dd has always been a v. intense child. she has mostly been upset.
now the key emotion is anger.
and my sweet well mannered child disappears sometimes.
replaced by this angry child saying inappropriate things.
i dont know how to help her with this. she CANNOT be calling people names. or swearing at them. i know her hormones are high. i know - really BELIEVE she is trying - but its still coming out of her mouth in public.
is punishment the answer. that is the technique i am using now (due to lack of ideas) - but its fear based and i am not sure if it is that helpful to her. she has never been grounded before but she is accepting it.
she wants to stop but doesnt know how. i know she doesnt want to say those things, but she needs an appropriate way to respond right away.
the point is she IS asking for help. and i find i am not sure how to help.
i am so lost.