It's been kind of funny for me. I had an unplanned UC in 2010 (and HBA3C) when my labor went so quickly the midwife didn't make it. It was fantastic!
Now I'm pregnant again, after two early second trimester losses, in a new location with virtually no options for VBAC. There aren't midwives willing to travel to me (the closest one is 4 hours away) and there are no docs willing to do a VBAC. The funny thing about it, is that my husband has been more supportive and more comfortable with the whole idea of a UC than I thought he would be or even I was at first. My biggest concern this time is that after both of my recent losses (at 14 and 15 weeks), I had retained placenta and hemorrhage that required surgical intervention. I know it's fairly normal for early losses like that, and really with one it was more that the placenta had detached but couldn't come out because my cervix had already closed down. So I'm trying to make peace with that.
I do have some questions though...
What do you have on your recommended reading list? For moms? For dads?
I've read a lot about different herbs but I'm having trouble really sorting it all out and narrowing it down. What are some must haves?
As a previous c/s mom, I would like to have one sono just for placenta placement. Are there resources out there rather than having to establish and then stop care with an MD? We don't currently have a family doc because we just moved.
Did you or would you have a "cheat sheet" for dad, like things to monitor/watch for, what to do afterwards etc? (I'm a huge planner kind of person and know that right after baby is born I won't be in "manager" mode)
Is there a good resource for finding out how to get the BC? (I know probably the most common question ever). We are in Kansas. I've been to their vital stats website and can't find anything helpful.
What other advice or resources would you have for us?
Thanks in advance!