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Thyme Mama, I am sorry for your loss. My mother in law passed away in July and I can relate to your feelings - I get so, so sad every time I think about the fact that she will never know her grandson and vice versa. :(

 

I am now officially on maternity leave and couldn't be more relieved. I'm having a lot of pelvic pain - sleeping is awful, but walking is awful too. I'm also having pain in my hands/fingers, and today I think I have a pinched nerve in my back. Only 4 weeks to go, but I wouldn't mind if he came a little early! I am so over being pregnant!!!

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My deepest sympathies to you, Thyme Mama. My mother had a life-threatening illness (ruptured appendicitis) a few months ago--she's recovering now--and my heart is with you. 

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I'd just like to say it's been a long day and I'm hiding ALONE upstairs in my room. DS is downstairs with DH and I'm ignoring his whining and shrill voice. This mama needs a break!!!

 

Have to say, sleeping isn't so awful this time around! I had a bad night this week with a lot of back aching and cramping that made me give up on sleep around 5 AM. But generally it's just the normal peeing and turning my big aching body over every 2-3 hours. I have to wonder if it's the weekly chiro appointments that have helped me be so much more (relatively) comfortable with this pregnancy that with DS's.....

 

I do always check the time when I wake at night to pee and think: "Oh good, I've made it to midnight!" "Yes! Another 2 hours down!" "Wow, it's 4 AM? I can keep sleeping a few more hours." And: "Hooray, I managed to sleep until 7 AM! I am awesome!"

 

Funny how I need to cheer myself on all night in order to sleep! orngbiggrin.gif

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Thanks ladies! smile.gif The death of someone you love is never easy, but the hormones of pregnancy take things to an epic level. DH's very loved brother died in a motorcycle wreck when I was pregnant with our oldest, so this is just, wow, like some sort of horrible people-I-love-in-DH's-family-die-when-I'm-pregnant deja vu. greensad.gif I don't actually think that, but dealing with death when pregnant feels sort of ominous.

 

I am sorry so many of you are having nerve and pelvic pain! hug2.gif

 

I am afraid every time I sneeze or cough that my belly is going to rip open and explode. Even though I know *mentally* that exploding is not physically possible, that's what it feels like is happening. I hold my belly together when I feel a cough/sneeze coming on. I actually got a few wee stretch marks this time around and the whole of my belly skin is a rosy color. The diastasis rectii sure isn't helping the ripping open feeling. irked.gif

 

It'll all be over soon though. And we will forget about the awful discomforts. Many of us will go on to choose to subject ourselves to this again. All because our hearts are so big and newborns are incredibly precious! luxlove.gif

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ThymeMama - I'm sorry for your loss. I get what you mean about the pregnancy hormones taking your grief to another level. My grandpa (who I grew up with and who was sort of like my father) past away in July... my emotions were difficult to contain for a while... 

 

And now: DH has strep or something like it! He is out for the count and in so much pain. They changed his abx after the first one didn't work. He feels guilty for being sick days before the baby arrives. We are going in on Thursday morning for our scheduled caesarean birth - I hope they won't give him any trouble with coming along to the OR. My mind could really PANIC if I would go there and  let it!!! Will he  be able to hold the baby? I think I'm getting paranoid..... Trying to stay focus. It' s so crazy to know when LO is arriving.....

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I'm having a grouchy, hormonal day today.  My family is excited, so much so that for the last couple of weeks they've been calling, you know, just to see if anything is going on.  Like I would forget to let them know if the baby was on the way.  Now, my mom wants to me to text her daily to let her know that I'm NOT in labor.  That's just too much stress for my hormonal self to take.  I already feel under pressure not to go 'overdue' because this is a vbac.  I don't need to report this everyday.  And I feel like a rotisserie chicken every night, turning and turning and turning.  DD is a very smart, energetic, loving, funny 3 year old, and I am getting so grouchy with her!  I feel so terrible, but I can't take her energy today.  I had to push her off of me after I asked her for some space to eat my breakfast, and she fell down, and I felt rotten.  I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I'm sure I am, I am just so grouchy.  The weather here is cold and rainy and windy, and is supposed to be through Halloween, which doesn't help.  I know we're not stuck in the hurricane, which I AM grateful for, but I am just having a hard time shaking this grumply feeling.  Thanks for letting me vent, I really shouldn't be complaining, my best friends have REALLY REALLY been there for me these last few weeks, making me feel like the focus of love and attention and support.  I'm so lucky to have them.  DH and I have been having some serious problems, and I don't know what I would do with out my friends there.  DH and I are going to counseling now, finally, and that's helping.  But really, I am leaning on these beautiful women in my life, and realizing how blessed I am.

Anyways, that was rambly and full of self pity.  I just need to get it out a little.  Thanks!!

 

ETA I feel like crying!  All the time, for no real reason!  Gah!!

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ThymeMama - I'm sorry for your loss. I get what you mean about the pregnancy hormones taking your grief to another level. My grandpa (who I grew up with and who was sort of like my father) past away in July... my emotions were difficult to contain for a while... 

 

And now: DH has strep or something like it!

 

hug2.gifI'm sorry about your grandpa.

 

It's just that time of year for being sick! The worse time of year to have a baby, IMO is from here till spring. *Everyone* is sick and *everyone* wants to hold/touch the new baby. People, STAY AWAY! lol.gif When DS1 was born, we all had a horrible chest cold that actually became bronchitis. My MW friend said not to worry about getting the baby sick, since I got sick while I was pregnant he was pretty much immune to whatever bug we all had. Now, I don't know if that is true, but newborn DS never did get sick. thumb.gif

 

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I'm having a grouchy, hormonal day today.  My family is excited, so much so that for the last couple of weeks they've been calling, you know, just to see if anything is going on.  Like I would forget to let them know if the baby was on the way.  Now, my mom wants to me to text her daily to let her know that I'm NOT in labor.  That's just too much stress for my hormonal self to take.  I already feel under pressure not to go 'overdue' because this is a vbac.  I don't need to report this everyday.  And I feel like a rotisserie chicken every night, turning and turning and turning.  DD is a very smart, energetic, loving, funny 3 year old, and I am getting so grouchy with her!  I feel so terrible, but I can't take her energy today.  I had to push her off of me after I asked her for some space to eat my breakfast, and she fell down, and I felt rotten.  I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I'm sure I am, I am just so grouchy.  The weather here is cold and rainy and windy, and is supposed to be through Halloween, which doesn't help.  I know we're not stuck in the hurricane, which I AM grateful for, but I am just having a hard time shaking this grumply feeling.  Thanks for letting me vent, I really shouldn't be complaining, my best friends have REALLY REALLY been there for me these last few weeks, making me feel like the focus of love and attention and support.  I'm so lucky to have them.  DH and I have been having some serious problems, and I don't know what I would do with out my friends there.  DH and I are going to counseling now, finally, and that's helping.  But really, I am leaning on these beautiful women in my life, and realizing how blessed I am.

Anyways, that was rambly and full of self pity.  I just need to get it out a little.  Thanks!!

 

ETA I feel like crying!  All the time, for no real reason!  Gah!!

 

Oh My Goodness! duh.gif My mom did that with our last baby and it drove me so crazy and I was so irritated with her that we didn't call her until after the baby was born. Oops. She was pretty hurt, and even later when my sister was eloping, she tried to compare not inviting family to your wedding being the same as not inviting family to your birth. Um, SO not the same thing! Birth=naked, wedding=public event.

 

Anyway, I'm sorry you are so weepy and hormonal! hug.gif Sometimes it helps to type things out instead of yakking someones ear off IRL. smile.gif

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Originally Posted by marmo View Post

I'm having a grouchy, hormonal day today.  My family is excited, so much so that for the last couple of weeks they've been calling, you know, just to see if anything is going on.  Like I would forget to let them know if the baby was on the way.  Now, my mom wants to me to text her daily to let her know that I'm NOT in labor.  That's just too much stress for my hormonal self to take.  I already feel under pressure not to go 'overdue' because this is a vbac.  I don't need to report this everyday. 

 

ETA I feel like crying!  All the time, for no real reason!  Gah!!

 

Ugh. Same here.  I've been miserable to live with recently.  I fly into rages over everything and have had several good cries (notable in that I rarely ever cry in normal circumstances--as in, I don't cry from one year to the next!).  Even when my temper isn't flaring or I'm not teary, I just feel irritable and moody. 

I'm 36 weeks today and I'm feeling that same pressure of "when's the baby coming" only the other way round.  For the past week or two, I've been going from one day to the next wondering if this is the day and hoping I can get one more day in, one more day.  And everyone is checking in constantly, making sure I'm still pregnant.  If I make it to 36 weeks, I don't have to deliver and can get my water birth. Done. Now, if I can make it to 37 weeks, there is less of a chance the baby will be taken at birth for breathing or other problems, etc. If I could get further than that, there is less of a chance I'll even be bothered with driving to hospital, I'd be more inclined to just stay home and have a UC.  I'm paranoid that anything I do (like flying into rages) could trigger something.  I just want to relax and (try to!) enjoy the last bit of this last of my pregnancies instead of feeling like a ticking time bomb! 

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Marmo- Ugh! No wonder you are emotional, you have so many things stressing you out! DH and I went to counseling a few years ago and it really did help us a lot. Hope it does the same for you.

 

At this late stage in our pregnancies, I think we need a lot of support from the people who love us. We're dealing with so many body changes, the impending birth of a new person that we have to squeeze out of our bodies, the worry of how we will cope with the birth, baby, and our new family size, prepping for the new baby, and so much more! I also realized that my DH had gotten into the "solving my problem" mode rather than the listening and understanding mode and that was partly to blame for our struggles the past month or two. Seemed like he wasn't listening but it was only because he was trying to fix and relieve things for me (instead of what I wanted: a listening ear). Add in working like crazy around the house to finish projects and my hormonal emotions and we were fighting a lot. We've been making an effort to talk or cuddle for just a few minutes each evening and things have really improved. 

 

Does it make sense that I think life will calm down AFTER the baby comes? I think it is a crazy idea but then I can STOP working. I can rest and nurse and just focus on immediate needs like food, resting, and entertaining DS. The projects will end and we're taking a couple months off of fixing up the house. Plus it will be winter and that means no yard or garden work. I'm sure life will still be stressful and crazy but, heck, I'm ready to move past this super busy phase.

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Ugh, my hip really hurts, maybe bursitis, and my blood pressure is inching up, now that I'm in my 36th week.  Doc appt today and then he goes on a 7 to 10 day vacation.  

 

I can deal with pain, but the bp issue is giving me some anxiety. 


Edited by leafylady - 10/30/12 at 7:17am
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Originally Posted by Thyme Mama View Post

 

It'll all be over soon though. And we will forget about the awful discomforts. Many of us will go on to choose to subject ourselves to this again. All because our hearts are so big and newborns are incredibly precious! luxlove.gif

Aww, that makes my day.  Newborns are the cutest beings ever, and they aren't heavy, they don't even give stinky diapers, or cry too loud, they're just so perfectly perfect.  


Birth=naked, wedding=public event.

Exactly, since when is birth this big social event?  That's the one thing I really don't like about HB, everyone around here seems to think that birth at home is thier great opportunity to say hi.  Umm, no.  No, no, no.  I plan to specify to DH and my mom that there is no calling, emailing, facebook, or other communication until I wake up from my nap after the MW leaves.  So like four hours or so of privacy in the transition from naked to clothed and showered. Then everyone can call everyone, and I will be awake enough to deal with requests to come over in a polite way.  Seriously, if anyone shows up before then, they can't come inside, Dh is on door duty.


 

Does it make sense that I think life will calm down AFTER the baby comes? I'm sure life will still be stressful and crazy but, heck, I'm ready to move past this super busy phase.

Oh gads that's me.  I keep trying to think how relaxed it will be to just focus on that new baby.  Then I remember how little sleep I will have, and I wonder if I'm crazy...


Originally Posted by leafylady View Post

Ugh, my hip really hurts, maybe bursitis

Yep!  Yesterday DD was crying to be picked up and RIGHT then my hip decided it needed a break and sent this huge sharp pain up whenever I tried to move it.  *SIGH* Its probably a good thing that we can't remember life before 5 years old, mamas have enough pressure to get it right as it is!  I am supposed to see a massage theraptist about it but havn't gotten around to that yet.  Won't be tonight, or tomorrow, too many events to go to for Reformation Day. :) Yes, that's going to be GREAT for my back, but hey, DD is going to have a blast.

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Exactly, since when is birth this big social event?  That's the one thing I really don't like about HB, everyone around here seems to think that birth at home is thier great opportunity to say hi.  Umm, no.  No, no, no.  I plan to specify to DH and my mom that there is no calling, emailing, facebook, or other communication until I wake up from my nap after the MW leaves.  So like four hours or so of privacy in the transition from naked to clothed and showered. Then everyone can call everyone, and I will be awake enough to deal with requests to come over in a polite way.  Seriously, if anyone shows up before then, they can't come inside, Dh is on door duty.

 

Oh gads that's me.  I keep trying to think how relaxed it will be to just focus on that new baby.  Then I remember how little sleep I will have, and I wonder if I'm crazy...

 

Yep!  Yesterday DD was crying to be picked up and RIGHT then my hip decided it needed a break and sent this huge sharp pain up whenever I tried to move it.  *SIGH* Its probably a good thing that we can't remember life before 5 years old, mamas have enough pressure to get it right as it is!  I am supposed to see a massage theraptist about it but havn't gotten around to that yet.  Won't be tonight, or tomorrow, too many events to go to for Reformation Day. :) Yes, that's going to be GREAT for my back, but hey, DD is going to have a blast.

EXACTLY. My teen/pre teen SILs thought they had to make a decision if they wanted to be here for the birth. I was like, "Let me make it easy for you. You're not invited till later." Then they were talking like they were going to rush over and see the baby as soon as it's born. I said, "No, this isn't a puppy. I'm going to probably be in the pool with the cord attached for a while, then I need time to nurse the baby, then Linda has to weigh, measure and all that. Then after the baby goes to sleep and I rest, I'll take a shower. Then MAYBE you can come. If it's in the middle of the night, I'm not even calling anyone I don't have to until morning. My substitute MW said it's best to not call anyone till you're at least in the serious phase or ppl will just not be able to wait and they'll be texting and calling and it'll just make my labor stall. I have only told my sister that. She has 2 little ones and reminded me of what happened when she had her little girl last fall. She was pushing and I think crowning and our mother called her. When she didn't answer, she called my brother-in-law right in the delivery room. "Oh I'm so worried. How is she doing?" irked.gif  It was almost 16 hrs labor with my nephew. It had only been 6 hrs at this point. ARG. duh.gif  So I'm not calling her till I have to for sure. Hubby is totally for that. I know his family will see the MW's here since they're next door and always hanging out the window. 

 

I'm so busy too! That's part of where I've been the past almost 2 weeks.

 

I have a lot of hip pains too esp at night. A body pillow REALLY has helped. There's not a lot of room in the bed with it but I really got to a point of NOT CARING. Then I started doing the Spinning Babies Forward Inversion and my tail bone started to pop really nicely almost every night, several times. It has helped a LOT with the hip and back pain. Though when the baby moves in certain ways, the back, the hips, the knees, the cervix, the anus, the whatever happens to get hit/a nerve hit HURTS and might go out with no warning. ....

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Oh, now I'm on bedrest.  My bp is up, but luckily no signs of toxemia in blood tests.  I don't think this family realized how often I get up for snacks.  They are stuck waiting on me now, for about the next 4 weeks.  

The doc is very hands off and says the goal is to just go as long as I can go, so keep the bp lower by staying on bedrest and no stress.

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.  I don't think this family realized how often I get up for snacks.  They are stuck waiting on me now, for about the next 4 weeks.  

 

I'll bet they'll have constant epiphanies about the stuff you usually do that they didn't realize (at least, if your family is like mine)!  lol.gif   I hope you enjoy your bedrest as much as possible!

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Oh my gosh, I can't believe how these babies are just coming!  It seems like a lot of them are coming on the early side?  I'm 38 weeks today and am so ready for this LO to be here.  I went to 40 weeks last time and 41 weeks the time before, but an early bird sounds amazing right now.

 

Completely unrelated, has anyone else found themselves suddenly ravenous all the time.  I thought that babies growth slowed down at this point?  I can't seem to stop eating.  

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Completely unrelated, has anyone else found themselves suddenly ravenous all the time.  I thought that babies growth slowed down at this point?  I can't seem to stop eating.  

 

I am just getting hungrier and hungrier. I haven't had to eat in the middle of the night very much during my pregnancy, but I have a couple times recently, especially if I don't have a snack right before bed. I've read that the fetus gains a half a pound a week during the third trimester, so I guess it makes sense.

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Oh my gosh, I can't believe how these babies are just coming!  It seems like a lot of them are coming on the early side?  I'm 38 weeks today and am so ready for this LO to be here.  I went to 40 weeks last time and 41 weeks the time before, but an early bird sounds amazing right now.

 

Completely unrelated, has anyone else found themselves suddenly ravenous all the time.  I thought that babies growth slowed down at this point?  I can't seem to stop eating.  

 

I thought it was just me!

post #79 of 85

I've started feeling my tummy rumbling from hunger again like it used to, but I still have no appetite.  I try to find the most nutrient dense snack I can so that I have to eat as little as possible. There simply is no room in there left for food *and* still be able to breathe!
 

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I can't believe it's my turn already - caesarean birth tomorrow morning! Wow.....I wonder if I"ll be able to sleep at all!

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