what your midwife says to do (just my opinion!). You know your body better than anyone. With regards to your DH... Katie is right. You can't change him, and nagging him will only make you both miserable. Most likely you will be the one in charge of feeding your children and arranging their activities, so his "bad" habits will probably be a non-issue. Seriously, everything changes when you have kids- actually have them. You might surprise yourself with how much of what you planned to do ends up changing. Your DH might surprise you too. I had so many philosophies before I had kids... hahahahahahaha! They make me laugh now! I thought I knew it all (not implying you are the same) because I had little brothers and sisters and I nannied for a long time. Nope. Turns out, having your own is totally different. Of course... it could just be me.... 

 

There are ads playing on my speakers... but no ads on this page. Where in the world are they coming from? Weird....

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Thanks Corrie. I love hearing those kinds of stories.

Ok. So Rogan's appt went ok. He weighs 21.5 pounds!!!! (they measured and wrote down 22...it was just under 22 (old school scale not digi) and she wrote down 22...and he was fully clothed WITH cloth diaper...so between it being just under 22 and the clothes I estimate it's closer to 21.5...I'll know for SURE on the 29th because the ortho has digi scale and that is the one I've always gone by!) Yeah! So happy. LOL. And he is growing in height too but I will remeasure here at home because I dont think they did a good job...but he's on the charts for both either way! YAY.

As for development....she thought it was probably a good idea to have the pedi dept at the university hospital to evaluate his development. She said it could take months to get an appt...which to me I guess is good because he'll have a chance to cont doing what he's doing or catch up....if he's catching up by then I will probably cancel the appt. She said he also has narrow airways but large tonsils are hereditary and all my kids have them. So she wants an ENT to look at him. So we'll wait to see when those appts are. Hopefully they are before the end of the year for insurance reasons lol.

She also pissed me off by retracting his foreskin....it's not necessary and it's more old school to retract it manually...and she'd done it before I could stop her....and she sloughed me off when I said that we have read that we shouldn't do it. Of coarse I didn't expect this (first time it happened) so I didn't have all my facts in my brain all fresh so I was defenseless. Argh...

Our insurance situation will be changing after the first of the year so we'll most likely not see her again anyway. LOL. I'll be going back to my other doctor (and favorite) so I wont have to worry about it....she doesn't do that shit lol.

Anyway....she was happy with his weight and happy with his gross motor skills that she saw....and concerned about his verbal skills and swallowing skills and drooling (he has all his teeth that he's gonna get for now and he drools enough his shirt gets wet so he has SOMETHING going on with swallowing)....

Thanks for prayers! He did great...and I'm BEYOND happy to not worry about his weight anymore. I haven't been for a while but am SO happy that it's still going up!!!

Just looked...Weight: 7th%...still up from 4% last time. I'll recheck his height later today. :)
 

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Oh, that's great news!! I'm glad that it will take such a long time to get him in for his appointment so that he has time to develop on his own!! I hate how doctors think that if a child is developing slowly than their idea of the "norm" then they need a diagnosis. 

Good luck with him!! 

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Thanks Bambi...:)

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Glad you got some good news!!!! Sorry about the foreskin incident though. I would be super pissed. Why do they need to mess with that at all? Poor little guy! Since being uncirc'ed is becoming more common, you'd think all doctors would be more up to date!

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Fortunately I dont think it hurt anything...I gave him a NICE long bath today to let it soak though just in case. UGH. I def wont be caught unaware again...I'll just start off the appt with "and dont touch his penis" lol

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If it helps anyone feel better it is pretty well established that in well nourished populations (i.e. 99% of the US!) prenatal vitamins don't actually improve outcome at all.  It really only makes a difference if you're severely malnourished.  The stuff that you really need in the first few weeks for development you needed BEFORE conception, so it's actually most important to make sure you're getting your B-vites etc before you get pregnant.

 

I can never take prenatals during my first tri.  With my second pregnancy I took New Chapter's prenatal in the 2nd and 3rd tris because I really felt a difference in energy when I took them.  It's because they are whole foods though. I have never noticed a perceptible difference with any other prenatal.

post #108 of 333
I'm trying hard to keep up with everyone...between migraines and homeschool activities, it's tough.

Martha, congrats on good news about Rogan! And I hope you let us all know right away tomorrow about how your ultrasound goes. joy.gif

Is anyone else, especially moms of many, having Braxton-hicks contractions yet? I'm having a lot of them, all day and half the night. Not painful, just very there.

The ctx are at least any easy way to find my uterus, lol. At my belly button, but it seems to be tall instead of popping out a ton. I do have a belly, but not as much as I would if my uterus wasn't already so far ahead of itself! wink1.gif

Love, p


P.s., please excuse all my typos...iPad and autocorrect catch me by surprise.
Edited by spruce - 10/10/12 at 6:55pm
post #109 of 333
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Originally Posted by spruce View Post

I'm trying hard to keep up with everyone...between migraines and homeschool activities, it's tough.
Martha, congrats on good news about Rogan! And I hope you let us all know right away tomorrow about how your ultrasound goes. joy.gif
Is anyone else, especially moms of many, having Braxton-hicks contractions yet? I'm having a lot of them, all day and half the night. Not painful, just very there.
The ctx are at least any easy way to find my uterus, lol. At my belly button, but it seems to be tall instead of popping out a ton. I do have a belly, but not as much as I would if my uterus wasn't already so far ahead of itself! wink1.gif
Love, p
P.s., please excuse all my typos...iPad and autocorrect catch me by surprise.

Sorry about the migraines.  I had my third or fourth migraine of my life this past weekend.  It was beyond awful.  By all rights, I should have gone to the hospital but I couldn't even lift my head off my pillow without extreme pain nor could I stop throwing up.  Light hurt, noise hurt, vision blurred.  I laid in bed for well over 24 hours.   It started Saturday night and didn't fully abate until early Monday morning.  Now, I'm just in that 'my head is tender to the touch' mode and 'please no one make any loud noises b/c I'm afraid it will come back' mode. 

 

In regards to the b/h, none here yet.  I usually start getting them around now (going on 15 weeks) so we'll see.  I have had a handful, but nothing to hardly even comment on.

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Midwife wrote me an email and said I MAY have to reschedule my appt tomorrow she has a momma in labor....hoping that momma has a quick labor so I can have my appt ;) LOL...and besides I woudl rather her have a quick labor anyway....rather than a drawn out one...(quick being quick but not too quick) LOL....dont want to wish the wrong thing on someone!

It's not an ultrasound though :/ It's just waiting to see what the midwife says about my uterus and if she hears anything extra....if she seems like she thinks it's bigger than it should be I guess I'll THEN schedule my U/S....Might as well call it the NT scan since that is how far along I am. lol. But U/S are pricey since my insurance company doesn't count it as in network thru the best place to go. Argh!!!

Anyway...Spruce...I hope your headaches get better soon....what a icky way to feel when you have a bunch of other children depending on you too...hugs....And I think I do already feel a BH every once in a while. Kind of crazy.

Robina....I'm kind of with you....I dont take prenatals at all....ever...just my regular daily vitamins that I've always taken...they are plenty for me....my midwife agreed :)

Ugh....today was rough...I am beyond tired and nausea all day long. BLAH. But I did get to go on a walk...first walk in several weeks. YAY.

post #111 of 333
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Midwife wrote me an email and said I MAY have to reschedule my appt tomorrow she has a momma in labor....hoping that momma has a quick labor so I can have my appt ;) LOL...and besides I woudl rather her have a quick labor anyway....rather than a drawn out one...(quick being quick but not too quick) LOL....dont want to wish the wrong thing on someone!

It's not an ultrasound though :/ It's just waiting to see what the midwife says about my uterus and if she hears anything extra....if she seems like she thinks it's bigger than it should be I guess I'll THEN schedule my U/S....Might as well call it the NT scan since that is how far along I am. lol. But U/S are pricey since my insurance company doesn't count it as in network thru the best place to go. Argh!!!

 

I know how you feel. I get a little disappointed every time my appointments get rescheduled too but it's the price we pay for having such great care that midwives give :D  I know you know this though.  I hope you get your appointment. I'm supposed to have my first appointment tomorrow and I'm really excited so I hope no mamas go into labor tonight! :) :)

post #112 of 333
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Is anyone else, especially moms of many, having Braxton-hicks contractions yet? I'm having a lot of them, all day and half the night. Not painful, just very there.
The ctx are at least any easy way to find my uterus, lol. At my belly button, but it seems to be tall instead of popping out a ton. I do have a belly, but not as much as I would if my uterus wasn't already so far ahead of itself! wink1.gif
Love, p
P.s., please excuse all my typos...iPad and autocorrect catch me by surprise.

I might be. I'm feeling some tightening that I haven't felt this early before (4th baby).  Mostly during exercise though (in which I slow down!)

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I'm getting a few bh here and there but not too many yet. However I am extremely aware of uterus all the flipping time. I don't remember this with my other pregnancies and I can't quite explain it, it's just there. Especially when I bend over, sit down, stand up etc, it's just *there*. Such a weird feeling.

 

I have iron absorption issues so in addition to a prenatal with b vitamins, I'm taking an extra b complex vitamin as well. However bag.gif I don't take any of my vit's everyday. It's weird, my m/s is pretty much gone, but I'm having an unusually hard time taking my vitamins. It's the swallowing that's so hard - not that I can't stomach them or anything like that. So weird. I think I need to space them out more throughout the day and maybe that will help.

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I'm getting a few bh here and there but not too many yet. However I am extremely aware of uterus all the flipping time. I don't remember this with my other pregnancies and I can't quite explain it, it's just there. Especially when I bend over, sit down, stand up etc, it's just *there*. Such a weird feeling.

I have iron absorption issues so in addition to a prenatal with b vitamins, I'm taking an extra b complex vitamin as well. However bag.gif I don't take any of my vit's everyday. It's weird, my m/s is pretty much gone, but I'm having an unusually hard time taking my vitamins. It's the swallowing that's so hard - not that I can't stomach them or anything like that. So weird. I think I need to space them out more throughout the day and maybe that will help.


I hear you on being aware of your uterus! That's a really good point.

I have to take most of my meds with carbonation. It has been getting easier to get the major vitamins down, but carbonated drinks help me. Usually I just keep one screw-top bottle of root beer or whatever on the counter, and it lasts me a week of vitamins and meds.

Ethelpea, I am SO sorry that you had to deal with a migraine. Ugh. They run in my family, and I've had them since I was ten.

The toughest thing we're dealing with right now is some sort of virus...my throat is killing me and I have two boys who are just drawn and icky feeling. (I knew something was wrong when my 11yo woke up and didn't want to eat a full breakfast the minute his feet hit the floor...this is my bowl of oatmeal, three eggs, half a cantaloupe and a glass of tea morning kid). As much as I appreciate being allowed to cuddle up with my kids, I really wish they weren't sick!

Homeschooling at home is going pretty well, since my 11 and 17yo kids pretty much do their own thing...and the 6 and 8 yos love being read to and they're all good at playing games and doing projects well together. It's the driving to and from swim lessons, swim team, dance class, piano, etc etc that is wearing me out.

Thankfully, if history holds, the migraines should at least slow in frequency within a month or so.

He'd my first coffee in months today. It helped.redface.gif

Love, p
post #115 of 333
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Is anyone else, especially moms of many, having Braxton-hicks contractions yet? I'm having a lot of them, all day and half the night. Not painful, just very there.

I've been feeling them since about 6/7 weeks.  I tend to be one to feel them very early but I've felt them a LOT this time around.

post #116 of 333

I am officially stressing. 

At my appt the other day, they didn't even listen to the heartbeat. I ordered a heart doppler and tried it out this morning after watching several youtube videos on how to find the heartbeat... but I never found it! I tried for probably 15 minutes, even though I know I shouldn't have used it that long. I'm just so worried now. Ugh! I'll be 12 weeks tomorrow, so I thought for sure I should be able to find it. 

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I am officially stressing. 


At my appt the other day, they didn't even listen to the heartbeat. I ordered a heart doppler and tried it out this morning after watching several youtube videos on how to find the heartbeat... but I never found it! I tried for probably 15 minutes, even though I know I shouldn't have used it that long. I'm just so worried now. Ugh! I'll be 12 weeks tomorrow, so I thought for sure I should be able to find it. 

Oh, Bambi, :hugs. That sounds really stressful.

I went through a similar experience three weeks ago, under slightly different circumstances. My DH, who has been an EMT III-A for over 25 years, calmly reminded me that, "finding a heartbeat is reassuring, but not finding one does not mean there is anything wrong."

He was right, there was nothing wrong, I waited an hour or so, and tried checking pretty low on my left side...and there it was.

Remember how very tiny your baby's heart is right now. I wish I could help!

Love, p
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I am officially stressing. 


At my appt the other day, they didn't even listen to the heartbeat. I ordered a heart doppler and tried it out this morning after watching several youtube videos on how to find the heartbeat... but I never found it! I tried for probably 15 minutes, even though I know I shouldn't have used it that long. I'm just so worried now. Ugh! I'll be 12 weeks tomorrow, so I thought for sure I should be able to find it. 

Oh sweetie, I totally know that panic! I have had my Doppler for a few weeks now and am 15 1/2 weeks currently. And still now at 15 1/2 weeks I MUST have a VERY full bladder, and look very low in order to get a good Clear HB on baby! I usually do mine in the evening. I eat a nice big dinner and try not to go to the bathroom for an hour or hour and a half afterwards and then I go up to my bed lay super flat, use LOTS of gel (I've not been able to find it before and decided to try some more gel and viola! Found it immediately!) and I put the probe very low still! I usually get the HB a few fingers above my pubic hair line. Sometimes to the left and sometimes to the right. I find to that if I dim the lights and steady my breathing and get real calm before I try, I usually find the little one more quickly smile.gif
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Originally Posted by bambihelton View Post

I am officially stressing. 

At my appt the other day, they didn't even listen to the heartbeat. I ordered a heart doppler and tried it out this morning after watching several youtube videos on how to find the heartbeat... but I never found it! I tried for probably 15 minutes, even though I know I shouldn't have used it that long. I'm just so worried now. Ugh! I'll be 12 weeks tomorrow, so I thought for sure I should be able to find it. 

 

FWIW, the OB usually can't find a heartbeat on me until well past 12 weeks. I think my retroverted uterus has something to do with it, but they've never said so. 

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Oh sweetie, I totally know that panic! I have had my Doppler for a few weeks now and am 15 1/2 weeks currently. And still now at 15 1/2 weeks I MUST have a VERY full bladder, and look very low in order to get a good Clear HB on baby! I usually do mine in the evening. I eat a nice big dinner and try not to go to the bathroom for an hour or hour and a half afterwards and then I go up to my bed lay super flat, use LOTS of gel (I've not been able to find it before and decided to try some more gel and viola! Found it immediately!) and I put the probe very low still! I usually get the HB a few fingers above my pubic hair line. Sometimes to the left and sometimes to the right. I find to that if I dim the lights and steady my breathing and get real calm before I try, I usually find the little one more quickly smile.gif

Yes, try a lot of different ways! I am one who has to have a completely EMPTY bladder (have a VERY retroverted uterus) to find it for the first time. Also, if your intestines are...umm.."full", that can make a difference (usually more difficult).
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