This has been an issue for me for pretty much as long as I can remember. My parents were in the Air Force when I was growing up, so I often went to a new school every year. Right when I would find out that we were moving again, I would systematically start picking off my relationships. I'd just stop talking to my friends, stop hanging out with them, argue with them over silly stuff, etc. The problem is that I'm still doing this! I know it is a defense mechanism that I've built up, but I really want some meaningful and lasting relationships in my life.
DH grew up in a very similar way. His family wasn't military, but they moved constantly. He does the same thing with his friendships as well, but not quite as bad as I do. He still has relationships with some childhood friends, where I have none.
DH and I also both have ADHD, so that adds another level of difficulty to our relationship making skills. We can both make friends pretty easily and quickly actually, it's just getting past the "friendly acquaintance" level that's hard. Often times I'll make a friend and things will seem to be going great, then they meet my dh, and the friendship fizzles...or vice versa. Making couple friends is nearly impossible for us too! We both just say and do inappropriate things without meaning to, and it freaks people out lol.
Obviously this is a complicated problem for me, and I plan on seeking counseling, but I thought I'd look for a little insight here first. I'm really feeling quite unlikable and lonely lately. I think back on past friendships and cringe knowing that I screwed every single one up in some way. I also have a lot of hesitation making new friends because I feel like I'll just inevitably destroy it. I'm really in a friendship rut! It also doesn't help that we know we're moving next summer. We don't know where yet, but we know it's coming.
Anyone else have this problem? How have you moved past it and been able to build relationships that last for more than a few months?