Dannic-- I completely agree about baby gear. You'll find this funny....the only reason I mentioned trying to avoid gear is only b/c I hate to waste money on something you only use for several months AND b/c I desparately want my babies to learn to self-soothe in hopes that they'll sleep longer at night. It always comes down to sleep with me... Years ago, when I had my 2nd son, a friend told me to avoid baby gear for that very reason. She had a highchair (that reclined) in the kitchen and that is the only thing other than a crib that she used. I took her advice b/c her babies slept amazingly well. Looking back though, I should have reallllly thought hard, before I took her advice, b/c she formula fed, put her babies in a crib in a separate room from birth, and let them cry.... Why the @$%$ did I listen to her?? I just really liked her- I guess that's why.
I think that you have to do what is best for you and for your family and for your marriage!! DH said it best when he stated "I have to save you from yourself" when he begged my to let him buy formula. Luckily he is only needing one bottle of formula/day right now. I am trying to eat as many calories as possible, but am nauseous and not hungry. And then he gets to have breast milk that is loaded with Emergent C, antibiotics, and 600 mg of advil at times...
Hoping and praying I don't have a breast abscess. I was sobbing all morning in fear that I was developing one b/c I have a hardened mass (not a lump) where the red splotches were. I was researching on the internet, and I insisted DH take our older boys to church b/c they wanted to go and they have had a crappy Thanksgiving vacation since I have been sick...but, I let my imagination run wild and imagined the abscess rupturing... Ironically, the friend I mentioned above had this happen with her 1st son and she was hospitalized when he was a newborn. That is why she formula fed all 4 of her children. Anyway...my fever is down in the 99s, so surely that means I am getting better and not developing an abscess. I will call my mw tomorrow.
Oh- and we are still co-sleeping b/c of the sickness. DH starts out co-sleeping in the spare bedroom and then brings him to me when it is time for him to nurse. I sleep with him the rest of the night. It helps me get more sleep so far.
Sorry for all of the complaining...I just know that all of you will be encouraging, so I am "using" you for support.