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[SweetMama34]

We told three more people yesterday and I'm super bummed about it, actually. I wanted to tell in a more fun way - but I was crazy sick yesterday morning and DH wanted his mom to come sit with me when he left for work. I insisted that I didn't need help, but I think he really just loved having an excuse to share his excitement. My in laws are wonderful, though - so it's okay. Just disappointed that we didn't get a big, fun reveal.

I also texted one of my best friends, because I was so desperate for relief - I asked for ANY ideas that I haven't tried yet.

[Murph12334]

Well seeing as this is a BIG surprise and not something that is going to seen as good by many, I'll wait until I have to tell people.  My praents will find out next weekend probably. 
I was going through a divorce (seperated for over 2 years from abusive husband and had finally saved enough money).  The lawyer has to put in a continuance and the reason why.  In ohio in the county I'm in no divorces while pregnant are allowed.  So it'll state that I'm pregnant.  Most of my family are still friends with him on facebook (too keep an eye on him) and I'm certain he'll post something.  Unfortunatly, most will find out that way.  So I have to tell my parents before that time.  I'm waiting until after next wednesday when i have my first ultrasound.  I want to first make sure it's in the right spot (ie not ectopic) and everything before I have to tell.

[amlikam]

This is how we announced on Facebook:

"The four pumpkins we made this year."

[dayiscoming2006]

Last month I told everyone right away because I never had a loss and I figured it'd be nice to everyone's support either way. Sadly, I miscarried right away. At least it was quick.

I'm already pregnant again. I did appreciate having support, but I've decided I don't want everyone knowing right away. I want to get out of the chem pregnancy zone first. I did tell my 2 close friends and they are praying for me. I told DH he could tell his family if he so desired as they handled it so well, but I'm not telling my parents, sis or facebook until maybe 6 weeks. Still not clear of miscarriage, but at least it wouldn't be a chem pregnancy. I've never been creative with telling the hubby. I'm just too "practical." LOL

[mamacatsbaby]

Originally Posted by amlikam 

This is how we announced on Facebook:



"The four pumpkins we made this year."

lol That's adorable! Love it...

Originally Posted by dayiscoming2006 

Last month I told everyone right away because I never had a loss and I figured it'd be nice to everyone's support either way. Sadly, I miscarried right away. At least it was quick.

I'm already pregnant again. I did appreciate having support, but I've decided I don't want everyone knowing right away. I want to get out of the chem pregnancy zone first. I did tell my 2 close friends and they are praying for me. I told DH he could tell his family if he so desired as they handled it so well, but I'm not telling my parents, sis or facebook until maybe 6 weeks. Still not clear of miscarriage, but at least it wouldn't be a chem pregnancy. I've never been creative with telling the hubby. I'm just too "practical." LOL

We've told everyone right away each time as well and this one was no exception. I've never had a miscarriage that I know for sure was a miscarriage and I haven't had to go down that particularly painful road so I blab right away. Kept it to myself for a few days though and that was nice .

I'm not that creative with telling hubby either as he pretty much knows how my cycles go lol. He was pretty surprised for some reason this time though!

[willsmomm]

My birth team knows. My midwife let all of her assistants and my chiropractor know and I told my doula/bff. That's it so far but I can't decide when to tell. On one hand I don't ever want to tell because I just had a baby in December and we can't afford the four we've got. (DH is starting grad school this summer) And on the other hand, even though it is a huge shock still, I am excited and want to share the good news. I'm very torn.

[Espion]

I want to wait until we've past the 1st trimester hurdle, although I may cave and tell everyone after we definitively hear the heartbeat at our appointment on November 5th.  My mother has been very sick lately, and I know it would cheer her up.  (And it would stop the siiiiiiiiighing on the phone!)  

[BabySmurf]

Originally Posted by amlikam 

This is how we announced on Facebook:

"The four pumpkins we made this year."

Love this! News is starting to spread without me having to "tell" anyone else.  Secrets don't last long around here, even if they are meant to be kept.  So I left a poem on my status this morning saying:

Roses are red Violets are blue

We used to be three, But our family just grew

Boy or girl it's still a surprise, we just can't wait to look into those Baby eyes!

And I guess later I will post a picture of DS with a "big Brother" t-shirt. 

[mamacatsbaby]

Originally Posted by BabySmurf 


Love this! News is starting to spread without me having to "tell" anyone else.  Secrets don't last long around here, even if they are meant to be kept.  So I left a poem on my status this morning saying:

Roses are red Violets are blue
We used to be three, But our family just grew

Boy or girl it's still a surprise, we just can't wait to look into those Baby eyes!

And I guess later I will post a picture of DS with a "big Brother" t-shirt. 

Aww, very cute!

[Bazile]

I'm hoping to wait to make a big announcement until after 12 weeks. Though that was my plan last time, and I ended up posting our first u/s photo on Facebook at 8 weeks since it was the worst kept secret ever at that point. I didn't really think I was pregnant since I haven't quite regulated back out since my daughter (she's still nursing) was born even though I was a couple of days later than I thought I should have been since it's happened before since AF really came back around her birthday last winter. Our church is preaching through the book of Luke right now, so despite it being October our pastor was preaching on the birth of Christ last Sunday. When he started talking about how Mary was alone except for Joseph and it probably wasn't a "silent night" and Jesus was probably born in a cave, I started tearing up and had to go to the bathroom to try and get myself back under control since I didn't want to sit in the middle of the service just boo-hooing. That combined with being slightly late and a really weird overly graphic sex dream, I decided to take a test. When the display popped up "pregnant" I was completely shocked. I woke up DH and made him put on his glasses since I didn't believe it and wanted him to read it too. And then admitted that I was terrified, so he mostly just held me and told me everything would be fine. I got the results confirmed at the Base Clinic the next day since the people on Base won't let you have an OB referral unless they have documentation of their own. I told my mom because I tell her almost everything anyway, and since we're heading to NC today for a week, she'll probably notice. She told my step-dad who slipped up and told his mom because he's excited, so my mom told her mom too since my step-grandmom and grandmother are friends and she didn't want her to get mad about finding out later. I e-mailed my sister-in-law and told her since she's due the beginning of December and I'd planned on bringing up our infant car seat and stroller for them, and I felt like she and my brother-in-law deserved a reason we were rescinding our offer other than just because. I asked her not to tell our mil, but made DH go ahead and call her and tell her. Unless it ends up like last time with people referencing it on Facebook, I think we'll wait until second trimester to make a general public announcement probably with an u/s pic on Facebook.

[edythe]

that is really cute. :)

[edythe]

that is really cute. :)

[dayiscoming2006]

I just called and told my parents and sent my sister a text(easier than trying to call her.) That felt good. I look forward to getting through the next couple weeks. I might wait until after my first appointment, around 8 weeks, to go public on facebook. That's my goal anyway. I don't have anyone here (no friends/fam close by) to see me in person, so even if I start showing, no one I care about will know anything. I can't wait to get to 8 weeks. I think I'll feel just a little safer then. I read docs many times don't want to see you until then, I guess  because the majority of miscarriages happen before that point.

[Sweet Huck]

We're gonna try and keep it a secret from most folks until we're further along, but I did let it slip to someone at work without even thinking about it.

My admin assistant and I were standing in the hallway watching coworker's children getting ready to go to the office daycare downstairs. She turned to me playfully and asked "So, when is your turn?"

I looked straight at her and without thinking said, "June 15th."

She screamed and hugged me and promised not to tell a soul. But I suspect it will leak. That's okay, though. I like getting hugs. Let the pampering begin!!!

[Sweet Huck]

Can someone tell me how to delete posts? When I go to submit something it tells me there is a problem with the server and to try again... but then it ends up posting my threads or responses multiple times! So embarrassing. I hate to spam ya'll!

[mamacatsbaby]

Originally Posted by Sweet Huck 

Can someone tell me how to delete posts? When I go to submit something it tells me there is a problem with the server and to try again... but then it ends up posting my threads or responses multiple times! So embarrassing. I hate to spam ya'll!

I think that's happening to quite a few folks so don't feel bad . I believe the only thing you can really do is go back and delete the contents and title of the post. Unless something has changed. MDC is a lot different than when I first started coming here when I was PG with DS1. You might be able to get a moderator to move them for you?

[edythe]

yes, i posted a dupe up there, too. can't figure out how to delete it. looks like i can't. 

[FarmerMomma]

I went a whole day without telling anyone. My own special little secret. I told my 5 year old son first. He was extatic. I've wanted another baby a long time. He told my mom. Also very happy for me. My boyfriend was ill and not answering the phone. I drove an hour there, he's not answering the door. My son goes through the dog door. Boyfriend wakes up invites us in, feeds us. My son Almost bursts with excitement and with not supposed to be telling this time. I have to hush him a few times. After we settle in boyfriend and I are discussing our week and a mention peeing on a stick that made a plus sign. He asks if this happened in the woods. When I told it was stick from the pharmacy he gave me a hug. We talked about it a bit, but I just wanted to let it sink in with him. I'd had a bit of time with it already. He later apologized about his reaction but I thought he was great.

Meeting w midwives this weekend. Can't wait to hear heartbeat with a supportive partner. Definitely want a homebirth. My son was in ICU for two weeks from something he picked up at 7 day well baby appointment. So I won't be tolerating any negativity on a homebirth. Also as a bonus won't be delivering on my back again.

[allisonrose]

I was thinking about waiting till around Thanksgiving but my hubby keeps telling people: people he works with, his former boss. Basically people I will feel uncomfortable knowing if I miscarried.

But my brother and his wife are hoping to start a family but a medication she was on recently caused her periods to stop. From my own experience with struggling to become pregnant, I know it's rough to hear others are expecting when you are really hoping you'll be next.

Last time I made a tee shirt for ds1 which had "I'm going to be a big brother" written on it. Ds2 should fit into it if I can find it...

[JNajla]

My husband sent his mother a text message letting her know the news last weekend.  (He never talked to her on the phone).  I thought that it was odd that she didn't call us, but thought that perhaps she would call us later this week.  I haven't heard from her (no calls, emails, or text).  I thought that with him being an only child and this is our first baby that she would be excited and want to congratulate us.  Should I take this personally?  Or am I just being hypersensitive?