Okay, baby is asleep (I think) so a few more thoughts:
Liz - I did buy a cheap pair of capris and a couple of shirts from Wal-mart in my current size. I really wanted out of maternity clothes, plus my maternity pants wouldn't really stay up properly, anyway! It does help to be able to wear something. And after more intense digging in my closet, I've actually come up with several pairs of capris I can wear from pre-pregnancy. There are still pairs of pants/capris I can't get over my thighs, but again, I was overweight to start with! I may try the Salvation Army/Goodwill idea, too.
I'm also really hating my stretch marks. I've got a ton of them on both hips and also on my lower belly. I didn't really have any stretch marks to speak of until pretty late in pregnancy, so maybe that's part of the reason I'm struggling with them? I just hate the way they look on me. Which I know is petty and shallow, but I still hate it. It's not like anyone but me or dh ever sees them, and he doesn't seem to care but... ugh. I've gotten stretch marks on my hips before due to weight gain, and they've always faded to a pretty much invisible whitish color, so I'm hoping these will fade eventually, too. And it makes my poochy tummy look even worse.
Sex, on the rare occasions the baby lets us have it, is painful for me, too. I tore in two places (1st degree near the top, 2nd degree near the bottom), and then had stitches that didn't dissolve. I'm doing so much better since they pulled the stitches out a few weeks ago, but there are just certain areas that just don't have any stretch to them, and therefore hurt. The dryness doesn't help with the un-stretchiness. We've tried using olive oil, per our midwife's suggestion, but it is so messy! She also recommended that I use olive oil to do some massaging/stretching of the area on a regular basis, but that hasn't exactly made it to the top of my to-do list. This is pretty much the only time sex has ever been painful, so it's kind of discouraging. I do still enjoy it, but not as much as I would like to. It's probably also suffering somewhat in comparison to pregnant sex, which was pretty awesome. Worse than pain during sex, though, is the fact that it hurts afterwards for quite awhile. Just a sort of achy soreness. :( And sometimes the areas where I had stitches will just start aching randomly, for no particular reason. That's the worst.
Siiiiiiiigh. So yeah, overall not having too great of a self-image right now. Though if I'm going to get down on myself, I'm usually more unimpressed with my parenting skills and ability to accomplish household tasks than with my body. Sometimes being too occupied to have time to look in the mirror is a good thing!
Oh, and on a neutral note - my hair has started falling out again. Not in a dramatic way, just in the normal find-some-in-the-comb and lose-a-little-in-the-shower way. I guess I didn't really notice that it completely stopped falling out while I was pregnant. None ever came out when I combed or brushed it. I should have enjoyed it more while it lasted! But it's not really a big deal so far, which I'm grateful for, after some people talking about their hair coming out in big clumps!