I am still nursing ds2. I wonder if weaning him will help him to sleep better. I tried nightweaning but it didn't help. Instead of waking less, he simply cried during the wakings that I withheld milk (between 11pm and 4am). So I can hope that complete weaning helps him sleep better - ds1 started sleeping through the night after being fully weaning but he was only waking 1 or 2 since I nightweaning. But I wonder if since nightweaning didn't help ds2 sleep better that total weaning also won't help. The risk of this plan is if I wean him and he still wakes frequently then I lost my main soothing method during night wakings.
My other thought is to continue nursing but to transition ds2 to his own sleeping area. Maybe even another room entirely. He often sleeps from 8:30-11 or even midnight while I am still awake. It tends to be the longest stretch of the night. He seems to be a lighter sleeper than ds1 and more easy to wake up. He is not as drawn to me in his sleep as ds1 was: he was a mommy-magnet while ds2 tends to roll away.
I am just too tired to keep this up much longer. I feel like i basically stopped sleeping 4 years ago when ds1 was born (he was a lousy sleeper and when he started sttn I was pregnant and couldn't sleep well).