Are you happy as a Stay At Home Parent? - Page 2
Poll Results: For the most part are you happy or unhappy being a stay at home parent?
74% (131)I am mostly happy
20% (36)I am back and forth and in the middle ground somewhere.
5% (9)I am mostly unhappy
I've found being a SAHM more fulfilling than I thought it would be. Through my work as SAHM and homemaker and the challenges the past six years have brought, I've learned much about myself and have been able to put this knowledge to work to craft a better life for myself and my family...and a very different one than my teenage self envisioned for my future.
I'm currently working and considering stopping as I am so tired I have no energy for anything. I had a month off over Christmas with a combination of holiday and sickness but I enjoyed it so much, I had time and patience with my kids and I was able to cook decent meals and not just want to lie around all the time. I know it would be challenging being at home, but, I really want to walk my daughter to school and pick her up when she starts in September and not be paying someone else to do it for me, then I can take my son to playgroup and hopefully together we can sort out housework and cooking and maybe even fit in some adventures too. And that should mean I can take my daughter to her swimming and dancing classes she likes so much, we'll be living on a tight budget, but, that feels like the easiest problem to deal with.
I am completely, totally happy that I'm a SAHM!. Of course there are rough days, especially the days my 19 year old is PMSing or cranky or, well, there really aren't any other kinds of days for her.lol. But I really enjoy all my other children. I love homeschooling them and learning right along with them. Catching all their firsts and knowing they were safe.
When I worked, I worried most of the day about them. Were they okay at school? Being bullied? Were they okay at daycare? Being bullied there too? I hated it so much. Especially on the days both my kiddos were at daycare and i knew I was paying more for daycare than I was making. What was the point of that? Plus I missed all their firsts. First time they stood up? At daycare. First steps? Daycare. It really sucked.
When my really nice daycare lady's mean, grumpy husband got injured at work and was home all the time that was it for me. I prayed and I pushed for my husband to find another job and while we now scrape by most of the time to make it, I wouldn't trade it for anything. I love being home with my children and getting to share all those moments with them that I used to miss.
Mostly happy, like 98% happy! That doesn't mean it's easy. Doesn't mean that there are moments in a day that I wish I could be more patient. I just love being there for all the special moments, playing with them, watching my 4 year old learn to wash dishes, making cookies with my 1 year old in a carrier, laughing at all the funny things they say. It's so beautiful being a mother.
I get the best of both worlds because I work from home and bring in decent $, on my own time when the kids are asleep. Which makes things very hard in the sense that I get little sleep, which makes me cranky. But still I would rather do this than leave my kids with anyone else!
is more trouble than it is worth right now. My ds (the older) has been challenging (and also delightful) since birth. He brings me to the limits of my patience and beyond on a daily basis, and I often feel I don't have enough in me to give both of them everything they need. That said I wouldn't trade my time with them for anything. I know they are better off with me even if I don't do it right all the time. I know things will get easier as they get a bit older and I really look forward to that while at the same time trying to enjoy the beautiful moments that happen with them everyday. I also am working on accepting that my house will never be clean enough and I will never be able to plan and prepare enough perfectly nutritious meals to satisfy myself. So I'm trying to let that go!
I have been a SAHM for 15 years as of 1-23-13! It has been an adventure, often challenging, and so full of love and laughter that I would have missed if I were working outside the home. There have been some very trying times as we attempt to raise a large family on one income, but it has been worth it in every way. I would not change my decision, and my hubby says neither would he!
I go to a nursing moms group, and this week's discussion was about an article posted online called "Why you're never failing as a mom." It was a great article, and the group concensus was that we can't do it all, and who ever told us we should be able to? If you can fall into bed at the end of the day, knowing you did your best (even if your best didn't include a clean kitchen and a gourmet meal), then that day was a good one! Bottom line is that your kids know you love them, and chances are they do when you give them your time and attention.
I LOVE it! That doesn't mean I don't have crazy, frustrating, just-at-my-wit's-end kind of days with my kiddos though. Of course I do, but I am realistic and KNOW that if I worked outside our home I would many crazy, frustrating days then too. I wouldn't change my "job" for anything right now. Someday I'll go back to earning a paycheck but hope to still be home part-time.
I voted mostly happy as I have a very supportive partner, family, and community (I live on an island full of interesting and helpful SAHMs!) If the wide culture valued what stay at home parents do for the next generation I think we would all be happier, but there is still this undercurrent of not really contributing because we don't make money. I would also be happier about it if I had some kind of retirement plan... I found employed work to be draining and boring and hard and though life as a SAHM is sometimes like that too, the love of my baby girl and helping her become the best little person she can is so much more rewarding than anything a job could provide. It's all about outlook.
i voted unhappy I am a student parent now but still stay home. i voted unhappy because I want to work but could not find a job that paid enough money to justify working right now. Even when I was married and a sahm a lot of it was not very happy and I felt like i sacrificied myself for the family. I am not even sure the kids are any better because i sahm. But I don't regret it and I am glad I have been able to sahm, but if i had another child down the road with a new partner i am not sure i could sahm again. However i am choosing teaching in part because of the time off in the summers to still be with the kids more than a year round job.
I have been a SAHM for 6 years. I am mostly happy. I have been reading in another forum that has a lot of members very vocal about how SAHMing is a terrible choice that is ruining my life and future. It did make me feel bad and unhappy. But it brought out some points to consider, so that was the silver lining. I've stopped reading there because it really brings me down.
When I first started to SAH, I thought I would never work again and be happy to live blissfully taking care of my kids and household forever. I didn't give any thought to the reality of the future. So now I have a 6 year old and a 2 year old and I see them getting older and I know I won't be doing the SAH thing forever. I am taking some online college classes and preparing myself for re-entering the workforce sometime in the future. It gives me a little bit of security and makes me feel better about myself.
Yep, I don't have a career. Yep, I have a huge gap in my resume of office receptionist/waitressing jobs. It is what it is. Also, I never really wanted a career until now. I guess if I had, I wouldn't have dropped out of University and moved to Costa Rica and lived on the beach and partied for 5 years. But that phase of my life is long over now, and I am sure the SAHM thing will be over at some point also.