I NEED sleep, and I'm getting desperate!
My 21mo old DS STILL does not sleep through the night. The only time he ever did was for about 2 months, when he was 6 months old. There is no pattern to his waking, which makes things that much worse. Some nights he'll only wake up once (I could handle that, if it happened every night!!) but some nights he'll wake up 2,3, or on a bad night, 5 times. There is no pattern to WHEN he wakes up, so I can't even plan my own sleep schedule around a time I know he'll wake.
DS is still breastfeeding and is a VERY strong-willed, stubborn child. He co-slept with us for many months (we hoped we'd get more sleep that way!), but that didn't make much difference in how often he woke. My DH really didn't like co-sleeping for a number of reasons, so DS has been in his crib for at least 6 months now. He shares a room with our older DS, who is 6 & is in school. We never tried "sleep training" or any other method of trying to get DS2 to sleep on his own because we were afraid of waking our older son & messing up HIS sleep.
For the past month our older DS has been sleeping on the floor in another room, because we thought maybe he was somehow waking his little brother. But there's been no change in DS2's sleeping habits.
DS2 is still breastfeeding, and if he sees me during the night he INSISTS on nursing - even if it's only been an hour since he last did. Sometimes DH can go in & get him to go back to sleep, but not always. He'll often fall asleep, but then wake up 15-20 minutes later & won't be happy unless I come in & give him a boob.
DH works & I'm a homemaker. DH has been very stressed with a new job for the last couple of months, so I don't want to ask him to get up too much during the night to help with DS. After all, I can nap if I *have* to (I hate taking naps during the day), but DH doesn't have that option.
In the meantime, I've gone for almost 2 years without decent sleep, and my mind & body HATE being pulled out of the wrong stage of sleep night after night. I've tried all the "usual" stuff of making sure DS is fed well before bed, being consistent with his nap schedule, making sure he has physical activity during the day - nothing seems to affect his nighttime sleep.