For the most part... not counting bad days.
I'm happy. It's challenging, certainly, and I was the last person to ever think of becoming a SAHM, but it's working for us! I get a little giddy just saying (typing) that! It's working it's working it's working!
The very first day I should have been back to my caseload and wasn't, Little Miss rolled over for the first time. Like some kind of sign.
She's so high-needs but so sweet and yes, shy, I am terrified of what might have happened to her in day care. Maybe she would have adjusted. Or maybe my sweetling would have been left to sob in a crib in a corner. Certainly no one would have spent hours on hours playing the "Boop!" game with her. Who would have taken her to the park? Who would have taken her to hear stories at the library? Who would have given her Cheerios and milk after her afternoon nap?
It was pretty clear after she was born that we were not meant to be separated. So we made the right choice for us, and yes, we're happy.
Yes, very happy.
I was not a career person. My entire life I wanted to be a momma, and now I am. I choose to homeschool and I want to keep my kids close so this is just a lifestyle that I choose and what works for us. I'm lucky though, to have an amazing support system of parents that live close by and an amazing friend/babysitter who comes a few hours a week so I can write/nap/do whatever. It is hard at times and I have my moments, but I woudln't change it!
I'm mostly happy. We recently moved and I lost all my "Mom friends" and my Martial Arts school where I was very close to everyone and I got to have a break from my son a few times a week. Now I'm with him nearly 24/7, and its hard somedays. I'm hoping to set up my garage as a workshop and have sometime a few times a week when DH is home to be out there alone. I told him the other day I need about 5 daytime hours a week to myself with out worrying about M and I'd be very happy. He said we can do that. So hopefully once we are into more of a routine here that will happen.
I'm pretty content with putting some of my dreams and passions on hold to raise my son (and hopefully have another kid) for now. :)
I'd say mostly unhappy right now. It's still what I choose, but I am very burnt out from it. I don't really have any other choice than to be a SAHM, 24/7, so there's no point in wondering about it. I am a total introvert and very noise sensitive. My son is ADHD and on the autism spectrum... very loud, can't sit still, etc.. He and his sister are 10 months apart and they are nonstop on the go from about 5-6 in the morning until bedtime. Right now they're going through a very undisciplined stage. Normally they're better but geez, this pregnancy has taken a toll on me and they are hurting for attention, and acting out something terrible. And I feel age creeping up on me as the big 30 milestone looms in a few months, and I have nothing to "show" for it. I graduated college and then basically went straight to mothering. I thought that was great at the time, and in a way it was, but... I dunno. I just feel stuck a lot of the time. My education is pretty much obsolete and now, no work history, and now that I'm expecting our third baby, I feel like I'm starting all over in the mothering department and it will be years before this child is a bit independent... So I'm kind of going through dark nights of the soul right now.
There is only so much fulfillment I can get from the baby stage, the homesteading thing... I've spent a lot of energy into those things in the past five or so years and I think I've made fabulous progress but it's not really "learning" anymore, it's living it, and it's just not that fun and exciting anymore. I do tend to stretch my mind via the library but it only goes so far when I can read in 5 minute chunks. By the end of the day when they're in bed I'm just blank and want to go to sleep. (And yes, I'm dreading the whole "new baby" sleeplessness coming up.)
I am happy. BUT I wasn't this happy until I did get a part-time job. I work 20 hrs/week and it is the perfect balance. When I quit teaching to SAH full-time after my son was born, I was very lonely and stressed. He was a very poor sleeper and constant nurser and I was just physically, emotionally drained all the time. Life has gotten much better as he has learned to sleep- YAY! and gotten more independent. And when I got my job when he was just shy of a year old. We still do not have a babysitter which would be nice to have for date nights and such but I"m working on it...
I am completely and totally happy, much much more so than I ever expected to be as a SAHP. I knew in my heart that this is the lifestyle that I wanted for my children but I really wasn't sure how it would go for me, I expected to feel like I was making a sacrifice for them and for DH who wanted me home. Now three years in, I am in the best stage of my life. But I know I am lucky to have all the essential factors in place - financial security, very supportive partner, close but not too close family, great circle of friends, great volunteer opportunities that involve my kids, super community with lots of activities, a house that works well as a home. Most of all the love and fascination I feel for my kids is beyond anything I thought I was capable of feeling.
It feels very weird to write all that - I was totally miserable and depressed most of my life, from a very young age. I never would have dreamed that I'd ever be truly happy, I honestly didn't really believe that humans could be. Working was about the only thing that I actually liked, so never would I have expected that leaving the business world to be a housewife and full time mother would be what would make my life complete!
In addition to the list above, one thing that helps me a lot to get through the challenging times is to think of mothering as a job that I need to train for, practice and study up on. Rarely does an evening go by when I'm not thinking about what went well and what didn't, why and how we can improve tomorrow. This really helps me to stay calm and patient, and to keep intellectually active.
I am impressed with the poll results - I know a lot of happy SAHP IRL but more unhappy ones, I thought I was the exception to the norm. I'd be curious to see a breakdown by age. In my case, being older helps. I've done a lot in life already and don't feel like I'm missing out on anything.