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Weekly Chat Oct 8th-13th

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Chat away! :D

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I haven't been posting much, but I have been keeping up with reading! :D  

I have had a super crazy busy week.  Throw that in with my car's alternator going, the party I am planning for next weekend, a family trip to cedar point, homeschooling, my husband starting to work overnight for a while, issues with the board at the housing co op we live in and now moving within 6 weeks (just two streets away, but still lots of planning and work involved) and I feel like I am going crazy! wild.gif I just looked at our schedule and between now and the end of the year, we only have 2 "free" weekends left.  I should protect them with all of my strength and ability in order to guard my sanity!!! :)  Once January comes, things always settles down.  But we are always busy July-December and this year, we threw in a vacation at the end of may and early June, so it seems like we have had no down time since middle of may!!! 

 

Pregnancy-wise, nothing much to report.  I am just over 18 weeks and need to remember to schedule my u/s.  Maybe I'll do that tomorrow! If I can remember. lol. My husband's annoying overnight schedule will end after this week and we are not sure what type of schedule he will have after after that... So scheduling it at a time he can be around will be a challenge.  I am still feeling regular movement, which is a relief.  Especially after my terrible dream last night that involved going to u/s appt and getting bad news.  2 weeks until my next prenatal appt!  

 

Hope you all are doing well and having a great holiday (Columbus Day for Americans and Thanksgiving for Canadians) today!

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Happy Thanksgiving!

 

We had a great dinner last night with my sisters and one sister's partner and kids.  We ate outside (we're in a small townhouse with a nice common area with picnic tables - LOTS more space on the picnic tables for 8 people than my kitchen!) and it was lovely and warm and fun for the kids.

 

And... we got a new car!  Yay!  That is SUCH a load off my mind.  Our previous car was an ailing, ancient (1989) Honda Civic.  It was economical, relatively easy (for DH) to fix, but despite DH's genius with mechanical things, it was starting to fall apart faster than he could fix it.  It had got to the point that despite a new alternator we had to drive with the headlights on in order to charge the battery properly, and the rear driver's side door didn't open (a major pain when grocery shopping, and it confused the hell out of the dog).

 

So on Friday I came across a nice, very reasonably priced 2006 Mazda 5 and we jumped on it.  I LOVE it.  Yes, it's quite a bit bigger, but then again I was able to pick my sister up at the airport with partner and 2 kids and 3 weeks worth of luggage AND our other sister and it all fit. (Not entirely comfortably, but it did fit!)  Everything WORKS on it.  It's like jumping 20 years into the future - power windows! power door locks! Sliding doors that close themselves! Sun roof!  Thingies on the steering wheel that do stuff!  LOL.

 

And that's all our news.  Kinda forgot about being pregnant this week a bit, but the baby was really wiggly after thanksgiving dinner so I remembered.
 

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jodieanneanton: Good luck with your move!!  Moving is such a chore, no matter how far the relocation happens to be.  We're also moving, but not until December so I have a little more time still to procrastinate winky.gif  I hope all goes well at your u/s!

 

Spughy: Congrats on your new car!  It must be such a relief to have a good, reliable car that also fits everyone and everything.  We hope to have a car like that soon, too.  

 

An old friend of the family came for a visit yesterday, which was very enjoyable.  It's always nice to sit and talk and catch up on things.  

 

I'm really missing living in Portland, OR.  We're in L.A. at the moment and we hope to move back up there within the next few years.  I seriously can't wait.  I miss the trees, the fresh, clean air, even the rain.  I complained about the rain a lot of the time when I lived there but now I miss it lol.gif go figure.  I guess spending a year in a dry, desert climate will do that to you.  We also have friends there that we miss.  All in good time, trying to be patient, but it's not always easy.  

 

I felt the baby three times yesterday, I think that's a record so far this pregnancy.  Such tiny little kicks, makes me feel so warm and fuzzy love.gif  I'm grateful for this DDC since I don't know anyone IRL who is pregnant right now.  

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Happy Thanksgiving!!

 

jodieanneanton & Linnaea - I'm not a mover, I pick a spot and stay there - I'd be very stressed if I was moving during a pregnancy!  Good luck to both of you.

 

Spughy - a new car is very exciting.  So is visiting family!  My brother was down in Victoria for a half marathon and I'm jealous that he gets to be with the parents right now (even though I was just there at the end of August, and then my dad came up for 3 weeks in September, and will be returning again in a couple weeks.)

 

About 2 hours ago I was kicked HARD in the chest (I'm at work right now).  Then we wrestled a bit on the floor (with the help of my partner and two RCMP members).  Bit of a wake up call.  Can't keep risking physical harm much longer.  I guess I'm being selfish telling myself that I'm being extra careful and not taking undue risks, all just because I like my current posting and don't want to be put on desk duty.  But I can't be thinking of just my needs/wants right now, gotta start thinking of the jellyfish living in me, too. 

 

So, this will probably be my last set of night shifts (that part isn't too bad!)  I need to remind myself that I was very LUCKY that I was kicked in the chest and not in the stomach.  Even though I believe that the baby is well padded and protected, a good swift kick is probably not recommended.  I'm babbling a bit now, but I'm just coming off an adrenaline high and realizing that I need to change more than just my diet and drinking and smoking habits (all of which have already been changed) to suit my new chapter in life. 

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Linnaea, I am from So Cal and don't miss it at all! It's been four years in New England for me and I have put off even a visit to the family/friends for two years to avoid all of the Californianess that grates on my nerves. Funny, but I am way more at home here then I ever was there. The only places I can still dream of visiting are way out in the desert, away from all of the people. Joshua Tree is by far one of my favorite places to tromp around and I was just getting to know Anza Borrego before I left. Have you been out there?

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Spughy: We got a new car, too, though that was back in July! We upgraded from a Toyota Corolla whose engine finally blew, to an SUV. More room, but fewer miles per gallon. I'm hoping it pans out to be a worthwhile trade-off! That was such a stressful month! My car's engine blew and I found out I was pregnant, all while at the inlaws! Craziness!

 

Last night, it's like things had somehow slipped into overdrive, pregnancy wise. I went from hardly feeling any movement to holy cow, where did YOU come from?! And I found this DDC on MDC and I'm ecstatic to finally have someone to share all of this with who is also pregnant. I have one friend who gave birth in March of this year, so our pregnancies are running concurrent... just one year after the other. XD This will be the first pregnancy that I will have other friends with small children around. I'm very excited about this!

 

My brother and his girlfriend just got engaged a few days ago. I am very excited. We love her so much, and now we have a wedding AND a baby in the offing. I'm on tenterhooks waiting for details!

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jodie, wow, you do sound busy! Good luck with the move. Even short moves are a lot of work, but that's what friends are for, right? wink1.gif

 

spughy, sounds like your Thanksgiving went great, and congrats on the new car! I had a '74 VW bug for several years as my first car, which I loved, because I understood it, but it was definitely not power anything. Then I moved to Seattle for a few years and sold it. Moved back to CA, where not owning a car makes things difficult, and ended up buying my mom's used first generation Prius when she upgraded. Talk about a mental shift that had to happen from driving an ancient VW bug to a hybrid!!! I remember it was so amazing to me that the defroster and the windshield wipers both worked fast enough. LOL. I'm sure you will fully enjoy all of the perks on your new car!

 

Linnaea, I grew up in California, so I'm kind of partial to it. That said, L.A. is NOT my favorite place to be! I grew up mostly in the Bay Area, and went to grad school in Santa Cruz, which was great. But I've moved to Seattle for the second time now, so I understand the draw of the PNW too. smile.gif And I love Portland - it's a great city.

 

scruffy, what exactly are you doing on your job that leads to you getting kicked? bigeyes.gif I am glad to hear it was "just" your chest, but ouch!!

 

cabbit, glad to see you popping up around the boards. smile.gif I am also almost exactly a year behind my cousin, which is pretty fun. In fact, I think her baby was born right about at my 41 weeks, so their birthdays could be really close together! And in fact, I have a close friend who found out she was pregnant just after me (with her second), but is actually slightly farther along than me. Still, babies are due within a few weeks of each other. So fun. And congrats to your brother!

 

As for me, I think the most exciting thing is that my midwife told me that the little funny feelings I was noticing in my lower central abdomen are actually the baby moving, and not just funny digestion things. Yay!!! They were just different enough I was starting to wonder, but they're also so light that I was figuring maybe it was still just food moving around. But now I know that my intestines go over and around my uterus, but not in front, so flutters in that middle part are the baby. I had no idea how excited this would make me. love.gif

 

In non-pregnancy land, two of our across-the-street neighbors are having gas lines put into their houses, which means our normally quiet little intersection is quite the loud hotbed of construction activity today. I'm hoping this is a fairly easy process that won't last longer than a day or two!

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Linnaea, I am from So Cal and don't miss it at all! It's been four years in New England for me and I have put off even a visit to the family/friends for two years to avoid all of the Californianess that grates on my nerves. Funny, but I am way more at home here then I ever was there. The only places I can still dream of visiting are way out in the desert, away from all of the people. Joshua Tree is by far one of my favorite places to tromp around and I was just getting to know Anza Borrego before I left. Have you been out there?

writermama12: I highly doubt I'll miss it here, either winky.gif  I certainly won't miss the noise, pollution, traffic, obnoxious people and heat lol.gif  I haven't been to Joshua Tree in ages and I've never heard of Anza Borrego, is that in Palm Springs, too?  Joshua Tree is a spiritual place for me, I'd love to visit there again before I finally leave CA.  What part of New England are you in?  A friend of mine lives in Connecticut, she likes it there.  

 

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Linnaea, I grew up in California, so I'm kind of partial to it. That said, L.A. is NOT my favorite place to be! I grew up mostly in the Bay Area, and went to grad school in Santa Cruz, which was great. But I've moved to Seattle for the second time now, so I understand the draw of the PNW too. smile.gif And I love Portland - it's a great city.

 

scruffy, what exactly are you doing on your job that leads to you getting kicked? bigeyes.gif I am glad to hear it was "just" your chest, but ouch!!

 

 

As for me, I think the most exciting thing is that my midwife told me that the little funny feelings I was noticing in my lower central abdomen are actually the baby moving, and not just funny digestion things. Yay!!! They were just different enough I was starting to wonder, but they're also so light that I was figuring maybe it was still just food moving around. But now I know that my intestines go over and around my uterus, but not in front, so flutters in that middle part are the baby. I had no idea how excited this would make me. love.gif

 

In non-pregnancy land, two of our across-the-street neighbors are having gas lines put into their houses, which means our normally quiet little intersection is quite the loud hotbed of construction activity today. I'm hoping this is a fairly easy process that won't last longer than a day or two!

 

chocolatechip: I've lived in Santa Cruz as well, I definitely miss the beach and laid-back lifestyle.  UCSC is an awesome school, especially for grad work.  I didn't go there (San Jose State for me), but I've had friends who did and they loved it.  

 

I was wondering the same thing, too, about scruffy!  The first thing I thought of was a horse trainer but she would have been knocked out with a possible collapsed lung if it had been a horse who kicked her orngtongue.gif  Whatever it is, it sounds scary.  

 

Wow, thank you for sharing what your midwife told you--what you describe sounds exactly what I've been experiencing for weeks now and I've been thinking it's probably intestinal stuff, too.  The flutters are often so light it's too difficult to tell for sure, but now that I know it couldn't have been the intestines then it must have been the baby after all!  How cool is that?! 

 

I'm sorry you're having to deal with loud, obnoxious noise irked.gif  I'm very sensitive to noise so I know how hard it can be to deal with.  I hope they finish up by tomorrow!

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Linnaea, I am living in the North Shore of Mass, 30 min. north of Boston. Love it! I am surrounded on all sides by protected conservation land and marshes. Green and quiet and fresh. Anza is BIG, and is actually on the other side of San Jacinto Mt., East of Riverside-- a little past Palm Springs, you can take a right before the Salton Sea to get there. You can camp for free if you don't use one of the sites but camp in the wide open space of the park. That's what DH and I did. Coyotes howling and wind whipping through the valley floor---really special place. We found potsherds and ancient sea shells in the sand too! And we saw ancient Native petroglyphs-- that was really cool. Indian Canyon is an oasis near Palm Springs that has a flowing creek and lots of Palm Trees and humming birds. That was my first date with DH. I went to college and then lived in Redlands for years so I know the area pretty well.

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I'm a Corrections Officer.  My current posting is in the RCMP "drunk tank."  Great fun, but probably over for now.

 

What does XD mean?  Is it a happy face?

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chocolatechip, I grew up in California, too, about an hour north of Yosemite, and went to school at SFSU. I have friends who went to UCSC. I love the Bay Area and miss it a lot. lol I don't think L.A. is anyone's favorite place to be. Maybe some of the surrounding areas, but not L.A. itself. XD

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Linnaea, yep, UCSC was great for me. And I think I was partly able to stay sane during grad school by being in such a beautiful place. It's hard to forget there's a broader world out there, when every time you go home you see big vistas of the coast and the bay. smile.gif And yes, isn't that neat about the flutters?? You have to have some sense of how far up your uterus comes, but mine's almost to my belly button now, so she said anything below that down the middle would be the baby. And I'm on the very very very tail end of this due date club, so I'd imagine most people's uteri are bigger than mine at this point. lol.gif

 

scruffy, I think it's awesome you normally find your job fun! That sounds like the right attitude to have if you're working in the "drunk tank." smile.gif Sorry you'll have to move on for a while. I'm not sure exactly what XD is supposed to mean, but yes, it's a happy face, and it's a scrunchy-eyed big-grin sort of happy face.

 

So much UCSC love! Go banana slugs! orngbiggrin.gif

 

No construction here yet today... But my husband and I were remarking the other day about how it's kind of amazing they can just come paint our yard, because they were spraying arrows and lines places (I think marking where the gas lines were). Turns out, they can apparently just come dig up yard, too! Just part of the sidewalk strip, which I think might be technically city owned anyway, but it was still kind of funny to go out and discover a four foot square patch of what used to be (admittedly dead, since we haven't had any rain) lawn, and is now just dirt. Ah well. Maybe I should put something else in there so there's less grass to mow. wink1.gif

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I am trying to talk myself out of another cup of hot chocolate (had one this morning) and into a cup of RRL tea....  Either would warm me up.  If I spill the RRL tea, it is much less mess... The RRL is better for me, no sugar and better for my uterus... I know I should have the tea...  But hot chocolate is just. soooo. good.   Decisions, decisions.  :)

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Now there's an idea! I have chocolate mint tea, and I can mix it with RRL tea! Thanks Jodie!
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Now there's an idea! I have chocolate mint tea, and I can mix it with RRL tea! Thanks Jodie!

mmmmmmm.... yum.... Where'd you get a tea like that? bigeyes.gif

 

 

I decided on the tea...  eyesroll.gif

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I am seriously gaining weight, still. And hubby is losing weight on  what we're eating. The bum. I'm up 28 lbs by the MW's scale, 24 by mine. First two pregnancies I ate for 2 and ate pies for 8. (perfected my apple pie recipe at that time in my life). Now, I'm eating healthy, appropriate portions, homemade foods, limited processed foods, skipping dessert and wham-bam-here comes the weight. My ankles aren't swollen, so it's not that. Is it possible this is because I'm a lot older this time around? Or, more likely, I have some hidden calories that I'm not counting in the mix. I guess it's good for hubby, last time around he kept up with me on the weight gain. I gained over 50lbs both times, or at least I didn't look at the scale after that point, but the big weight came on later in the pregnancy than this time around. 

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Melany, Me too. Last time I weighed in 3 weeks ago, I had gained 8 lbs in a month. DH hid my scale so I don't weigh myself anymore. Only when I go the MW. But I am thinking about avoiding those as well since I feel really depressed each time I find out that walking every day and eating to hunger aren't enough to keep my weight gain moderate. I know a lot of people say not to worry about it, but most of those people (in my experience) aren't big gainers, so it's very hard to swallow any advice from them. They don't know what it's like. I gained 70 lbs. with my last baby. 50 lbs with my first. 

 

So, I am a big gainer. I don't know what will happen with this pregnancy and I am trying not to care. I have lost the weight twice, so I feel pretty sure I can do it again. I think it is important not to trade sweets for stress, meaning if I am feeling anxiety over my weight gain it is just as unhealthy for me and babe (and can increase weight gain and fat retention) as eating the damn treat on Friday. I'd rather have the cookie and feel guilt free! 

 

I also tell myself (frequently) that I am a good mother no matter what I gain, and I am doing great. 

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Writermama, I'm with you on the big gaining! I've lost it twice and even managed to get down below pregnancy weight both times. Perhaps I should take the scale out of the bathroom, too. :) 

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Now there's an idea! I have chocolate mint tea, and I can mix it with RRL tea! Thanks Jodie!

 

That sounds like a fabulous idea. I'm going to have to find myself some chocolate mint tea to mix with the RRL. :)

 

I hear you ladies on the weight gain. I think I've managed to slow my progressive gain, but I still obsessively weigh myself. After being told I should only gain 25 lbs, having gained 14 of that already has me totally freaked out. I didn't hardly gain anything with my first pregnancy (and actually finished with a net loss), so I don't know if this is supposed to just be normal for me, right now, or if I still, somehow, need to cut back on what and how much I'm eating.

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