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[JennJenn84]

I haven't been able to get on here since like page 4 or 5. I would respond to evryone, but I use my phone and that would be a nightmare! I do hope that each one of you is doing ok.

Regarding the ones fighting, I feel you! Mine is to the point I would consider what my boyfriend does to me as emotional, mental, AND verbal abuse. I looked the different types up online, and each one of those fit the bill. The last fight we had, he scared my daughter (whom is not his) and that crossed the line. When your sitting in the middle of the bedroom floor of your child crying because of his screaming at you, and your 6 year old comes up to you and says don't cry mommy, I love you, you know its bad. Thers more to it, but I don't know that this is the right place to talk about it (even though I need to vent.) I do know that within the next couple weeks (unknown to my boyfriend) I will be leaving him and moving back in with my daughters grandparents (her dads parents, not mine.) I know during pregnancy isn't always the best time to make major changes, but this situation is a good example of where I think its a good idea. Definitly also going to talk to my doc at my appt Wednesday about the situation and my bad depression. I don't know what can be done, but maybe just talking to the doc will help.

Thank you for listening to my rant. I hope you all have a good day!

[Greenlea]

So sorry Jenn that you're going through that! I'm glad you have a plan to get out though. Your and your children's safety are most important. I hope it hasn't gotten physical between you.

[firespiritmelody]

Ditto to everything Greenlea just said. Sometimes the hard choices are the right ones.

[JennJenn84]

No, not physical at all. But I did tell him if he ever laid a hand on me, he would be injail. He responded that he does hit women, he only slaps b*****s. Yeah, not good. I do have some amazing people around me so I know I will be supported.

[Munchkin08]

My nose (left nostril to be exact) is running tonight. And has been in the morning. Any remidies for when you aren't sick and can't take meds?

[1babysmom]

This is totally unrelated to anything here (sorry, I will try to catch up tomorrow!) but is the new look of MDC bothering anyone else?  It's a lot more difficult to tell what's new, and the colors just aren't working well for my eyes. (I swore I would NEVER be one of those people to complain about this stuff...yet here I am...) Is there a place to change the color settings?

[JennJenn84]

Originally Posted by Munchkin08 

My nose (left nostril to be exact) is running tonight. And has been in the morning. Any remidies for when you aren't sick and can't take meds?

Try using a humidifier. That helped me a couple Weeks ago.

[camprunner]

Originally Posted by Munchkin08 

My nose (left nostril to be exact) is running tonight. And has been in the morning. Any remidies for when you aren't sick and can't take meds?

an onion. cut it up and put it by your head on a table or something. It is amazing.

[MaineCoastMama]

Originally Posted by bmcneal 

Is anyone else not feeling pregnant? The last couple of weeks, I haven't felt pregnant at all. It bothers me a little. But DF said that since this pregnancy isn't in any way similar to my first two, that everything is fine. I just can't wait until the 30th for my appointment, and hopefully they'll do the heartbeat.

In a way, I'd say yes to "not feeling pregnant". The unpleasant side effects, like the food aversions, appetite loss for most healthy foods, super sore boobs, are over for me, and I am mostly just feeling well. The major hints for me, now, at 14 weeks, are the slight slope to my belly, and the fact that I still get winded when I do something simple like climb the stairs. I, like you, am very much looking forward to my next appointment, on the 30th, to hear baby's heartbeat, and even moreso to the Nov. 20th one, for the u/s.

[1babysmom]

Ahh,...it has begun!  Dang.  The weight.  I gained a handful right of the bat this time, which I've NEVER done before (usually I lose an average of 5 lbs in the first tri, despite not getting sick).  So I already felt discouraged because I feel I gain too much in my pregnancies.  I've gained 45+lbs each time, no matter how well I've eaten or how much I've worked out, etc....which probably means it's the weight my body needs, but it's still really hard, especially this time with the thyroid issues that scare me because what if I can't lose any of it???  That was one of my main indicators of a problem over the last 18 months...because despite never having a problem with it in my life before, suddenly I couldn't lose a single pound no matter how hard I tried. (but I sure could GAIN if I looked away for even a second!)

And now I'm gaining even on the days I think, "I did really well today, I surely haven't gained a thing" and it's already coming on fast.  It's really discouraging. :(

[camprunner]

When my thyroid was properly treated, I didn't have any trouble losing weight but I started in on exercise pretty quickly, walking at 4 weeks post partum and running at 5 weeks post partum. I worked my way up to an hour of exercise per day and it helped. By 4 1/2 months post partum I was 1 lb under.

Without being treated,  I didn't lose any of my weight for years :(

[1babysmom]

How quickly did you start losing after starting the meds?  I still couldn't lose before getting pregnant, but I'd only been on meds for 5 months.  I just can't help but feel my gain already in this pregnancy is related, considering it's so very different from ALL my pregnancies in the past.  I'm at my correct dose right now, as my antibodies are well within normal and my TSH/T3/T4 are all just right for being on the meds (they were all normal for me before, just my antibodies were my indicator, so now they appear "off" solely from the meds but within the range we want, considering).

[TIFF4NY]

My Hashimoto's was found through this pregnancy's pre-natal labs and I'm on quite a high initial dose. Currently, despite not eating as well as I usually do and my belly getting bigger, I'm slowly losing weight. I'm talking like a 1/2 to full pound every couple of days. Prior to this finding, I ate REALLY well and worked out a few times a week and my weight hadn't budged much more than 5lbs in nearly 2 years. I'm actually really anxious to see what happens post-partum but for now I'm trying to focus on getting my eating and activity in order for the remainder of this pregnancy. I started out higher than I did with #1 and I gained a lot with her. I'm super nervous about gaining like I did with her. I do -not- want to go there. 

[alaskanmomma]

14 weeks today, woooooooohooooooo! I just want to shout that from the rooftops.
Is anyone who is finding out the gender getting anxious? I can NOT wait 4+ more weeks lol, I'm bursting at the seams in anticipation!

[1babysmom]

Has anybody had more cramping around 14 weeks?  I will be 14 weeks on Monday (baby is a bit ahead), but I haven't had much cramping at all this pregnancy- at least nothing very noticeablee.  But right now I'm been cramping quite noticeably.  Nothing horribly painful or anything, but when you're on high alert 24/7...well, you know how it goes. ;)  I'm very well hydrated, have had fewer BH recently (anyone else who gets them early tend to have a "quiet" period at the beginning of the 2nd tri?  I have each time...), but I had quite a while of ligament aches on my side earlier today so I am figuring there's a lot of growth going on right now. (and in reality, I just "feel" larger now!)  But cramping is just never comfortable for me with my history.  I feel like the thread I'm hanging by could snap at any moment!

So not hugely concerned or anything, just wondering if others are experience similar stuff, since we seem to go through a lot of things at the same time...

[Munchkin08]

So when is appropriate to share with family/friends thoughts about registry and baby showers? I've started a wish list of things we would like. Today we had a few extra min while running errands and window shopped at a baby store. I realize its early but it's so fun!

[1babysmom]

Originally Posted by Munchkin08 

So when is appropriate to share with family/friends thoughts about registry and baby showers? I've started a wish list of things we would like. Today we had a few extra min while running errands and window shopped at a baby store. I realize its early but it's so fun!

I'm kind of wondering the same thing, only in my case if it's appropriate at all????

I have my Amazon wish list that I've been adding some baby stuff to lately and while I've never shared my wishlist with anyone (I just use it as a "backburner" cart LOL) I was thinking of doing so for Christmas. Is that rude of me, since it's kind of a "baby registry"? (some diaper covers, carseat, breastpump, that kind of stuff...not the really unnecessary, "just for fun" kinds of things or anything) Most baby stuff I have/had was from the one shower we had with DD1 7 years ago (I know lots of people have multiple showers with each child, but I only had 1 with my first and no more with the other two....just saying so ya'll don't think I have a ton of stuff! LOL), but I got rid of the majority of our baby stuff after my ectopic/5th consecutive loss earlier this year because it was difficult to keep holding on to stuff with the possibility of not being able to have any more. So normally I wouldn't even consider this...but I was just thinking that since usually I just tell people (we're just talking family) I don't want anything for Christmas, this time at least if they ask I can give some direction to what we actually need, instead of them just getting me something random since I said I didn't want anything. LOL But I don't know if it's rude since this is #4 for us, regardless of whether or not I've kept things. And I just never feel comfortable asking for things anyway.

[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by 1babysmom 

I'm kind of wondering the same thing, only in my case if it's appropriate at all????

I have my Amazon wish list that I've been adding some baby stuff to lately and while I've never shared my wishlist with anyone (I just use it as a "backburner" cart LOL) I was thinking of doing so for Christmas. Is that rude of me, since it's kind of a "baby registry"? (some diaper covers, carseat, breastpump, that kind of stuff...not the really unnecessary, "just for fun" kinds of things or anything) Most baby stuff I have/had was from the one shower we had with DD1 7 years ago (I know lots of people have multiple showers with each child, but I only had 1 with my first and no more with the other two....just saying so ya'll don't think I have a ton of stuff! LOL), but I got rid of the majority of our baby stuff after my ectopic/5th consecutive loss earlier this year because it was difficult to keep holding on to stuff with the possibility of not being able to have any more. So normally I wouldn't even consider this...but I was just thinking that since usually I just tell people (we're just talking family) I don't want anything for Christmas, this time at least if they ask I can give some direction to what we actually need, instead of them just getting me something random since I said I didn't want anything. LOL But I don't know if it's rude since this is #4 for us, regardless of whether or not I've kept things. And I just never feel comfortable asking for things anyway.

I think if someone comes to you and asks if there's something you need/want for the baby, particularly for Christmas, it's perfectly fine to say you do have a list, and share it.   I have an amazon wishlist too, used as my private shopping list, but I will gladly share.  (personally, I always describe it as my reminder shopping list for myself, so people don't think I made it with the intent of it being a registry just for gifting)  I think people know to ask when you already have other kids, since they're unsure what specifically you need this time around.  We need quite a bit as I had gotten rid of all our baby stuff.

[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by Munchkin08 

So when is appropriate to share with family/friends thoughts about registry and baby showers? I've started a wish list of things we would like. Today we had a few extra min while running errands and window shopped at a baby store. I realize its early but it's so fun!

I think you can share as soon as someone approaches you about it. it's fine to start a registry this early! I did with my first, and as I did my research and got advice, I kept tweaking it.  Some people will sneak online and look for your registry before you even mention it, so just beware if it's on a website that makes all lists public.  Amazon wishlist is by far the best- you can add from any website so there's no need for multiple registries,  and even if you pick an item from Amazon's own store, someone can still buy it at brick-n-mortar BabiesRUs or something and it still credits your wishlist.

[MaineCoastMama]

AlaskanMomma, YES!!!

I am 14 weeks also, and my u/s is Nov. 20th. Can. Not. Wait.