I am hoping to get some of that awesome mothering perspective...
My DSD is 17 and a junior in high school. Over the years, DH and I have noticed that she is over-confident (or maybe unrealistic) in her skills and understanding of things. I don't know if over-confident is the best description, but here are some examples-
DSD has taken 2 years of French. She insists she is a fluent speaker and is seeking a translator title at her job as a cashier at the grocery store. She currently has an F in French this school year.
DSD used to cook 1x a week, as all members in the family do. She would make nachos, grilled cheese etc. She says she knows how to cook.
DSD read a wiki article on car engines and now thinks she is qualified to work as a mechanic.
Most recently, she told DH that she had a thorough understanding of physics. She had dropped her physics class the day before. She had an F in the class.
I get that at 17, it is almost impossible to have a large worldview and most kids this age feel they are experts in anything they come into contact with.
My concern is that she really cannot see past the confidence, even when her grades and teachers tell her otherwise. When she is not getting high grades, it is the teacher's fault. Last year, she had Ds & Fs in Geometry, and it took us until March to help her realize that she needed help, not that the teacher didn't like her, or she just went too fast on the tests. We talk a lot about it being ok to admit something is hard and needing help. We have many talks about seeking help as soon as you realize you need it; but she really seems to not realize it.
Is this typical teenage stuff? I don't want to do anything to take away her confidence, but I want her to be ok with realizing you can't be an expert on everything and it is ok to need help. This type of thing could be detrimental to her when she goes to college and doesn't have us to nag her to seek help.