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post #21 of 34

We start bedtime around 7:30 and they are usually in bed with stories finished by 8, they are 5 and 8. They do often have an audio book playing after that, but even DD has a "lights out" of 8:30.

 

They do tend to be up early, they were pottering around their rooms at 5:30 this morning! but moving bedtime later doesn't seem to change that so early bedtimes work here.

post #22 of 34

My DD (4 1/2) is typically in bed by 7:30/7:45 (the very earliest is 7) and usually takes 30 min-60 min to actually fall asleep, so she isn't typically asleep until 8 or 8:30 p.m.. Lately though she has been more tired due to pre-school and full days, so she's in bed by 7:15 and asleep by 7:45. That is BEST case scenario. She wakes up around 7:30-8 a.m. in the morning. 

post #23 of 34

A lot of late bedtimes here, perhaps because mostly SAHM responded?

 

Kids (5,3) read stories at 6:30 for awhile and hope to have them asleep by 7:30. They wake up at 6:30 most days for 11 hours of sleep.

post #24 of 34

8 PM is lights out, and he still naps pretty much every day.  He's an early bird too, and usually gets up at 6 AM or even earlier.  (And who are these kids who sleep in on the weekends, and where can I get one?  lol.gif )

 

I'm starting to see a bit of a shift, as in, he's often still awake when I sneak in to check on him at 9 PM, but since he's still a hard core napper and starting regular school next year (no naps), I'm hesitant to change our schedule only to change it back again...

post #25 of 34

i am not even sure if i should post here.

 

dd is now 10.

 

from birth to Kindergarten - dd went to bed anytime between midnight and 2 am. as a baby she had her last 2 am BIG feed and then really went to sleep for 3 or 4 hours. i was lucky dd was in afternoon K so we didnt have to be at school till 11 am.

 

by K dd was going to bed mostly around 10 - 11 pm. by first it was 8 so she'd be able to calm down and sleep by 9/9:30.

 

today in 5th grade we have the same routine. in bed by 8 or that child will not calm down. at 8 in bed reading, or me reading to her or us chatting. but on the weekends and holidays its again midnight.

 

she is a nightowl. when she goes to bed late, she used to get up late. but in teh last couple of years instead of getting up at 7 am she gets up at 6 some mornings. if she is up that early she has to go to bed early that evening.

 

yeah its complicated. she is a professional sleep fighter.

post #26 of 34

we're readjusting for daylight savings- but bedtime around here is mostly 7:30 for all 4 kids (1 1/2, 3, 4 1/2, and 6 1/2).  Sometimes the 6 1/2 year old gets to stay up later and help clean the kitchen or watch baseball or just hang out, but he's often the first asleep.  they're usually asleep (after chattering and singing and sneaking out a few times) by 8:30.  since they all wake up together in the morning around 6:30 or 7 regardless of bedtime, this is the only way for them all to be ready to face the day.  i'd like them to sleep in longer, but later nights have not helped (we have 2-3 nights a week where people are up til 8/8:30, but everyone is usually crashing over themselves and into things, and it actually feels cruel to keep them up like that!)

 

add to this that we have a mandatory naptime from 1-3 every afternoon (the 4 1/2 year old naps 3-4x a week) and we're getting a good amount of sleep around here.  

 

husband has odd hours and travels, so having enough time for mama to NOT be on duty and also to rest, as well as getting my 2 introverts quiet time and my one extrovert especially some alone time is key for us to all get along and enjoy each other. 

post #27 of 34

my 4 yo goes to bed between 7-8, and is up between 6-6:30 everyday (no matter when he goes to bed).

 

my 2 yo goes to bed around 10 if he has a nap, and is up between 7-8 in the morning. No nap and he's in bed by 6, up between 6-7. The early schedule is much more prefferable to me..  

post #28 of 34
My 4.5yr old goes to bed around 8:00 and wakes up around 7:00.
post #29 of 34
my 4 yr old (in full day kgarten) goes to bed at 9:30P and wakes at 7:30A.
post #30 of 34

Great to read this thread - I was feeling like a bad parent for letting my almost 5 yo stay up until 9-9:30, although we shoot for 8:30.  She's a trooper, once in bed, she will NOT get up, she is down for the night.  When lights are out, except hallway light, she knows I'm done.  Sometimes for a treat, we both snuggle up and might sleep on the couch for the night.

 

Counting my blessings again for my daughter who goes to bed with a minimum of fuss.  If she tries to resist, all I have to say:  "I love you, but I don't want to argue"

 

That said, from age 1 - 3, she was 7pm, regardless.

 

I remember as a kid going to bed about 7 until school age, but then again, maybe it's because there were 4 of us and my parents needed some breathing space.

post #31 of 34
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i am not even sure if i should post here.

dd is now 10.

from birth to Kindergarten - dd went to bed anytime between midnight and 2 am. as a baby she had her last 2 am BIG feed and then really went to sleep for 3 or 4 hours. i was lucky dd was in afternoon K so we didnt have to be at school till 11 am.

by K dd was going to bed mostly around 10 - 11 pm. by first it was 8 so she'd be able to calm down and sleep by 9/9:30.

today in 5th grade we have the same routine. in bed by 8 or that child will not calm down. at 8 in bed reading, or me reading to her or us chatting. but on the weekends and holidays its again midnight.

she is a nightowl. when she goes to bed late, she used to get up late. but in teh last couple of years instead of getting up at 7 am she gets up at 6 some mornings. if she is up that early she has to go to bed early that evening.

yeah its complicated. she is a professional sleep fighter.

I know this post is old, but I'm glad you contributed because its the only one that sounds like my dd. She's just 3 now and has recently started preschool, which is shaking everything up a bit.

She dropped naps early on in favor of getting a solid 12-13 hours at night, and on top of that she has always been a night owl--we're talking bedtime between 1 and 2 am most nights and sleeping til 1 or 2 in the afternoon.

Right before preschool started (and a big reason that we decided to start her this early) she started waking up around 8 or 9 am and going down around 11, which is only 9 hours of sleep. So naps have spontaneously reappeared, but we are having a tough time getting her on a regular nap schedule. It's like she still resists them. If i can get her down between 1 and 3 it's a good day. She naps 2-3 hours and still goes to be "on time." Anything later than that pushes her bedtime back and makes for a rough morning.

We are on Spring break now but trying to maintain that same routine, and really working to make nap time more regular.
post #32 of 34

When DD was 4 I basically let her sleep when she was tired. She was on my schedule more than anything. She's 7 now and bed time is very strictly 8:30pm. She wakes up at 7:30am for school, and if she gets to bed even a half hour past her bed time we all feel it in the morning. DS is almost 3 and he's in bed usually by 9/9:30. He sleeps in until about 8am and also takes a 1-2 hour nap in the afternoon.

post #33 of 34

My 4 year old is in bed by 8, asleep either pretty immediately or within 30 minutes or so. She wakes up at 7-7:30 in the morning, 6:30 on the days that I work. 

post #34 of 34
My 4 and 3 y/o get ready for bed around 7:30(bath, teeth brushing, pj's, etc.) and are usually in their beds by 8-8:30. Thursday is our late night, DD has gymnastics from 6:45-7:45 and we aren't home until 8ish. Usually the kids are up until 10 easily on Thursday night. My DS always wakes up at 7 if not earlier, DD usually wakes up 30 min-1 hour after he does, even though she's the older one, she needs more sleep to function.

We don't have a bedtime routine for our newborn. I'm hoping to have her in bed by 7:30(right before we start big kid bedtime) in the next few months, but with on demand nursing, I know that may not be likely lol
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