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[spruce]

Couldn't read and not respond...bmcneal, I truly hope you find another care provider. Just the stress of being on a rigid clock for giving birth the way you want can slow or stop your labor. Ad yu're absolutely right, some mamas just do cook their babies longer. Mine were (by EDD calculations) 3 days late, 21 days late, 7 days late, 10 days late, and the last was born on her due date to throw us a curve ball.

Good for you for knowing what you want. So many women just give in and it isn't beneficial to anybody when that happens.

Love, p
Edited by spruce - 10/30/12 at 10:46pm

[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by bmcneal 

I'm going to try and talk to the OB tomorrow (I have an appointment already) and see how much, if any, they are willing to work with me. I found out, I think through a post from someone on here (but I don't know how to find the "finding your tribe" forum anymore, if there even is one still), that the only freestanding birthing center closed either last year or year before, so that kind of limits me to hospital birth, because I don't know how comfortable DF would be with a homebirth, and the one homebirth midwife I found was too expensive for us, anyway. I don't know what would be available closer to or in Indianapolis, but if this practice doesn't work out, and neither of the other two hospitals are any better, I might try to convince DF we should go to Indianapolis. We went 40+ minutes away with DS for a VBAC, so it might be a bit closer than that depending on where we go in Indianapolis.

Thanks, ladies. You guys make me feel so much better about my decisions. I guess my mom told my brother I'm expecting, and his response was something along the lines of, "Is she going to let them cut it out of her this time?" Which was kind of hard to hear, but it's my brother, and while I know he didn't mean anything by it, it still hurt, especially when even though there were more people supportive of me when I was pregnant with DS, everyone was freaking out about me going past my due date. (Even though I wasn't 100%.)

I think you can still have a great experience in a hospital- plenty of women do.  It's your care provider that really counts.  Are there any midwives that do hospital births in your area?  Or, look for another OB.  If you post in the "finding your tribes" maybe a mama here knows a good one in your area.  Maybe having a doula there would give you an extra support member on your side too.  It's an expense, but not as much as the cost of a midwife.

Here's the tribe for Indiana:  http://www.mothering.com/community/f/80/indiana-ohio-michigan  To find again, use the Community tab on the top of the page and select Forums.  Down maybe 5 on the list is Finding Your Tribe.

[Greenlea]

bmcneal - definitely hire a doula if you can't find the care provider you want. Also please know that you are the patient and you can refuse an induction or un-neccesary csection. Just don't show up for the induction if you go past 41 weeks.  And underground or lay midwifes are usually cheaper than a CNM or CPM. I used an underground midwife for my last homebirth and she was half as much as a certified midwife, with 3x the experience. I found one by posting on mothering looking for one. And I know its hard but even when everyone is against you, stick to your guns. You can do it!

[bambihelton]

I had my 14 week 4 day appointment this morning. Everything looked great. We saw the baby jumping and dancing and had a heartbeat of 159. The most amazing part of my ultrasound was when we got a shot of baby's face, we could see s/he scrunching their little face up and then it turned into a smile! Absolutely adorable. Took my breath away. 

[bmcneal]

So great, bambi! That's sweet!

Thanks, everyone! The appointment today went surprisingly well. :) From the way the nurse talked to me at my last visit, it seemed like things might not be the way I want them to be, but today, talking to the OB, I got a clearer picture of what is actually going on.

He said that the 41 week "limit" is a guide, and that as long as things are going/progressing well, they will let me go beyond that, but if I hit 40-40.5 weeks, and there's absolutely *no* change, we might have to talk about options then. He said that they like to monitor intermittently, but that it's nothing continual, and they encourage you to move around, be comfortable, do whatever you need to do. He said they don't like to intervene, unless there is an emergency, and that they are willing to work with what I want/need. He said the tub isn't big enough to have a water birth, but that they do allow you to labor in it, if you want. Overall, I felt a hundred times better about the visit and the practice than I thought I would, I expected to leave and be finding somewhere else. But I really liked everything they had with regards to the birthing center, so I'm very excited to feel comfortable enough to stay with them. I just wish the nurse hadn't said it the way she did, it made it sound like if I hit 41 weeks, I'd be automatically a RCS.

Anyway, baby is doing great. He/she kept trying to avoid the Doppler, but the doctor finally got a heartbeat of 148. When he found it, I told DS, "That's the baby's heartbeat!" and he said, "I don't see baby. Baby coming out now?" I told him no, that baby had a long way to grow still, and that after Easter, baby would be here. All the way home, he was singing, "After Easter, baby coming!" 

DD was a little upset that she didn't get to go, but I told her that she got to go when we went to visits with DS, and so DS gets to go when we go to visits for this baby.

I have my next appointment scheduled for November 27th, and immediately afterwards, an ultrasound. DF said it's up to me whether we find out the sex, so now I'm torn. When he said he wanted to wait, it was so easy to know that I want to wait.

[cagnew]

BMCNeal: Your experience sounds like mine. I went to one visit with my OB and came away feeling disappointed and frustrated. I figured I would be looking for a new OB, but went ahead and went to the next appointment (for the ultrasound) anyway. That time I actually asked questions and was pleasantly surprised! I feel really good about my OB now and I am glad I gave her one more shot. I think part of my problem the first time was that I had been hoping for a midwife/birth house birth and that fell through... so when I went to the OB and had to go through all the dumb stuff they make you do, I just felt discouraged.

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by cagnew 

BMCNeal: Your experience sounds like mine. I went to one visit with my OB and came away feeling disappointed and frustrated. I figured I would be looking for a new OB, but went ahead and went to the next appointment (for the ultrasound) anyway. That time I actually asked questions and was pleasantly surprised! I feel really good about my OB now and I am glad I gave her one more shot. I think part of my problem the first time was that I had been hoping for a midwife/birth house birth and that fell through... so when I went to the OB and had to go through all the dumb stuff they make you do, I just felt discouraged.

That's definitely understandable. *hug* I'm glad you are feeling better about your OB, it's one of the most important, if not *the* most important decision regarding your pregnancy. :)

Something else I forgot to mention, I have not gained any weight since I was... 8 or 9 weeks. I'm a little concerned. Part of that is because my mom started worrying when I told her, but mostly because I have been eating a *lot* more than I had been, especially since they told me they want(ed) me to gain at least one pound in the first trimester. Mostly, I'm not worried, because Mini McNeal is as active as ever, and the heartbeat was (I think) pretty strong/good rate.

[IronMam]

Originally Posted by bmcneal 

I have my next appointment scheduled for November 27th, and immediately afterwards, an ultrasound. DF said it's up to me whether we find out the sex, so now I'm torn. When he said he wanted to wait, it was so easy to know that I want to wait.

You could ask the tech to put the sex in an envelope. Then you can decide when and if you're ready to look.

[TIFF4NY]

Sorry I've been so MIA lately! We had family in from OR over the weekend to celebrate my daughters 3rd birthday (also my mothers birthday) and in the midst of it all I somehow managed to injure my knee so I've been unable to move around very easily. With a week full of appointments, I have been really stressed out and I just want to have a day to do nothing but relax. Is that too much to ask? ;) 

I love love love the getting to know you thread and hope to have enough brain power to participate here soon! 

[JennJenn84]

Oh goodness! I guess 18 Weeks is the magical time for movement. In the last 5 minutes, I have felt the baby quite a bit! I definitely know its not gas either. I also felt.it this morning. It's one of the good things that have happened in the last 2 Weeks

[1babysmom]

Originally Posted by JennJenn84 

Oh goodness! I guess 18 Weeks is the magical time for movement. In the last 5 minutes, I have felt the baby quite a bit! I definitely know its not gas either. I also felt.it this morning. It's one of the good things that have happened in the last 2 Weeks

Yay!!!!

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by JennJenn84 

Oh goodness! I guess 18 Weeks is the magical time for movement. In the last 5 minutes, I have felt the baby quite a bit! I definitely know its not gas either. I also felt.it this morning. It's one of the good things that have happened in the last 2 Weeks

That's great, JennJenn! I'm so excited for you!

[JennJenn84]

Thank you ladies. I woke up this morning and rolled over and had either a round ligament pain or massive kick near my belly button, it was weird.

Does anybody else feel like their pregnancy is going by fast? I do. I can't believe I only have 22Weeks left! Well. I have really only 21, as I am having my CS 39 Weeks.