Atticus hasn't pooped in 4 days. He's 6 weeks old. Is this normal?
To avoid making this thread solely about poop, feel free to post other "what's going on with my kid?" questions!
Baby Bird has recently transitioned to pooping about once or twice a day. Definitely weird at first, as he used to poop at pretty much ever feed, then about 4-5 times a day. When he first started transitioning, he was MISERABLE for a few days, though. It seems better now.
A couple other things, though:
He is a GASSY baby. Has been pretty much since the beginning. The kid farts and farts and farts, and usually has pretty big burps, too. I've cut chocolate from my diet (though that was to try to help his terrible baby acne, which has improved a lot), and I'm working hard to phase out dairy, though that has been tough with traveling and trying to get back on the South Beach Diet. Any other ideas about this? Sometimes his gassiness seems to lead to fussiness, other times, he doesn't seem to care. Is this just normal?
He has also been congested frequently since about a week old. The pediatrician said it was normal, and to try saline and a humidifier. Saline didn't help much, and I haven't remembered to try the humidifier yet. But we live in Houston... it's not exactly dry! I hate that it seems so hard for him to breathe, especially at night. It doesn't seem to phase him much, but I'm struggling to believe it's really normal. The ENT we saw for his hearing test at 1 month said that he was too young to have allergies. (He sneezes and has goopy eyes sometimes, too.) Thoughts?
monkey - My daughter is the the same way. I think it's related to what I eat. She's super gassy AND congested. Her congestion comes and goes, much like the gassiness, which is I why I think it's food related. So, if I were you, I'd just eliminate some stuff from your diet to see what it is. Most common irritants are caffeine, dairy, wheat, chocolate, alcohol, beans, onions, garlic, tomatoes and peppers.
With my son, he would vomit every time I had tomatoes, caffeine or alcohol. Of course, I was craving everything that was tomato-based. So, think about what you crave each day - it's probably what he can't have. :(
Hmm... his congestion is pretty constant. The level of his gassiness does rise and fall, though. There's already no caffeine, alcohol, or chocolate in my diet. Not a lot of tomatoes or onions, either. I'm not sure what I would eat if I eliminated everything on the list! I admit I wonder if salad causes him distress, because it causes me distress. Which is stupid - salad is supposed to be good for you! But it often does an number on my intestines. Siiiiiiiigh. Oh, and I have been eating pretty low sugar/carb the last week or so.
Ohh,Quinn got baby acne, and now that I think about it, it aligned with when I made no bake cookies and started eating them like they were going out of style. Good thing they're gone now. Q is also very gassy, I do the little bicycle stretch with her legs, and then push them both towards her belly together and it usually helps her fart. She is like Baby Bird in that sometimes it makes her fussy and sometimes she just doesn't care and farts. I am trying to be more conscientious of my diet, because it has been really hard to make sure I'm eating at all, let alone something healthy, when I'm here by myself. But Quinn is staying asleep for longer periods of time now during the day so I'm able to get a little more done. It is funny that I made sure to eat so healthy when I was pregnant, but now that she is here, I'm not making the effort, even though I am still sustaining her. I need to remind myself of that when I make food choices.
Also, Q was very congested up until about 4 weeks, when we started using the humidifier, that really seemed to help.
I was thinking this exact same thing today. I need to make this more of a priority.
I know that comparing yourself and your baby to others is mind-poison, but I am wondering if Lyle is within normal for his all-around fussiness during the day, not just his colic.
I was visiting my friend and her 4 month old didn't fuss ONE TIME in the 2-3 hours I was there. Lyle had to be held until he fell asleep, and then when he woke up and ate, afterwards he was fussy until we put him in the bouncy seat, which lasted about 15 minutes. This is pretty typical of him during the day.
Today I am a little sad/feeling guilty. We woke up at 10:30, I fed him and changed him and he was fussy so I rocked him to sleep and he slept for almost 2 hours again. Then he woke up and ate, and I changed him and held him but he wouldn't stop so then I gave him his pacifier because he was still really fussy. So he's quietly sucking on his pacifier with his eyes closed now. So we haven't had a lot of "playing" or positive interaction today and I wonder if this is okay at two months? (Part of this might just be my left-over pacifier guilt/hate. I really don't like using it as much as I do. I was terrified to give him one because I thought it would interfere with breastfeeding, but then he ended up getting one in the hospital and now we use it fairly often, not just during sleep/naps, especially in light of the colic/reflux. I don't really worry about the BF thing but I still don't like it. I read something that said that pacifiers can help with reflux so maybe that's why he likes it so much?)
Also, this woman is going to be my daycare provider when I go back to work. She's my friend but I fear she thinks it's going to suck and not be worth it to take care of a high maintenance baby. I don't think he's really "high needs" and I feel for some of you whose babies want to be worn all the time, but he does fuss a fair amount.
I'm also worried that he's in pain or discomfort, that we should get another reflux medicine. I don't know.
I don't have an answer, but I have the same issue/question! I have a 7 month old niece who's been sooooo easy going, and it's so hard to not make comparisons and wonder about my own....
William is definitely a "high needs baby": everything everything begins and ends with blood curdling screaming - waking up, starting nursing (or switching sides, taking pauses), finishing nursing, getting to sleep, diaper changes, being put down for a split second, laid on his back, tummy, you name it. He has yet to ever fall asleep on his own - has to be in the sling and rocked, and then 1/3 the time I can sneak him out and into the cradle for about 30 minutes at best. I figured it was just his temperament, and never concluded that it was "colic" since holding/rocking him upright or wearing him would always get him "settled". Although this "solution" is employed about 20hrs a day, at least it works and we never had to resort to taking car rides! About 2-3 times a day I can get him happy enough to lay on the play mat or sit in the bouncy seat while batting at hanging objects and giving smiles - this only lasts about 10 minutes tops before he fusses and ultimately ends up back in the sling. And since the sling always puts him to sleep, he ends up sleeping most of the day aside from nursing (whilst shrieking through every transition)....So I'm also feeling guilty and concerned that he's missing out on awake time for stimulation and interaction.
This week though, I'm getting more concerned about colic and possible reflux issues, or maybe even a food sensitivity. He's had hives all week, which is slowly spreading (despite eliminating dairy and nuts from my diet) and sometimes it flares up after nursing. And I can hear gas bubbles churning in his stomach, which might explain why I've had to hold him upright throughout this ENTIRE day. Normally he doesn't spit up much, but I've been getting burps and gurgles all day. More than mere temperament, this poor kid may actually be in a lot of pain.... and then what to do about that???
William will also nurse nonstop through the whole entire night - if I let him - although I eventually pry him off and he'll continue to suck on the pacifier for hours in his sleep. He also has the pacifier more than half the time during the day (if not nursing) as well. My only worry is that it'll become a problem down the road when he's sleeping in his own bed (waking up every time it falls out and I'm not there to pop it back in). I did also read that baby's saliva (and also breastmilk?) neutralizes stomach acids/gas which might explain his constant need to be sucking.
Boots - how did your doctor determine that Lyle had reflux? Did he do any tests, or was his spitting up a factor? Did the reflux medicine that he has now help him at all?
Unfortunately, I think all of this is pretty normal. Piper isn't fussy during the day as long as she's being worn or held at all times. Obviously, this makes things a little difficult. She's just now at 2 months able to sit in the swing or the vibrating chair or her bassinet alone for ten minutes or so. She's also starting to get over her serious aversion to the car, so we now only have to deal with intermittent crying rather than all-out screaming. My friend's baby, on the other hand (same age), just sits cooing in his bassinet all day long. I think a lot of it is temperament, digestion, etc. At the same time, Piper is much smilier than my friend's baby and much more interactive, so I guess there's a silver lining to some of these early "clouds".
I also think there's a huge difference between a two month old and a four month old. There's a reason people often cite the three month mark as being a turnaround point -- so much developmental change happens at that point and babies are finally starting to learn to control their environments and their emotions (somewhat). So I would look at your friend's baby as what you hopefully have ahead of you, not as a comparison sample.
NewMum, one of the classic signs of reflux (according to Dr. Sears) is pain or fussiness when spitting up. Piper spits up a ton, but she's never in pain when it happens, it just sort of falls out. The hives might be something to worry about though. I don't know much about that stuff. My friend's daughter had what was diagnosed as severe colic until she was finally diagnosed with a nut allergy at 6 months (which is super early for an allergy diagnosis), but it doesn't really sound like what William has going on. And you've eliminated two of the major triggers, so.... But I'm glad to see someone else's baby needs to be worn all the time too! I guess we'll have really strong back muscles when all is said and done.
LilyTiger - Well, glad to know my baby isn't the only one who seems to spit up without really even noticing. I find it incredibly distressing, but it's a total non-issue for him. Just this morning, I was bouncing him in his bouncy seat and trying to get him back to sleep after a feeding, and he just turned his head and about an ounce or so of liquid just came streaming out of his mouth with no warning! Totally soaked his swaddler and his nightgown, and he didn't care in the slightest.
Haven't been on here to interact in MONTHS, but I do check in to see if there's anything I can add to the convo, or to check and see if I'm dealing with some of the same stuff. Our Archer was born at home Aug 24, BTW!!!
So in my experience (this is my 3rd), gassiness and fussiness comes with the territory- in some cases worse than others. I've been doing a lot of talking with my midwives and researching the La Leche League website to learn about Oversupply and Foremilk/Hindmilk imbalance (which is what I'm semi-struggling with) and this is what I'm learning...
Foremilk contains mostly lactose and sugars which are crucial for brain development, but too much of it can be challenging for baby to digest. It causes gas, hiccups, spit-up, and a general discomfort for baby. It also causes the mostly green, watery or foamy poops, where the hindmilk is easier digested and more rich and fatty, and helps with easy yellow/mustard poop! A Foremilk/Hindmilk imbalance is often misdiagnosed as colic or reflux, so all you mamas who think they might have a colicky or reflux baby, check the La Leche League website and search oversupply or foremilk/hindmilk imbalance.
Keeping baby upright as long as you can after feeding is so helpful. Also what is working for me is block feeding so that we are making sure to get the most hindmilk as possible. Sometimes if i'm terribly engorged, I will pump for a minute or two and then hand express until my letdown is more manageable and then put baby on to nurse. Then I allow him to nurse one side for sometimes up to 5 or 6 hours until the breast is def emptied. Just to clarify- he's not nursing 5-6 hours, only 10- 20 min, but over a period of 5-6 hrs to empty the breast!!!! I also use Colic Calm for really gassy frantic moments. It's a wonderful homeopathic liquid for baby's belly. And works instantly on hiccups! My midwives suggested mint tea- just little bit from a spoon or dropper, and also an herbal (chamomile and lemon balm) bath works wonders, especially at that dinnertime fussy hour. Just make a strong tea and add it to baby's bath. The saying is "If you can't get the herbs into the baby, get the baby into the herbs". It's just as effective being absorbed thru the skin as it is taken orally!
As far as the poop thing goes, I can't remark on that! I hope some of this info may be helpful! Congrats to all you mamas doing such a great job loving and nurturing your precious little ones :)
Monkey and Lily, Quinn is a nonchalant spitter-upper too. It bothers me more than it bothers her, which is to say not at all. She also frequently gets hiccups, which doesn't bother her either. She consistently got hiccups when I was pregnant too, so at this point it is old hat.
B and I came up with a scale for poops, since B isn't here to experience them, I can just give him a number and he knows what I'm dealing with. Anyone else do this?
2. Normal 1-wipe poo
3. >1 wipe poo, cover still intact
4. Need to change the cover
5. Need to change her clothes
6. Major blowout, poo everywhere, shower required
I think we've only experiences a #6 once, thankfully.
After talking to a pediatrician, we gave Atticus a glycerin suppository this afternoon and HOLY CRAP - out came the crap. It was intense. Poor kid.
Anyway, he seems much happier and more comfortable now, but he's still pretty gassy - he cries and is generally fussy after eating, arching his back a lot, etc. Any tips for how to deal with the gassiness?