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[Mama4life14]

Originally Posted by JNajla 

My husband sent his mother a text message letting her know the news last weekend. (He never talked to her on the phone). I thought that it was odd that she didn't call us, but thought that perhaps she would call us later this week. I haven't heard from her (no calls, emails, or text). I thought that with him being an only child and this is our first baby that she would be excited and want to congratulate us. Should I take this personally? Or am I just being hypersensitive?

Are you positive she received the message? Texts are not always reliable. Maybe get your husband to just call her to make sure she got the text!

Or.. I know my Mom would be kinda sad if I would have told her over text message. Maybe Your MIL is waiting for you to call and tell the news.. Maybe "pretending" she didn't get the text..

I guess I'm just giving her the benefit of the doubt, she should be excited!! If she does know and she wouldn't care about finding out via text, and hasn't called or anything, then that would be pretty rude..

Sorry that it's stressing you out! Hopefully all will be worked out!

[gyp5ym00n]

a shirt for my daughter that says "only child expiring june 2013".

[JNajla]

Yes, she received the text because my husband replied again asking if she happy. She replied saying that,she's happy and knew it would happen when the time was right (all via text). Now there has been no additional contact. I thought that perhaps even a card in the mail would have
been in order. She's always talking about her step-grandchild so we thought she would be excited for her grandchild. My husband and I are 'older' (I'm 36 and hubby is 35). I haven't been close with her, but my husband has been.

[dayiscoming2006]

JNajla: Well, since she was informed by text, she probably thought her reply by text was good enough. I wouldn't read too much into it.

[mLeroux]

I think someone from your mother in laws generation was probably expecting a phone call especially if he is her only child. She responded with as much consideration (via text) as her son showed her (relaying the news via text). Maybe your husband should have called her to relay the news. I know my MIL would have been livid to receive a text and we are not the best of chums either.

[JNajla]

That is possible, my MIL is what I would consider 'old school' (she's much much more conservative than my parents).  His mother is 10 year or so older than my parents and grew up catholic/ farmers and my parents were young hippies when they had me.  I know that her and my husband do text frequently.  She was out of town visiting friends when he sent her the text, so I assumed that she would call the next day wanting to know details, etc.  No call ever came.  If she was irritated about this, I wish that she would just come out and say so.  I'm intolerant to passive aggression (I have a very open and honest relationship with my parents, and we air out the laundry even if it is unpleasant), whereas my husband and his mom will brush the crumbs under the rug and pretend like it didn't happen.  I however, still haven't told my parents.  I'm an only child, and my father and husband have not spoken to each other in over a year (very long story), so I'm just trying to find the right time.  I'm almost 7 weeks along now, so still pretty early.  I wish that the family aspect of things wasn't so complicated.....

[Tenk]

We haven't told anyone.  My parents will be here at Thanksgiving and if all goes well I'll be puking a LOT by then and my mom will figure it out :) she will be excited for us but terrified at the same time.  She was at home watching our 5 children when we found out Oliver passed away at 18w in January this year.

Hubby's parents might not find out until baby arrives.  They left abruptly in July while visiting us because MIL decided she hated me (after 12 years of pretending she liked me???) and haven't spoken to us since  **well FIL speaks to DH but only sometimes and MIL most definitely does not.  They came when Oliver died as well but acted like he didn't exist the very next day**

Otherwise, who knows when we'll tell.  Probably when people start noticing that I've gained weight in the midsection LOL

[nattery]

We've told close family and close friends (especially our room mates since they need to know why I refuse to do dishes or help make food anymore!). The rest of the people aren't going to find out until after I have an ultrasound at 10 weeks... just want to make sure everything's looking good before we start telling! One thing that does annoy me is my husband's friend and his loud mouthed girlfriend found out by guessing and being really insistant with badgering him until he admitted it. Part of me is worried that by the time I am ready to tell everyone will know already and it will be anti-climatic. I already suspect so many people know and are just politely playing dumb about it until I'm ready to share. Two weeks till the ultrasound!
 

[JNajla]

Tenk-  that sounds horrible about your MIL, so sorry to hear about that....  I certainly hope that for your child's sake that she comes around and opens her eyes.  I've been sad that I don't have a close relationship with my MIL.  I have a small family and wished that I could consider my husband's family as 'my family' too, but she's never warmed up to me.  Sad.

[mLeroux]

Tenk and JNakla dealing with extended family drama is really draining. The negativity felt really draws like a dark cloud over the relationships.  I too have to deal with knowing that I will probably never have that "family" feeling with my MIL.  She is a widow so the irony is we are all she really has.  The DH and her also play that whole sweeping things under the carpet game and when we're all together it seems so fake because the air is really never cleared up once and for all.  As the years have passed though I have quit trying to figure them out and how they function together. I have just come to accept their ways and thats ok for them, but I am not comfortable with it and usually say when something is bothering me in a kind but firm way.  Sorry Ive gone on a tangent with my post. Children do soften up the relationships though.

[crazyeight]

i told my April '10 DDC in our private group before the pee dried....DP wasn't told until a few days later :/

i finally told my mom and sister after i got my new due date, about 2.5 weeks ago.

there will be another "announcement" on FB for everyone else, who i don't really talk to but otherwise there's not many people to tell.

we haven't told the kids. DP told his parents weeks before i told mine but i have barely even seen them (they live just up the road).

honestly i'd really love to have a baby shower this time :(

[Sweet Huck]

My belly has popped and I'm already showing, so we decided to go ahead and announce that we were expecting to our greater circle of family and friends. My husband and I both play banjo -- in fact, we met at a banjo festival of sorts! So with that in mind, we created this photo:

The caption read-- "We are excited for our new collaboration! Due out this June."

[spotty4]

Awesome!!  I love it!
 

Originally Posted by Sweet Huck 

My belly has popped and I'm already showing, so we decided to go ahead and announce that we were expecting to our greater circle of family and friends. My husband and I both play banjo -- in fact, we met at a banjo festival of sorts! So with that in mind, we created this photo:

The caption read-- "We are excited for our new collaboration! Due out this June."

[willsmomm]

So cute! I'm trying to figure out how to announce on facebook. Everyone who sees us already know since I look very pregnant. And I've been getting looser lipped about it. I want to do some kind of cute pic like that I think. Maybe something Christmas related with the other kiddos.

[Sweet Huck]

In case you're feeling creative-- and have a smartphone--- we did it ourselves! We rubber-banded the phone to the back of a chair and used a timer feature. I then added the text with the generic photo editing software that came with my laptop! And WALLAH!

[willsmomm]

Nice!

[spotty4]

Instead of doing Christmas cards we are thinking of sending New Years cards. We will officially announce the baby then but I hadn't considered creativity ...

[BumkinsMum]

We've decided to wait until Christmas morning. Though my kiddos have asked several times already which I just replied. "It's my Christmas wish, we'll just have to wait and see."

I'll be 16 weeks Christmas day and this belly baby is not hiding anymore so it's a good thing. 

We had an early loss this summer and everyone( including kiddos )new super early so this time we needed to do it differently.  But after 2 Doppler checks and an U.S. to make absolutely sure,  we're finally growing to accept this one is here to stay :)

Blissfully happy there's #6 in the mix!

Anyone else announcing for the holidays? 
 

[BabySmurf]

Oh, a Holiday announcement would be so much fun!! I was kind of hoping that we would be able to find out if it was a boy or a girl for Christmas...but we have to wait until Jan 3rd...which isn't a bad thing, but the Holiday would have made it a little easier to be creative about it!  Was it on this thread someone posted about finding out, but not having the ultrasound tech tell them...the tech was going to write down the gender and put it in a sealed envelop.  Then that was being given to a friend who would wrap up a baby boy or girl outfit for the couple to open on Christmas morning...how cute is that?!

[BumkinsMum]

What an adorable idea! I love the sealed envelope thing, that's cute. As long as the tech understood and nobody blurted it out!!

We're old fashioned I guess when it comes to finding out the gender.

My husband once said "If God wanted us to find out what gender our babies were, he would have given women little T.V. screens on their tummies. Like the Telletubbies!"