Anyarose, it's completely understandable to feel tired, overwhelmed and like you have to appear strong and perfect at mothering, I think we've all felt this way to some degree. It's hard having people around when the baby is fussy and just wants to nurse and sleep in short segments. And it's hard caring for the baby yourself 24-7! Give yourself a big pat on the back and know that you have nothing to prove, you've already proven it! I felt a lot of what you've described and getting together with my friend who has a baby just a month older than James really helped- she was going through everything I was and we laughed so hard sharing stories, so rejuvenating! Regarding let down, we had the same problem except that it would be painful of he was nursing a lot - my LC suggests latching sitting up then leaning back into a semi-reclined position and that helped a lot, whether it's ok for Nico to just take the nipple I'm not sure. I read somewhere that it's like them drinking from a bent or crimped straw.
Mole, so glad to hear about the weight gain and new nurse! I haven't tried to ride my bike yet (no time!) but at five weeks pp and what felt like a long recovery stitches-wise I finally feel that I could ride, but not more than about 15 minutes or so and I wouldn't want to have too many groceries in my backpack! The 'seam' where I had stitches is still tender after prolonged contact like a stone bench or something.
Jend, love love love the image of several women all nursing under the oak tree!
Hyde, I'm so with you on the choke the girlfriend! Between houseguests and my mom on the telephone I am just SICK of people telling me what I should and shouldn't be doing and what is right for my baby! It's amazing that one of the most trying things about having a baby had been dealing with the total bullsh&t that everyone IRL besides my DH is spewing at the moment!! Wow I sound so bitter and angry! I'm actually not, it's just that i can really relate! Hope it goes better with your guests than it has for me.
Moto, you're awesome! Love the pic. I'm impressed that you can nurse Hank and leave the house for a couple hours to have dinner with friends. I never really know how long DS will sleep after nursing so I'm hesitant to go anywhere for long. You seem so good at balancing his needs and yours.
Re weight, like nuku I was up 10-12 lbs from 1 day pp and it hasn't budged at all. I look normal except just a bit chubbier - and I'm totally fine with it except that none of my jeans fit so I have nothing to wear and it's causing me some difficulty when I want to leave the house. Yoga pants are tough to pull off here, it's cold and people dress more formally. Normally if I'd gained weight I would wear dresses with leggings and boots until I fit into my jeans again, but with breast feeding that's out. I haven't actually tried to lose weight yet diet-wise but I have been walking a lot because the baby just sleeps the entire time we walk, so if I need a break I walk with him.
Well it's 2:30 in the morning here, baby's done nursing and is snoring on my chest