Originally Posted by Kaydove
Joining in - I've spent the past couple of months really thinking about what I believe and realized that I'm Pagan!
I want my family to celebrate the seasons and the power of Nature so we're going to celebrate Samhain this year! I'm planning on cooking a whole chicken I have in the freezer and cooking seasonal veggies - a feast! As far as the spiritual side...not sure. I was thinking about honoring the dead and setting a place for them but I don't want our first Pagan holiday to be too morbid. Any ideas? What does your family do? This is my first year in San Diego after living all my life in Seattle and it doesn't feel like Fall at all. Thanks!!
Nom nom roasted chicken We're coming to your house!
Welcome and mm, Kaydove! I don't think it's morbid at all-- I think it's sacred and holy and really neat. That said, we don't do anything together anymore, really. We're a family of two-- 11y8m ds and me. When he was little, we did a lot more, but he's not remotely interested in Doing Stuff anymore, and I don't push it. He will find his way in spite of or because of me and I don't want a fundie evangelical, so I let him be
But, one of the things we used to do, and still do, is visit cemeteries. There's always one really cool one in every town, and we go to the big one here. Last year, I took pix and he and his best gf played amongst the gravestones, and I hung with her mom (MY best gf).
I do try to have dinner that involves the favorite foods of our beloved dead (but not a dumb supper), and it always turns out really weird and eclectic. My son's father and my father both loved peanut butter, so we have that. My aunt-- I don't know what her favorite food was, but my mom always complained that she had "minced salad, even for breakfast!" so we have that (she was American Jewish, but married a Yemenite, and there was always hummus and baklava and amazing things that he made). My son's father loved beans and rice. My own dad loved peanuts and mixed nuts. We'll have those raw, because roasted ones are like food crack to me and I will overindulge if they're around.
I should look up Mayflower foods-- William Bradford is my ancestor. I wonder that they ate anything at all, landing in MA in the off-season
Originally Posted by Aubergine68
Well, I don't actually call myself Pagan - I say "spiritually eclectic" or that I have never left my first UUlike upbringing and that it is a big enough spiritual umbrella to accommodate a couple of decades of a side adventure in raising my children in Catholicism.
I am almost constitutionally incapable of wanting to impose my beliefs on other people and incapable of believing that there is any one right way to do anything. I don't actually have any strict spiritual beliefs or values that I need my children to hold, except tolerance for the beliefs of others. I am grateful to live in a time and place and in a community where I have the freedom to live and believe as I choose. It is not something I take for granted and one of the few things I would fight to protect if I had to.
That is so cool about your Bonding marriage vows, Aubergine. And your views are amazing. Your children are going to grow up SO COOL. They're really lucky to have a mom like you!
Originally Posted by vydalea
Hey, Mamas!! My teeth are feeling so much better, thank you for asking. I'm down to just taking OTC pain killers and anitbiotics (to fight bacterial infection) along with salty rinses so life is getting much easier to bare, you know pain wise/food eating wise. I ate baba ghanouj last night with pita. Of course, i ripped the pita into pieces the size of my thumbnail but it was NOT yogurt, soup or applesauce so I was in heaven!!
I am so, so happy in my heart when I read this!! Way to go, M! Sending him lots of strength, you too, of course!!
So, yesterday was the big b-day! It was low key and fun. My sissy poo, BIL and my DH are headed out for some celebrating this Saturday. Watch out world, I think I'm gonna eat a SANDWICH! haha.
Happy birthday! Do you not normally eat sandwiches? Did I know this? M is so grateful for your support and good vibes. He's got almost 50 days now! Deliberately! Now he needs a sponsor and to really work the steps, and he knows it, but one thing at a time. He also needs a job, so any good job vibes would be appreciated.
Your post about the baba ganoush and pita cracked me up. Reminded me of when I got my wisdoms out, and I was eating pizza by Day Two, but the same way as you-- tiny little pieces, like little pizza pills!
Originally Posted by revolting
IBut for Samhain night? I have little kids: they just go trick-or-treating. This year, I've thought about trying to spend a little time after ToTing with my eldest to do some divination, but we'll see: she might be too amped up on sugar or exhausted.
What does everyone else have planned for this weekend? How are your preparations for Samhain going?
I am not one of those Pagans who is rigid about which day we celebrate anything. So we've always had our Samhain celebration on the day before, or the day after, Halloween. Usually before, because Halloween and its focus on candy goes long past the first night of it.
This weekend-- our babysitter is getting married! She's 22. She babysat my son from the time he was two, and she was his age now! until he was nine. It's an hour and a half drive to SC, where the wedding is, and it's very likely a Baptist wedding (I am surely expecting altar calls, yep, even during a wedding ) but we've known her for ds's whole life, far as he's concerned. It'll be fun.
Then, Sunday, there's a Osun thingy at the river here. The French Broad River is one of the oldest on the planet. I want to go, but we might be wiped out from the wedding (we're both introverts, and, while we're very outgoing, social functions wipes.us.out.).
Also, check this out, this is my post to Facebook:
So, I'll be crisis-cleaning for that It won't be a lot, since I've been rather keeping up with it, but there's vacuuming and floors in the kitchen and bath, and such. And magick Please light candles for us! I will post when the showing is, so if y'all are inclined, y'all can direct energy our way!